Do girl's want nice guys?

[justcurious2019]

i have been told i'm nice

do you girls want nice guys? & girls are any of these memes true?

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+1 y

i have been told that i'm a nice guy by a few girls thats why i asked this question

[Secret6620]

Personally I do. I stopped liking the bad boys in high school. Great question 👌

[justcurious2019]

thank yuo very much

[Secret6620]

Thanks for mho😊

[justcurious2019]

thanks for the great answer👍👍👍

[DizzyDesii]

I like sweet, respectful, goofy and attractive

[justcurious2019]

i like beautiful girls like you

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

I stopped caring about such questions, nice guy/bad boy is a false dichotomy. These terms are usually shorthand for a set of behaviours that go beyond niceness or lack thereof.

I think women are attracted-- broadly speaking-- to men of value. Men who KNOW their unique value, and live in accordance with their strengths.

For example, i believe my value comes down to my intelligence, empathy, loyalty, easygoing nature, thoughtfulness, and curiosity.

Of course i have weaknesses too-- sometimes i can procrastinate or leave important tasks unfinished; i can be anxious and prone to low moods and social withdrawal. But I understand where my value originates, and nobody can take that from me.

Now, I'm usually more "nice" than "bad", so if you wanna be reductionist, you could say I'm a nice guy and be done with your character analysis. But that leaves out so much information about that person.

I think what "bad boys" usually have is social dominance, apathy (which some girls mistake for being "mysterious"), a high sex drive, and an opportunistic nature that detaches sex from morality. The bad boy will cuck an unwitting husband without a second thought, coz the bad boy only cares about sexual gratification, and doesn't much care how his actions affect others. So he will do things to get laid that nice guys would draw the line at. And as a byproduct of this, the bad boy will do the socially dominant moves that turn women on but are considered taboo in polite "nice" society.

Nice guys can learn a thing or two from the bad boys, especially when it comes to the assertive IDGAF attitude and confidence. But long term, going through life without a moral anchor or empathy for others is a recipe for personal disaster. Whats the point of going to the grave with a thousand bedposts notches, yet totally unloved and unmourned?

[silvermoon84]

I’m going to get a lot of hate from men and a lot of blue down votes with this answer, but here it is. The jerks win because they’re elusive with us. We don’t like jerks, but honestly certain “nice” guys think being nice entitles them to sex then throw little shit fits when the woman doesn’t give it to them. These “nice” guys turn out to be jerks as well. Not saying you’re like that, but that’s why the jerks always win.

I’m not telling you to be an asshole. If you’re genuinely a nice guy who treats everyone with respect without any expectations the right woman will appreciate that. Women have these same expectations with guys too and bitch about being the “nice” girl and getting overlooked for trashy girls. It’s equally annoying.

The bitches and jerks present a challenge, and with that challenge also comes the authenticity of knowing where you stand with these people.

[Bluemax]

Might have to disagree with you a bit here. The women I know don't like jerks. Same with the men. They like ATTRACTIVE jerks and bitches. Sometimes.

When was the last time you heard of someone saying, "That ugly jerk? Yeah, he may be a jerk, but Ima go for him because he's a challenge and I know where i stand with him." I've never heard any such thing. I *have* heard, "Yeah, he's a jerk... but he's hawt (or she's a bitch... but she's hawt)"

It seems to me that in virtually all cases of men and women dating jerks, it's because the jerk in question is physically attractive to them, not because of any honesty or knowing where one stands or challenges. Ugly jerks and bitches are overwhelmingly viewed as being jerks and bitches, not challenges.

As a species we give more credit to people who are attractive to us. Are you familiar with the halo effect?

[silvermoon84]

I’m aware of the halo effect however I don’t buy into it. I might consider a man to be physically attractive but I want nothing to do with him if he flat out stinks as a human being. That being said just because it doesn’t work on me doesn’t mean it doesn’t work so I do see your point.

[Izumiblu]

When I hear guys describe themselves as nice I typically think...
passive, soft, shy, overly sensitive , fearful and risk averse... and the result of all that often plays out as boring, always over thinking and in their headspace

I’m fine with nice just not particularly attracted to someone whose primary qualities are as I described

i would look for respectful, considerate, appropriately assertive, adventurous... nice would be one aspect of this guy but not the single word I’d use to describe him. He’s also distinctly not an asshole from my perspective though I reckon some “nice” guys may think he is.

[lightbulb27]

Good grief, keep this up and I'm going to vote for you for President for making too much sense. Well said!
I think it simply as he's confident and has self esteem to be himself.

[sossosxo]

Girls LIKE nice guys. They just won't date them because they're stupid and think dating shitty dudes is fun cause they are influenced by toxic relationships they see all around them. A nice guy consists of an honest person. Girls dont like getting called on their bullshit and since they know "nice guys " aren't on bullshit it's not "fun".
by the way not all females are like this but goddamn a bunch are.

[notatrap]

Damn.. you single?

[notatrap]

😁😁😁

[sossosxo]

No sir am not lol

[lightbulb27]

"girls don't like being called on their bullshit" - are you sure about that? Maybe I read that wrong... girls I've been around seem to appreciate when I see through their facade. Otherwise... well said...

[sossosxo]

@lightbulb27 that's why I said not all females aren't like that but yeah you get the point loool

[Bandit74]

I don't think niceness really counts for all that much on its own. Superficial traits like height, athletic body, aesthetic face have a much stronger correlation with the size of your dating pool than how nice you are does.

