It's not really cheating but kinda is?

[nik_the_cur]

When your girlfriend breaks up with you to start dating her friend she liked. Immediately start talking to you about reconnecting and getting back together, while still dating her friend. Also telling both men that this is not serious and she is not committed

[PeachyPie93]

Never waste time on someone who makes you an option when you were committed.. let them fall when the guy she likes decides to leave her too..

[nik_the_cur]

Yeah I think I was taken for granted a lot in that relationship

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah it sounds like she did but if I was you I would look for someone else.

[nik_the_cur]

I kinda found someone yeah

[PeachyPie93]

That's a good thing :)

[juliammm]

@nik_the_cur If you were taking her commitment for granted, then she did not cheat on you. You made the mistake of not clarifying explicitly the nature of your relationship.

[nik_the_cur]

I feel my commitment was taken for granted, not the opposite

[Nikki1989]

That is emotional cheating, which for many people is even worse than doing the physical.

[nik_the_cur]

How she should've behaved? She claimed she only loved me, but this time we are not together

[nik_the_cur]

I only want to understand her/empathize and forgive her

[In_Trance]

It's not cheating but it is mentally retarded.
Stop interacting with retards

[nik_the_cur]

That's one way to put it

[juliammm]

Cheating is about lying and deciding to go against a commitment.

So if there are no lies or no clear explicit commitment made, then it cannot be cheating.

Also, too many people are assuming that commitment to exclusivity is implicit. I don't think it is. Such an important commitment must be explicit.

[nik_the_cur]

Isn't there a thing like "emotional cheating"? I mean we broke up, bit she kept talking to me, saying we should get back together, while sleeping with someone else. All within a month after we broke up

[Abbycado]

That’s definitely cheating. Emotional cheating is a thing.

[nik_the_cur]

Even though she claimed it's not committed? Also I was in a relationship with her for almost 3 years

[Flower7]

Don’t date someone who is close “friends” with people of the opposite gender.

[nik_the_cur]

She had MANY close friends of the opposite gender

[Flower7]

Even worse.

[nik_the_cur]

Is it really likely that she has cheated before because of that?

[Flower7]

Being surrounded by options creates a higher probability of cheating. Spending time with them, sharing secrets, etc.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I believe it is.

[nik_the_cur]

Sure feels like it

[Staximus]

Run you fool

[nik_the_cur]

Huge red flag right?

[Staximus]

That girl is Satan

[nik_the_cur]

Haha I bet. All happened within a month after breakup