How has dating changed over the years? Do you think it is now more difficult?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I’d say it’s harder, I mean I’ve never had a boyfriend let alone a guy approach me or compliment me.

even if I’ve walked into a store and a group of guys are in front of me none of them will even hold the door open.

i wouldn’t say that I’m not attractive, but I’ve been told I look too young to date. I’m 23, but I guess that’s what happens when you aren’t destroying your face with makeup to look older than you actually are.
I mean dating apps are really just used for hook ups, and majority of men are just jerks looking to have sex. The good ones get snapped up, and I won’t say by who because it might offend some people but it’s definitely not the poc.
Some Guys will claim that there are no “good” girls anymore, but continue to reject girls who are just because they aren’t 10/10’s to show off to there friends.
Some women claim there are no “good” guys either yet they do the same. But one thing I will point out is I’ve seen VERY unattractive men with very pretty women, it’s there choice but it’s sad because they could definitely do better but if there happy then so be it.

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

I haven’t participated in that mess for a very long time. I wonder if today’s getting-to-know-eachother stage begins with, “Are you a boy or a girl?”

slatyb · Accepted Answer

I think it´s far easier. I was divorced some years ago in Dallas with few social connections. I joined Match and searched for dates online. I was rather particular, searching for a secular woman of some intelligence and approximately my age. Younger would have been ok, but few younger women were interested in dating someone my age. Also I had no interest in starting a new family. So there were relatively few women who were interesting, and I never would have met them otherwise.

Some people complain that it´s too easy to find dates online, and people are consequently reluctant to commit. That may be true, but it´s better than committing because no one else is available.

Finchie40 · Answer

People tend to have higher standards and preferences of what they will accept and not accept , so I would say it’s harder

HighValue · Answer

Men have more conservative (good) morals on average, and women have more liberal (morally corrupt) morals on average, at least in the USA. Moral incompatibility is the main reason so many people stay single now. Also, if you do find someone you are compatible with, it would be best if you both agree to not have smart phones at all. Prevention of problems can greatly increase the chances of long term success, but most people value their smart phones and access to immoral things far more than anything else in life.

Caughtulookin · Answer

When i was younger it was a one on one thing. Open the door for her and politeness. It turned to a group thing where you aren't on a date unless its a group of friends hanging out together. Everybody sleeps with everyone else until you all find out how sexually compatible you are. Now its all about social media and i haven't a clue how you combine present with past.

I blame all of this on Hugh Hefner and Larry Flynt along with pick and choose your rights for women. It was a slow evolution but i have to say that it falls in line with eating the forbidden fruit. Its all over every religion.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

Dating has changed a lot.

People have more options, but less patience.

Connection is easier to start, harder to keep.

Everyone wants something real, yet everyone is afraid to be the first to show it.

So yes in many ways, it’s more difficult now.

Not because love is harder, but because people guard themselves more than they open up.

OneViewpoint · Answer

It has been much easier for me in my 50’s than it was in my teens and early 20’s.

I’ve changed. Grown. Women have changed.

Other guys around me haven’t kept up. Fitness. Weight. Grooming. Style. Careers. Wealth. Life experience. I get hit on constantly by women 25-55. Sometimes multiple women in one night.

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

It's probably the same as it's ever been, maybe slightly more easier if the matches are real or genuine, on the dating sites and apps. "Not much has changed in 30 years" - Stew/Stu Griffin, The Untold Story of Stewie Griffin episode/s quote in the future scene

Anonymous · Answer

No. If anything it's infinitely easier. Once you get over 40 the power dynamics change. Before 40 men want to date women and women having a majority of the power can take or leave a guy. After 40 this flips and women want to date but men not really wanting to date women over 40 can take or leave them. So after 40 a guy can just sit back and women will come to you and you can just accept or decline. I wish it had been this easy in my youth.😆

Anonymous · Answer

dating has never really been very easy here as i've mostly lived in a smaller city of 20,000 , in an area that size is never really many dating options and singles scene generally small.

online dating had given some people hope years ago although not really sure if those sites are still as popular or useful as they were before

Steve-the-lion · Answer

I would say it's a lot more difficult to have long term relationships. Women tend to get bored quickly and are usually the ones to end relationships. These days it seems most people, especially women, just want a short term thrill or pleasure, and when they get bored, they just move onto something else.

beenherebefore · Answer

Nowadays seems easier to find someone but more challenging to find a good one. Because of dating apps you no longer need to leave your house to find someone whilst in the past men and women would have to go to bars or clubs to meet each other.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

It’s difficult. Especially when people confuse looking for a connection and getting to know each other without a real intention or goal in mind is wasting another’s time.

exitseven · Answer

The internet has made it easier to have a huge dating pool.
however it makes it hard because of all the dishonesty out there and the big expectations.
Then there is all the long distance relationships which are trainwrecks in the making.

genericname85 · Answer

i think dating changes less over the years than you change over the years. do dating becomes different cause you become different not cause dating fundamentally changes. though dating sites sure were a massive game changer.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is easier now than ever before. It has to be; people have so many options nowadays.

DailyFairy · Answer

Actually it is. Majority aren't serious and thinking that even make it worse for those who wants serious relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes people rush. Character ia not important. Trouble? Then they run away. Thinking there are so much more fishes in the sea...

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Social media made people entitled and self centered

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

It’s without question more difficult than ever. Things like social media and hook up culture have caused this. I can’t believe that there’s actually people on this tread saying that it’s easier nowadays. Wow 🤣 unbelievable stupidity

Shan16 · Answer

I would say it is more difficult, hookup culture is a big thing now. I myself have struggled to find someone who genuinely wants a relationship

Crankor · Answer

People put way less effort into a relationship anymore. They treat dating like a conveyor belt

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

MUCH MORE DIFFICULT because both sexes are often into, as Foreigner sang in 1979," Head Games."

msc545 · Answer

For the most part, women who don't want to be asked out act like someone who who has asked them out is trying to assault them

Anonymous · Answer

It's been very difficult since I actually wanted to.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Way easier now than 20+ years ago. So many more options

noohair · Answer

Social Media has ruined dating and marriage.

blackeagle007 · Answer

People no longer take initiative. Plain and simple

Anonymous · Answer

Lol at people saying it's easier. There are literal women having break downs over how shit dating is in 2025. In addition, less people are getting married, less men are approaching women and less children are being born.

MasterKS · Answer

Its more easy, no more funny things stuck like, i am religious, sex after marriage, use condom, no casual sex.

Anonymous · Answer

I never had a date, so it was always difficult for me.

jazzy34 · Answer

Seems like it’s becoming all about dating apps.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have never found it especially difficult.

In_Trance · Answer

It's easier now than ever before

khyalove11 · Answer

Yes it’s more difficult now

Sebastian100 · Answer

Yes and yes. Most people only want to hookup now

Nice222 · Answer

I wouldn’t even know where to start these days.

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