Do guys not want nice good girls as a girlfriend? Do only club bad girls with tatttoos get a boyfriend?

Question

I never had a boyfriend and I’m 28. I been told by both woman and men I’m too nice, sweet and quiet.
ate girls asholes with men they like?
of I try be a bitch no guy likes me.
and I have a baby voice so that’s another reason people call me sweet cute sweetheart.
I don’t look 28 I been told I look 20-21.

i do have 3 tattoos. My family are all married expect for me. They would say men only want good girls as a girlfriend.
on dating apps boys all say they had comited relationships & girls go to clubs and cheat on them.
and I don’t cheat and I don’t go to clubs and I have no boyfriend.
I do like sex so do guys think a quiet girl is someone that don’t want sex? That’s not true.

im not chatty my life is boring I have no fun stories im an introvert have no sisters no cousins , I just have a mom and that’s it. Never been pregnant so no babies of my own talk to.
I haven’t had sex in 3 years as I can’t find a boyfriend , no guy is living with me having sex daily with me. I’m blonde skinny and short.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Sigh.

"Club bad girls" get banged a lot, but they rarely get boyfriends, and the ones who do rarely get great guys as boyfriends. It might look like it on the outside, but those "relationships" rarely last a year. Yes, those girls get tons of ATTENTION, because they go out seeking attention, and are willing to use their sexuality to get that attention. So, they get the attention, and lots of casual sex, but rarely do they actually have someone who cares about them. Most men consider such women to be "for recreational use only."

That said, you have a couple of problems to overcome. I'll start with the ones that YOU control or are/were your responsibility.

1. The tattoos. Most guys don't want girls with tattoos as serious relationships. Many will lie and say otherwise, but most don't (of course, there are exceptions). Many if not most guys see girls with tattoos as "only good for casual sex." Thus, they are going to disqualify you for a lot of guys who might otherwise have seen you as "girlfriend potential." I strongly advise you not to get any more.

2. Most men want a girl who is FEMININE (NOT Feminist). I don't know you at all so I have no idea which of these, if any, apply to you, so I'm making a generalization here. Men generally want all-natural women, meaning no fake nails, lip fillers, implants, fake eyelashes, or wild colored hair. If you look at most women who are married, you'll notice that, on average, they look FAR more like a classic "girl next door" than they do a stripper or club girl. That's not a coincidence.

3. Your resume (your education, your degrees, your career, your income, your status) means either zero, or is a negative, to a man. Men assign these zero value, because they don't benefit us in any way. Never, ever make the mistake of thinking that these things add value to you on the relationship market - they don't. What men value is: youth (which is closely tied to fertility), innocence, a LACK of experience, friendliness, femininity, fitness (read: don't be fat), cooperation, respect, and appreciation. Can and will you be part of the team, rather than just out for yourself?

Now, the part that probably isn't your fault, but you still have to deal with and suffer for, because of OTHER WOMEN: women (in general) have spent the last 30-40 years using men for their money and resources and then leaving them and taking the house, the money, and the kids. They've also told men that they didn't need them, and that they were creeps (unless they were ultra-Chads), and to leave them alone. Oh, and that they wanted to be treated as equals. This has caused most of the men you are looking for - not the ultra-Chads, but the more average good guys who actually want a relationship and a family - to retreat from the dating world entirely. They would rather be lonely than deal with most women today, who tend to be feminists and insufferable. This means you're going to have to work hard to even FIND these guys in the first place (most of them mostly stay at home when they aren't working), and when you do, you're going to have to be the very model of a soft-spoken, friendly, feminine woman, or they are going to ignore you.

The problem is almost certainly not your looks, and likely not your voice (though, for some, maybe that's an issue), but is far more likely to be your "look", your attitude, and your behavior - all things you can adjust.

What's the ideal look? Probably the all-natural girl with long hair, wearing a sun dress. Or the college coed, but a heavily feminine version of that. The look is absolutely NOT the club chick, unless you just want to be banged over the hood of a car and left there.

I didn't write this all out to attack or be mean to you, but to hopefully open your eyes and brain and get you on the right track so that you can succeed. You have more going for you than you think, but there are a few obstacles that you need to manage to get to the finish line. I hope you do.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

This goes both ways people want their cake and eat it too. People who are genuinely good people who have high morals and standards (that are reasonable and they hold themselves to as well) can seem like assholes.

But see. Men have this idea they can have sex with the sluts, the party girls, the bad girls, etc. But then go marry a virgin and live happily ever after. Women have the idea they can have sex with the fuckboys, bad boys, players, and creeps. But at the end of the day… marry a good man who provides and takes care of her.

What generally happens is that. These two kinds of people meet and get married. Then have affairs on one another. Sometimes these people end up having kids out of wedlock. Then kids in marriages that fail… and end up in a bad situation later in life.

It’s people who just want their cake and eat it too. Who think they can compartmentalize having sex with the degenerates but then marry someone whose the gold standard.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

If you have an annoying voice that could put guys off you.. Also if you are too easy or clingy guys won't like you.. it defo isn't shyness that makes guys not want you since if they are interested they will talk to you regardless..
All I can say is wait for a guy who is willing to break down your walls and don't make it easy for them. A guy who is serious won't be put off real effort but a guy who doesn't actually like you will find effort annoying and not worth his time.

Awesomesauce2005 · Answer

I'm not looking for a girl who is "bad" I'm looking for a traditional woman who isn't overweight and liberal. Having a positive attitude towards life always helps. I've been in one relationship so far and it ended because she didn't want to be traditional.

JuliusCaesarr · Answer

I think you are a very valuable person, don't upset yourself.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Just be yourself. When you least expect it the right guy will enter your life

Staximus · Answer

The last thing I want is a girl that goes to dance clubs

Robertwoody4u2p · Answer

Well lady you sound perfect for me wanna hook up I'll be your boyfriend and lover

DJB72 · Answer

You sound damn neat perfect to me

exitseven · Answer

I always looked for the good girls.

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