Have you ever run into someone you ghosted or date ditched or vice versa? Did you confront them/apologize/or walk the other way?

[Anonymous]

[DishLady]

I ran into a guy who ghosted me twice in my life. Both times I ignored him and he came running to chat me up and test the waters. Both times they tried to reconnect for a longer association. The first one I only text "Happy Bday" on his bday now. The second one actually lives in the same place as I do, so it's a little more complicated to fully avoid him.

[Buckhunter234]

I had a girl from tender invite me to a bar she worked at to go on a date after her shift just to have her not even speak to me not even to say hello and then ditched me after she got off, so a few moths later I saw her profile on another dating site and decided to get even so I catfished her with a pic of some buff dude and ended up getting a date, and I showed up dressed like the pic below. Needless to say she was pissed, screamed at me that I was an asshole and psychotic, it was so funny and satisfying

[RxR0954]

Why would you even humiliate yourself like that?

[Buckhunter234]

@RxR0954 I don’t get embarrassed cause iv never cared what other peoples opinions are about my personal style or what i look like, 2nd as I said before it was exciting knowing that she was sitting at the restaurant waiting and expecting to see some really in shape big muscled man come in and instead she gets a chubby guy, the look on her face when she recognized me and how pissed she got made it all worth it

[Twodogs0525]

Twice. I didn't intentionally ghost them, I lost their phone number! The one girl totally understood and gave me another shot. Her and I actually dated for just under a year.

The other girl wasn't nasty about it but basically let me know I wasn't gonna get a second chance.

[Asker]

I don't think I would count it so much as ghosting if it was done unintentionally, I mean clearly it worked out with the first girl!

[Twodogs0525]

I get what what you're saying but the second girl thought I was lying when I told her I lost her number, so, she felt like I ghosted her. I did feel bad, because I don't play games and I was worried she would tell others that I ghosted her but I don't think she did. We remained friendly a bit after all this happened lol

[Asker]

You can't feel bad about something that you didn't do to intentionally wrong someone but I get the worry about her telling people she thought you did because it can poisons someone's view of you before you've had the chance to show them who you are.

[Wuai201]

Yep, but I don't think I was important enough to matter because they ask me out again and then I say no again. Other times they know they messed up and I was not impressed, so I go on about my day. They either try to avoid me or talk to me and I act normal. If they ask again I say no.

[Asker]

That's wild to intentionally ghost someone and then be like, hey you want another shot with me? I'm with you...uh, no, why the heck would anyone?

[Summeroflove]

The opposite and it’s not worth my time. If you’re that big of a coward unless I have a good reason to talk to you.. You did me a favor nor wasting my time

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Yeah, I’ve run into someone I’d quietly faded from before.

And honestly, I kept it simple.

If the vibe felt neutral, I’d give a quick smile, maybe a small “hey.”

If it felt tense, I’d keep it respectful and move on.

People change, situations change.

No need for drama just handle it with calm and maturity.

[melanieeeB]

Yeah a few times and I don't care, I walk past them like I don't know them and if it went apart in a good way, I say hi and keep walking.. with one, he talked to me and I told him that I don't wanna have a conversation with him and he then tried to provoke me and I ghosted him in real life right there on the spot lol

[Sal_Monella]

I am prehistoric. Last march, my high school girlfriend, now widowed, found and called me 57 years after she cheated and ghosted me. She was either looking to reconnect or for forgiveness. I did neither. I dismissed her behavior as youthful human nature and told her that politely. She will never know that her behavior shaped the next decades of my life. For me back then, it was as bad as my mother's death

[Asker]

Awe, I'm sorry to hear that. Never let them see you sweat though, right? It's kind of like the bully in school thing. I would never forgive a bully, but I also don't want to be friends even if they did apologize because the me that needed that, was like 30 years ago.

[Sal_Monella]

I, fat kid, mother just died, was bullied in the school yard. I jumped the bastard, took him down like WWE and beat him almost to death. Concussion. He did not recover completely by the end of the school year. He never caught my eye again.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

I did. I encounter this situation a lot.. mostly from the guys that asked me out and I never replied or gave a wrong number. So I would consider myself an expert brisk walker (away from them). 😆

[Asker]

Do you ever feel bad about it, or do you sleep just fine at night?

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

I kind of feel bad. But I'd always like to think they'll find someone else eventually. :)

[Ironco]

After I've been rejected and have let time pass, I usually will attempt to say hello and how are you doing.

If they are responsive great, if not there is nothing I can do.

I'll leave the door open for communication, but I won't force someone to respond, that's up to them.

[Noredcarpet]

I pretend you're a ghost, can't see you. I would not bother doing anything else, it is no use and only waste my energy that I can use for better things and other people who know how to treat me right.

[PeachyPie93]

Nah.. no one ever ghosted me but they did cancel dates with me.. The few losers I talked to on an app have all discussed whats up and we went our separate ways lol. I highly doubt I would see the 3 of them ever out in the world lol

[Nikki1989]

Yes, but it was never awkward. Luckily, men I have dated have never been that immature.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

No actually. If I did I just carry on like I don’t know them.

[Asker]

I wonder if people who ghost even care or remember the people they ghosted. I feel like some probably do it so much, they don't even know who's who anymore enough to care if they ran into you again.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

People who ghost lack respect/accountability in some aspect of life. I knew a guy that was non-confrontational, I told him he didn’t have to ghost me it takes nothing to say I’m not interested because we have different life goals. It’s just immature and manipulative otherwise and don’t attempt to talk to me when you feel like it. It was like he didn’t know he could say that. His answer was:” I ghost people when I don’t know what to do with them.” Some do some don’t. I had a guy ghost me and look me dead in the face and proceed to walk past me because he thought I’d make it awkward. I don’t know who these people have dealt with but I know me personally I don’t care that much and just pretend to not know them.

[Asker]

I think if it's as you describe, those people are CLEARLY not worth your energy. What bothers me is these will be the same ones that hop online or have conversations with friends about how horrible the dating scene is and how badly they've been treated, yet, what are they doing? How are you treating people like that yet demanding that you be treated well by everyone else? Walk on by and you ignore them is right!

[Zionne]

Yeah, that can be super awkward. Most people just do the polite “hey, long time” and move on, but if the vibe’s right, a quick apology can actually clear the air and make things less weird.

[RxR0954]

Tbh i probably wouldn’t even remember who they are if i did that.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Yea I did. I never spoke to them again. Even if they reach out, I just ignore them

[jahaims]

I'm not immature so I have never ghosted anyone.

[Anonymous]

Nope, never have.

[Asker]

Which one, you never confronted someone who did this to you, or you were never confronted by someone you did it to? Or both?

[Opinion Owner]

Both.

[Sexiness1]

That happened to me occasion too

[Asker]

What did you do?

[Sexiness1]

I turn around and walk the other way. It would be too difficult to apologize or trying to explain what was wrong. How did you handle yours

[Sexiness1]

You can follow me

[Asker]

I've never ghosted anyone but have been ghosted. I sort of agree that it would be too awkward on both ends, but I mean, by ghosting you run the risk that you may run into them again in a capacity where you can't just ignore them.

[Dreamclouds]

Dhe has such interesting haircut

[Sebastian100]

I never do that so never had a problem with it

[Tacoslover]

Yes but I just walked passt em🤷‍♀️

[HighSchoolCustodian]

If I do I just move on they aren't worth my time.

[Anonymous]

Once

[Opinion Owner]

Actually twice now that i think about it