When dating, what jobs do you consider a red flag and why?

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Californiagirl5 · Accepted Answer

Drugs dealers, gangsters etc.

beenherebefore · Accepted Answer

No job. Drug dealer.

HawkPerception · Answer

OnlyFans, prostitution, or strippers for obvious reasons

Construction or any kind of contracting work because I find them to be too tomboyish or masculine for my taste GENERALLY

Nurses, women in sales, lawyers, flight attendants, or women in finance because they tend to have the highest infidelity rate of most professions

Models because they are used to too much attention and likely have an ego issue, and my attention would never be enough for them

Military or police officers... not into dogs of the government or people that don't have tons of time to spend with their partner or travel abroad

Girls in non-feminine sports because they're usually too masculine for my taste

Summeroflove · Answer

Anything illegal or illicit. There are some professions that you should be aware of. But why? Simple. Opportunity… Such as military when two people are away from one another for so long as well as are a attractive profession. Yeah… there is a lot of cheating. Does it mean it’s something with just military members? No. It comes down to who has the opportunity to cheat and who doesn’t.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Exotic dancer. I would have difficulty trusting someone who gets naked for strangers four or five nights per week. (Before anyone considers criticizing my opinion, read this:

AviatorTom · Answer

There are no red flag jobs. Well, maybe hired assassin might be a red flag, unless they're retired.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Anyone who starts with “I’m an entrepreneur” is a major red flag.

Piercejeans1 · Answer

Stripper? Online webcam girl? Waitresses.

OK fairly obvious. A girl who can get naked in front of total strangers for money and tips is not the most stable person for a long term relationship. Getting involved with one of them is as dangerous as tying a stick of dynamite to your leg and riding through a burning barn on a lame horse.

Waitress. Meets a lot of people in the public on a social basis when they are relaxing and can spend time talking. Cute girls get flirted with. Cute girls have options and sometimes seek out the possibilities of a new relationship.

You say Dave, how can you possibly say all that? What personal experience do you have with strippers and waitresses? Wife number two and wife number one. Both of them were what you would call cute / hot / fairly stacked. And both of them were very good at lying and concealing cheating. To the point of getting their own apartments... red flag.

Wife number one I married young and it lasted two years, including her dating a guy from a bar one time who got her pregnant... to be fair... after we were separated and 1000 miles apart. The guy bolted and did not take responsibility for the child. After all it was a bar pickup thing. She called me five years after the divorce and wanted to come back. Probably because she was on hard times. She did not mention the child. I saw her on her Facebook page. Surprise. She was the waitress. Name a restaurant, she probably worked there... steak houses, etc.

Wife number two. The ex stripper / belly dancer now turned legal secretary. Church going super Christian. What could be safer? Things got tough financially and her best friend was doing extremely well... a woman in Texas. She invited her down. She moved. I was doing spec writing on a few projects that interested me. In the middle of the woods by a beautiful lake... with a pain in the ass association. Still there. She is still gone. All those... "Now we will be together forevers... and love you forever signed Christmas and birthday cards... really look rather silly now. The stripper past and the belly dancing... which she was really good at... should have told me this woman is capable of anything. Get in front of a drunk room full of horny men (before I met her) and take all of your clothes off... you are definitely not shy. And you obviously love sex and entertaining men.

The red flags I should have seen and noticed before getting serious with her? She spent her free time talking to her family and friends, enlarging her circle constantly. She loved buying shoes. I remember a box... a crate of shoes arriving from Penny's Dept Store for her. She was a hoarder. She was very quiet and almost silent on what was at any time going through her head. Little communication. During vacation times for her, she would fly across the country and visit friends and family. We never took vacations together. She had relatives and roots in Texas and Mississippi, California and Wisconsin. I really did not envy going to the far parts of America a couple times a year. To see people I did not know. There was a lot more. I should write a book. It was a crazy time together... 13 years. Stormy, passionate. Stubborn egos defending pride and appearance. Her putting up with my dog of 17 years. My dog died two years after she left for Texas. Gee I miss my dog.

Anonymous · Answer

OnlyFans model, cryptocurrency trader, escort, and student. OF models want you to subscribe before dating. Crypto trader is almost always a scammer trying to get you to invest in their crypto scheme where they claim 30% ROI on a 30 second option trade. However, when you finally agree to let them teach you they really just try to get you to send them $100 worth of Bitcoin. The escort wants you to venmo her money for sex; but you can't meet her in person first even at a restaurant (probably another scammer). The student lies about their age first telling you that they are 26. Then after conversing with them for a little while they confess that they are actually 17, but their birthday is in a month or a week. After you decide to stop talking to them they then send you a nude photo (presumably of themselves, but more likely just some random pic from the net). So obviously you delete it and block them. But now you are getting a phone call from either an irate parent or curious law enforcement officer. But in reality neither are who they say they are as it was all a blackmail scam from the beginning. And they are trying to shake you down for the cost of a new iPhone. There are variations on these scams, but they are the primary careers that they claim.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Well, someone making a living from something illegal would of course be a complete red flag. However, some legit jobs might be a yellow flag for me. Nothing wrong with people in sales, but my personality would generally be incompatible with a woman in sales. They tend to be real extroverted and I lean a bit towards being introverted.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

For me, no job is a red flag by itself.

