I can't talk about this subject without being angry?

[Anonymous]

I am meeting with my boyfriend of a year who said we were on a "break" a month ago and ghosted me. During that time he hungout with this girl that during our relationship I told him he cannot talk to or we are done. They have done sexual things before and she sent me an extremely disrespectful text (disrespecting me and my boyfriend) 6 months ago. He wants to talk tomorrow (likely about getting back together). I really need either him to confess to me he saw her or I need to bring it up and clarify that if we do get back together he needs to cut her off permanently and he will not be going on "breaks" to talk to her every now and then if thats why he did this. His response to those needs is the deciding factor that is gonna make or break his chance of getting back together with me. The problem is this is his first relationship and he has a strong "fighting = broken relationship" thinking. And unfortunately I cannot bring up this topic without being mad and fighting about it. I was thinking of typing everything I want to say on a paper a bringing it with me and then being like "I don't know how to talk about this without fighting and I don't want to fight so please read this" and hand it to him. Would this be a good idea or weird/too much drama? Any other ideas? I just feel like if I bring it up by talking about it that it will lead to a negative conversation/fighting and I won't say the right things on the spot.

Give him the typed paper

Read the typed paper to him

Talk about it like normal even if it causes fighting

[ohsheeT]

No don't type. It

This is not about him when you meet up first it's about you

And who you are going to be
First of all you can tell anyone what they can do or don't do
But mo matter what you say it's going to be there choice

So you. Need. To tell. Him. What your going to do and what he makes you feel like and that with the choices he make. Will determine what you're going to do

I know you like him love him but you have to like love yourself more and you half to respect yourself and say I'm not that girl that will stand by you and watch you do this to me. You have boundaries that you would not cross if I got another guy was in the picture , so you expect the same from him

But once you lose control and start yelling inviting , you lost everything

You have to be strong and in control of yourself at all times that way he knows you mean business true love and passion needs to be in control of your self to get your point across

And if he wants to get angry or bit l shape are starch. Yelling or fighting with you. That's just another way to divert everything

And there's no reason in this world to get upset to get angry at a guy or anyone that cannot hear your words and respect you for your words.. out of control is a diversion be in control be in the moment.

If you hear him say something that is a manipulation, call him on it.
You need to say no no no That's a manipulation do not go there

Tell him what kinda man your looking for so you can hear who you are

Any man says that he has to take a break in his lasted. This long it's not

Is a cop out. When you are a couple when you are in love, you deal with it right then and there. So you've given him a lot of room but in that room.
You gave him just enough rto show you who each really is

And the things that he did in this month's time

The odds are\nIs that he didn't see her
Weather, he tells you the truth or not that's on him. The truthful will always come out

If I was in your shoes and this was happening to me. I would have already walked away

But that's me love is powerful when you love someone
But it's even more powerful when the love for yourself has confidence and wisdom to say sorry , it's not for me gotta go

You are at a fork in the road. This is gonna define who you are , which path you take

[Flower7]

Just break up…