Is my boyfriend calling another girl babe, ok?

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Noredcarpet · Accepted Answer

What does he think? What kind of meaning does he put in it? Why does he do it?

My first initial response looking at the word the way I do it would be a firm no. Not OK.

My partner I notice is very strict about how he refer, talk to other women, don't matter who they are. I have realized he is this way single or not single. There has been times a woman has been way more friendly, could be that is her nature or there is a romantic interest, but he will still converse in his usual manner. His language written or expressed vocally is different, he is like a different person, when communicating with me. There was this one time I in secret enjoyed it as there had been this woman treating me badly and being loving to him when he in his usual manner just basically cut her off with his short reply in front of everyone. I usually never take pleasure in something of the sort but she was so sure of herself that I simply could not help it, it was one of those thing that made me think uh ok guess I can trust him? With that said he has confused me somewhat as he can sound angry and Im thinking it is me he is angry with when he says he is not but just going through something else.

It is important your boyfriend understand who he should call what and what a difference it does if he chose those words when referring to you and you alone.

Could not only be that you feel it is a sign of disrespect, but others as well who he call this could get him wrong. It gets to be confusing to everyone, but you should be most important to him and in my opinion he should just stop using the word he does, that should belong to you and you alone.

abbyjgriffin98 · Accepted Answer

That is never okay. Even if someone is sarcastically calling someone babe, that's mostly just rude. But if your boyfriend is calling any woman babe or even just one particular person, that's unacceptable. For starters, I'm sure if you started calling other men babe, he wouldn't like it. But what reason does he have to call someone babe? I've noticed when people call someone babe, there is usually a sexual undertone. I would say something like honey or sweetheart, is more of a term of endearment. I've been called these names by people who were just respectful and polite. But babe or baby? That has more of a sexual connotation.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Well i'm not dating or I have a girlfriend at the moment , but

Out of respect , I wouldn't do that plus it would just feel weird

I don't like it when people call me , babe or hon or sweetie
Now I don't mind being called daddy
Lmaf0. Sorry had to say it..
Yeah, I don't see it as being a big deal. But I know , for me , I just wouldn't do it out of respect

Cause I actually don't like it when somebody calls me that or all the above

But I can smile when somebody calls me jackass

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

That’s kind of shady , especially if he calls you babe as well , he should be calling her by her name since he has a girlfriend already , the fact that he isn’t is disrespectful and it could be a red flag , when I am on a relationship , I call other girls’ by their name only , my partner receives the nicknames

AviatorTom · Answer

Depends what his meaning is, and whether he does that with just one girl or many girls.

If he calls many girls babe, it's no big deal, it's just his way of addressing them. If it's only one girl though, and he's hinting at something more, that might be something to be concerned about.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

If he’s calling another girl “babe,” it’s not something you should just brush off.

Terms like that aren’t neutral, they carry intimacy, warmth, and familiarity.

If he uses them with you and then casually uses them with someone else, that’s a boundary issue, not a misunderstanding.

The real question is why does he feel comfortable doing it, and does he know it crosses a line for you?

A healthy partner doesn’t keep you guessing.
He should either

* stop using that nickname with other women,

* or explain honestly what that dynamic is and let you decide if it feels respectful.

If it makes you uncomfortable, you’re not overreacting.

Affectionate language is part of emotional exclusivity, and it’s fair to expect that from someone who chose to be your boyfriend.

SueShe · Answer

No, in my opinion, that is certainly not OK. The term "babe" is an endearment term that would not normally be used for someone that is not close. If he uses that term for a total stranger and another girl that should not represent anything to him, then it is a huge red flag and very questionable.

Of course he will say that there is no meaning but there indeed a meaning. If he calls another girl by that name, there is no reason why he would not call any girl that appeals to him by the same name.

To me, that is the very first step of emotional cheating.

Tamera952 · Answer

I would ignore it. I think policing his speech is tiresome, and as long as you’re secure in your relationship, he can call whomever whatever. I wouldn’t read into it, or make a big deal, or call attention to the fact, or make it seem like small petty things like that bother you.

Bolt1104 · Answer

Honestly, it just depends on the context. Some people call everyone ‘babe’ out of habit and it doesn’t mean anything, but if it feels flirty or crosses a boundary for you, that’s totally valid. The important thing is how it makes you feel. If it bothers you or makes you uncomfortable, it’s okay to talk to your girlfriend about it in a calm way. Every relationship has different comfort levels, and communicating yours is healthy and respectful.