The way I see it is if you're average or below average looking no amount of niceness is going to make you as desirable as a hot guy. And if you are a conventionally attractive guy being an asshole isn't going to hurt your chances enough with women to justify trying to become more nice.

So TLDR it doesn't really matter if you are nice or not. What matters is how you look and maybe how entertaining you are to talk to/hang out with.

[Bluemax]

Well, I do think that if you fall into the middle of the bell curve, like most of us, then kindness and character *can* effect how attractive you'll be perceived.

Other than that, I think your observation is spot on. I've always thought you're under appreciated, Bandit.

[Bandit74]

@Bluemax
It can but not enough that you will be perceived as equally as desirable as those on the right end of the attractiveness curve and as far as personality is concerned I think confidence and how entertaining you are has a much stronger stronger impact on your attractiveness than kindness does.

If you say so.

[OonaSFW]

There's difference between nice guys, and niceguys.
The problem is, the line has started to blur between them, since "niceguys" do not realize the fact that they, infact, are everything but nice.

"niceguy" - person who acts nice, untill they get rejected. Then they become the biggest assholes in history.

[OonaSFW]

This is also why there is many niceguy memes, since they always complain how there is nothing wrong with them, its all women's fault.

Aaand why someone describing themself as nice guy raises red flags. At least to me

[crazy8000]

Have seen some of that. they are little to easy to see and kind of creepy.

[GreenPenguin]

100% of the girls that fall in love with me, fall in love because I'm kind, caring and don't show them any romantic or sexual attention unless they show it first.

Be normal, like with guy friends. Showing signs of wanting more may hinder an otherwise perfect friendship. Girls won't drop like flies around you, but some do. And I like to say that only the right ones do (:

[PinkMichae]

Of course we do. We just don't want a guy that does everything for us. We want you to know your value and be your own person.

Plus it can get overwhelming when a man puts more into you than you have to give for him. And the person giving more will eventually become resentful they aren't getting what they give.

Otherwise we want the gentleman that knows how to treat us and love us. Just remember your worth.

[MissGeorgia]

The thing is, everyone can be nice and every can be not so nice.
A girl just wants someone who won't screw her over or treat her like an Idiot.

I dated a so called " bad boy" for three years, but he was never bad to me. We're not together anymore but we've got a little boy, and he and I still get along well. We look out for each other.

Whereas you can meet so called good guys who are low key mean and disrespectful. They just hide it under the guise of being seen as "nice"

[nathanp97]

So basically you want a guy who is nice to you, but will punch someone in the face if they rub him the wrong way? Kidna exaggerating on that though

[MissGeorgia]

@nathanp97 Ha, no. I didn't mean it quite like that.
I meant that we label bad and good. Nice and not so nice, when anyone is can be either. I think that's what I was trying to say.
We can only take people as we find them.

[crazy8000]

Depends on if you mean that creepy person that thing's thay are entitled to get something because they do what they do or a genuine noce person.

The last one.
Yeah.
Female's that have developed past a certain point usually get attracted to it and even sexual attraction.
Those that aren't they are either lower developed or damaged. same thing.

The funny thing is to many have problems to understand what actually sparks female's in different ways.
What we need to do/trigger.
This goes for both genders, not specific to females.
Then you have some extra influenced mental thing's we have put in our minds that influences what and how we should do that makes it to a obstacle course. how many obstacles someone has depends on what the person in question have chosen to put up.

It's a lot of thing's in a multi dimensional chart.

[jennifer_bloom]

i love nice guys as long as they are genuine and not faking it or making it conditional on me doing things for them

[bente2]

A Nice Guy is not the same as a nice guy. You should look into it. Nice Guys think they’re entitled to a girls attention/love/sex because they’re nice: ie they’re not really nice they just want something and pretend to be nice, then get upset when you reject them.

If you’re truly nice for the purpose of being nice and don’t expect anything, girls love that.

[Bluemax]

Men and women alike want people who are attractive to them. I've found that sometimes this can make niceness take a back seat to other considerations. People then misinterpret this as women only want to date jerks.

No, they want to date men they're attracted to.

So the trick is to become attractive to your target sex. Don't just be nice.

[anonbrunette99]

Girls like nice guys. But some girls are just a bit too complicated to go for these types of guys. It’s a shame, they miss out on being treated nice because they are so intrigued by toxicity.

[Lemia]

They way I'm feeling at the moment I feel however nice I have been people are expecting me to be this picture perfect person. I'm sorry if that was the case I wouldn't have the problems i do have.

[DWornock]

All girls want nice guys if they are hot. They are not interested in nice guys if they are not hot.

Super good looking hot guys don't have to be nice because if they snap their fingers, girls will drop their panties. And, since new girls, (girls they haven't fucked) are better than old girls, hot guys find them, fuck them, then dump them for the next pretty girl.

Average looking guys have to be nice guys because otherwise, they have no chance to get a girl.

[EmbraceThePain]

Everyone has a different idea of what a “nice guy” is. When I hear “nice guy” in this context, I believe it is reference to a man who is always saying “yes” to a woman, never disagreeing with her, can’t stand up for himself, etc.

[Fransizca]

Definitely, like bad guy is only an stereotype and honestly I think it’s better that kind of guy you have lots in common, that guy who you are going to learn from and that guy who’s going to be there when u most need it

[Kairose]

I do fahhhh but they dont like me. I get along with boys trust me, its because im a total tomboy they only see me as a mate. Ahahahahahha damn... that hurts

[btbc92]

Be KIND, not NICE. Everybody can be nice, but kindness comes from the heart and not every oxy is a kind person.