Do you believe in dating leagues?

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Do you believe in people being in leagues?

I personally never really did, early teens i wasn’t the prettiest i’d say but i wasn’t ugly. Now I really had a glow up but i’d say the type of girls i am interested in didn’t change. Now I get approached more but it is girls of all ‘leagues’ if you were to believe in it.

I personally think we are all just humans and different people see different things in others. I could really like something about a girl’s look or personality and my friend would totally disagree. People in the same ‘league’ could have different thoughts.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Obviously. Imagine someone obese, will they really be dating that super model who could have anyone? Obviously not.

Girls especially can get a warped self image because men are going to put up with a medicore girl in bed, but not as a long term partner. So girls who are fucking 9's may think they are 9's but in reality they are a 6 and the 9 is bored and leaves her once he moved on to someone else.

Its not about looks exclusively though, you may not be the best looker but be amazing in another way. Maybe you look average or a bit below average and with your great personality you make up for it. Maybe someone seeks someone with a phenomenal personality and no matter how good you look they reject you if you don't have that.

Its not a formal thing. But those who have little to go for them won't be dating people who have a lot going for them. Those people can easily get way better and why settle for the ugly partner with a bad attitude if you can get a pretty partner who brightens up your day?

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Leagues definitely exist, and anyone who thinks otherwise is absolutely delusional. The more intelligent, funny, athletic, kind, physically attractive, good at sex, etc, you are, the more people of the opposite sex you'll naturally attract. Those that are low in most categories are in the lower leagues, and those that are high in most of those categories are in the higher leagues.

I know it's hard for some to accept, but life isn't fair, and people are not born or created equal.

Bolt1104 · Accepted Answer

I don’t really believe in dating league the way people online talk about them. Everyone sees beauty and value differently. What one person finds attractive whether it’s looks, personality, confidence, kindness, humor, or even little quirks someone else might not notice at all. That alone proves that leagues aren’t real they’re just an idea people use to measure themselves or others.

People connect for all kinds of reasons that have nothing to do with being in the same category. Two people can have a strong chemistry, emotional connection, or shared values even if someone else thinks they’re not a match. Attraction is personal. What matters most is compatibility, effort, and how two people make each other feel not some imaginary ranking system.

At the end of the day, we’re all human. The right person for you won’t care about leagues they’ll care about who you are, not how others label you.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Sporting leagues, sure. Any others, nope. They have always been a myth people fall back on when they are failing at finding relationships.

Summeroflove · Answer

Well… Not really because everyone is just so different in what they want out of a relationship, their standards, and their definition of a league. It’s really just limiting beliefs that will cause you to never pursue people you’re genuinely attracted to because you feel someone’s above you… or below you and are scared of what others will think.

AviatorTom · Answer

There must be dating leagues. Why else would someone tell you "She's out of your league." ? 😉

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Of course there is a certain dating hierarchy. Leagues, if you would like to call it that. It was quite apparent in college. I don't know about now, but back then a lot of young ladies from upper-middle class, or upper class families were sent there to "find an ambitious guy to marry" who would be able to provide well for them and a family. A lot of these young ladies were looking for a guy who had a serious major, and who also was from such a family.

I had a friend who was in final year of undergrad and he had been accepted to dental school. He was tall and strong and worked as a plumber in the summer to make some bucks for college. He had the ladies hanging off of him! LOL... They would draw sketches of kissing lips on his car windows with lipstick at night. LOL

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

Yes and no. It certainly isn't as rigid as some people might believe, but people definitely do respect others more and others less and that carries over to dating and leagues.

While in theory a homeless guy with several missing teeth completely dirty and filthy all over terrible skin from drug use COULD get together with a rich beautiful woman who is very popular the chance of him getting with her are less than 1%, not 0% but still way less than 1%.

Meanwhile an attractive guy who is as rich as her has much higher chances in comparison.

That's not to say that to get with that woman a guy needs to be the richest most attractive most powerful on Earth but she will want a minimum standard at least. Like at least a guy who takes care of himself, works hard, and is at least of average appearance.

WeezertheTeazer · Answer

I'd say do what you want and approach who you and let girls/women approach you all they want regardless of their perceived "league" or your's. I used to believe it in highschool but now as a Man in my late 30's I say F-it to hell even if it is real. If leagues are real then the best bird flip to the social cast system would be for an individual from a "loser" cast to obtain an out of "league" mate.

RavVid · Answer

I think there are clearly different levels of classic attractiveness. However personality and nature can revise those outward levels.

For example if a girl did something kind unnecessarily, her attractiveness would increase to me.