RandomGirl42 · Answer

I think it just depends on what you're comfortable with. In some areas it is common for people to use , babe, hun, dear, etc even in the work place, men or women, like some cashiers or waitresses and it is perfectly acceptable. Other areas , it is not. 🤷‍♀️

jkreuger95 · Answer

It depends on the meaning he has behind it. If it is a term of affection than unless you're into that, i'd say no. On the other hand, if he calls every woman babe when talking about mundane things or getting strangers attention, then I think it's fine. If it bothers you, you should tell him

MrChinaski · Answer

Probably it just means they are good friends, or have an in joke, or whatever. In which case it is fine and you shouldn't be trying to control his language if that is all it is.

But it is worth having an open conversation with him to better understand his intent.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I had these two older neighbors across the street from me. Both of them called everyone babe, so did their older daughter and the woman's sister.
Most likely, he's just used to calling people, "babe". Or, maybe he's just used to calling you that and says it to others before he realizes he said it. I do it myself, sometimes but the ONLY one I'm in love with is my girlfriend!! If I say it to anyone else, it doesn't mean anything.

aaron13547 · Answer

Depends upon his intentions using it. Depends how you feel about. Loving someone is giving them power to make us happy or unhappy. You have given him that power. Is him calling another girl babe ok with you? Thats all that matters.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It would not be a problem for me. I call many people babe, baby, honey, sweetie, or many other words. I really don't see the issue.

Anonymous · Answer

I originally called Danielle babe and someone in her livestream a few days later called her baby & she got pissed at him and i started thinking maybe i shouldn't call her babe i don't want her pissed at me essentially if that guy called her baby

RavVid · Answer

Some people routinely call others by endearments. Does address most girls as babe or just one?

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

If he's my boyfriend, no. I will have to let him know of my boundaries and limits.

KBird · Answer

No. I wouldn't be ok with it. Unless he calls all the women in his life this... then maybe?

melssvdv · Answer

I would be so mad. But then again, every guy should normally not say this 'babe'

MJVillarama · Answer

Not really okay if it makes you uncomfortable. Boundaries in a relationship matter, you should talk to him about how it feels and what you’re comfortable with.

WonderingManII · Answer

It depends on the situation. Is He doing it for the purpose of cheating? Or is he just making a comment that she looks attractive to him? Lots of babes are out there.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

Not a fan of pet names regardless  But if it’s common than not a issue if he never uses it then it’s a issue but nothing to get to upset about unless there are signs of infidelity.

jahaims · Answer

If you have to ask the internet what your personally boundaries are then you aren't emotionally healthy enough for a relationship

soe11 · Answer

I don't know about it. Depending your relationship.

JesseP1nk · Answer

short answer no. If he gives you shit ask him if you start calling some other guy a "darling"

Summeroflove · Answer

Weird but context matters

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Yep. We boys often call hot girls "babe."

AGirlNameZoi · Answer

If he calls every girl babe, I guess.

Celticwolf78 · Answer

Definitely not ok that should be used for his girlfriend and only her

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Seems weird..

RxR0954 · Answer

Nah it’s not ok, i would be pissed

queenofcardio · Answer

No. That would piss me off

Flower7 · Answer

No, not at all. Who is she?

rosemilk · Answer

no!! absolutely not!

elizamichale1 · Answer

Well i would definitely ask him not to

slatyb · Answer

Hard to say. It's not automatically wrong.

StephanieChick111 · Answer

Yes, it is fine.

Kelly6 · Answer

@rbbklb it will not be a problem for me

Alex-Snow · Answer

Not really, he should only call you that.

Anonymous · Answer

No 👎 it's not okay. Is it.

blackeagle007 · Answer

The answers here sums it up

Pterodon · Answer

You have that decision not us

guesswhereivebeen · Answer

Only if he’s fucking her

In_Trance · Answer

If you're ok with it, it's ok

WellBye · Answer

Not ok

rainpeltbriver · Answer

No wtf

NIYAAAAAA · Answer

Ehhhhh absolutely not 😅

WhitneySnow · Answer

No..

beenherebefore · Answer

Not okay.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

That's for you to decide

strateguy632 · Answer

I think yes

lightbulb27 · Answer

nope

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, you need to drop kick is walnuts

goaded · Answer

Probably.

Anonymous · Answer

You are old enough to say that

Anonymous · Answer

He likes bad girl easy to fuck that’s all.

Anonymous · Answer

Not really ok.

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