The red flag is the behavior that comes with it, constant dishonesty, no stability, no accountability, or a lifestyle that makes a relationship impossible.

You can meet someone with a “prestigious” job who treats people terribly, and someone with a simple job who shows integrity, discipline, and emotional maturity.

The title doesn’t determine the person.

Their habits do.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

"Influencer" - lazy and stupid

"Onlyfans Model" - lazy and stupid

"Porn Star" - unloyal

"Scammer"

"Doctor" - arrogant

"Law Enforcement" - they're required by law to betray/shun their own spouses and mothers

KBird · Answer

I would say a truck driver, pilot, firefighter, etc. just because their work hours vary and you would not get to see them consistently. I would respect their jobs and their ambitions, but I would miss them.

Twodogs0525 · Answer

As in a "professional" job and not a sex worker type job, I've had a horrible experience with a woman that ran an HR department. I dated a cop once and thought that would be bad but she was a sweetheart.

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely any sex work (porn, onlyfans, prostitute, escorts) and the following:

Bartenders

Waitresses in bars and clubs

Nurses

Girls that work at Target

Personal trainer

Feminists (obvious immediate red flag)

Boss bitches

Anonymous · Answer

Personal trainer, realtor, lawyer, police officer, therapist. Personal trainers rarely give clients personal space and they touch them a lot to correct them. All the other ones, they have to keep a bunch of secrets (emotionally voliate), their vain (especially relators and lawyers), egos are on a 10000% with lawyers, therapist absorb so much on a day to day basis, they have mood swings when they come home. Nope, would rather date a guy who does solo content on OF

glennos89 · Answer

Jobs shouldn't be important if your genuinely seeking for love. Jobs are relavant when your seeking more then just love and want to get financial gain aswell

Steak_D_Bone · Answer

I hear nurses are cheating sluts. I'm not looking, though, and it's just something I've heard.

genericname85 · Answer

the combination of "homekeeper" + "single mother". like in other words unemployed single mom. hell no. i'm not touching that with a 10 feet stick.

sage2021 · Answer

No one in the military because you hardly ever see each other and sometimes moving to unknown places.

MJVillarama · Answer

Honestly, it’s less about the job and more about attitude and responsibility. Someone passionate and reliable is a green flag, whatever they do for work.

Allybear83 · Answer

I would say anything in the prn industry, lawyers, anyone in the medical profession, any job that requires tons of travel.

Abbycado · Answer

Carpet cleaner. Surf for negligence. @circushowcowboy

Spencer10 · Answer

Well as long as its legal I dont think I would rule anyone out because of their work.

Shiprex · Answer

Only Fans, influencer, social media anything. Advertising, HR, and perhaps butcher

Agape93 · Answer

Law enforcement. I don't trust or respect them.

slatyb · Answer

Anything that involves hurting others, whether directly or indirectly.

elizamichale1 · Answer

None coz what I do doesn't give me right to mark any thing as red flag

exitseven · Answer

If the job title has the word "equity" in it somewhere.

Xawyx-2 · Answer

Butcher - because I'm a vegetarian (and the hypothetical girl is obviously not).

LiamJHayden · Answer

Pretty much any government position except school teacher. Crematorium operator

ABC1x1x · Answer

Nurse. They are all massive sluts. Police officer. Women police officers are abusive

msc545 · Answer

I've not had real good luck with female Lawyers but there's always a chance I will someday.

damaster · Answer

OnlyFans model, stripper, porn star, & truck driver

Anonymous · Answer

Gay male stripper/escort, pimp, weapons smiler, hitman, con artist

Finchie40 · Answer

Porn Star or escort

MemeSupreme · Answer

actors something is off about them

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Anything with an emergency call-up. 😐

jazzy34 · Answer

I don’t think any job is a red flag.

Iron_Man · Answer

Prostitution is a red flag

snermcger · Answer

-Strippers and nurses.

Twalli · Answer

None are deal breakers except studio porn.

CubaPirate · Answer

Politician. They're untrustworthy liars lol

guesswhereivebeen · Answer

Stripper… fluffer… man

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Drug dealer escort loan shark 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Coden7 · Answer

Influencer

Sebastian100 · Answer

Sex work and strippers

FreyaRed · Answer

Police.

Raydergman26 · Answer

Cop or firefighter

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

Housewife lol

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