McLlovin · Answer

No i think its very high schoolish. In real life there are no leagues just vibe and chemistry. I dont rate women but dor the sake of clarity, men these days are pulling away from the “9s” & “10s” because a lot of times they are stuck up. It’s because many of them get so much attention and have an army of simps. We’ll be happy with a 6 or 7

Jersey2 · Answer

Some women don’t know their value. Some women don’t care as much as out looks and want something else (money, intelligence, caring, loyalty, humor, whatever makes it click). 2/3s though will look to men that they think are comparable or better than them in looks… but again, not always as that can change when they look for a marriage partner.

And then there are some women that will hang on to a drug addiction, dope dealer total loser who doesn’t even look that great.

4ngelic · Answer

yes. usually people stick around what they are, are unable to get much better and dont want anything worse. generally, hot goes with hot, cute with cute, average with average, and ugly with ugly.

Anonymous · Answer

Personally no. You like who you like. I've dated both "pretty boys" and men that are typically considered unattractive... and frankly I didn't notice a difference. They both brought different things to the table.

In terms of leagues, like should I only date "pretty boys" because men consider me to be a certain level of attractiveness? No. Thats boring and frankly immature in my opinion.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

I wouldn't put it in terms of leagues but there are attractiveness levels. But leagues makes it sound like attractive people shouldn't be with less attractive people for status reasons. It's stupid. A lot of men would be screwed if women only judged them on looks, rather than his humour, personality, and masculine energy.

MJVillarama · Answer

Totally agree, “leagues” are mostly made up. Attraction is so personal, what one person loves, another might not notice. It’s more about connection than a rating system.

Abbycado · Answer

Yes. NFL. MBL. NHL. And so on. Leagues

exitseven · Answer

No, everyone has a different idea on what they are looking for in a partner. One mans trash is another man's treasure and all that.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course there are leagues. The only thing about them is not everyone agrees where they start and stop is all. That's why there's overlap here and there. And occasionally some don't remotely agree on what they are. But nevertheless, they still exist.

NervousIndividual · Answer

I feel we should base our attraction towards each other on character. Appearance is a transitory thing subject to the accidents of life. When a couple gets older, physical passions may at any time die out, and what will be left of them is whether they can live in love, harmony, and strive to ever improve the life of one another, until the end of time.

slatyb · Answer

In a way, sure. Mostly people seek their equal in intelligence, fitness, drive, and emotional maturity. Notice that I didn't say "wealth".

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

I don’t really believe in “leagues.”  People connect through values, chemistry, and timing not some ranking system.

236color · Answer

There is a reason Brad Pitt married Jennifer Aniston and Angelina Jolie and I didn't.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Yes I have way too much personality to be with someone boring

Jennz6 · Answer

You are a coward, come out and ask your questions and you might get a better response than this.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Yes but I have had guys who I thought were hotter than me be interested so it all depends..

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Yes, I believe in dating leagues, however for sex and one night stands many many people will go above or below their league. Trust me.

Tomislav7 · Answer

Yes women only date guys that improve their status. Only guys that date outside their league are men with wealth or social status, otherwise they have to date down.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I don't actually Anyone can date anybody it is just that most pretty Girls don't want to date the majority. A lot of Women just think there are leagues to justify their selfishness.

nawtee_me · Answer

No, For those who think themself better than others,,, If you exalt yourself you will be humbled. But, if you humble yourself you will be exalted…

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Nah. I've seen way too many seemingly mismatched couples to believe in leagues.

zagor · Answer

No. Not to say that looks don't factor in a whole lot but limiting yourself in such ways is just lame.

shortster · Answer

Nope, there is no accounting for tastes. So what you find attractive might not be attractive to someone else.

Pohjolan · Answer

Kinda but dating leagues are highly subjective.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Few broads were in my league, and a lot still aren't.

aquamarine321 · Answer

I believe this is a thing created by people to place people in groups and class

YTuber417 · Answer

Leagues exist, but that doesn't mean you have to stay there.

Eve996 · Answer

Handsome men and beautiful women always in top of the dating chain

Nice222 · Answer

Not when it comes to looks. But when it comes to money and financial status definitely.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Not at all and I agree with your thoughts.

Miristheiss · Answer

Sure, to a degree.

351130827 · Answer

is an interesting thing

LiamJHayden · Answer

Probably, but I ignore them.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

The reality they do exist.

robocop666 · Answer

Yes there's leagues. I am a cruiserweight.

Brady · Answer

nope

In_Trance · Answer

What @Abbycado said

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I do.

Danny889 · Answer

Not at all

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