What do you girls actually mean by the phrase " man with boundaries " ?

[Anonymous]

How many times girls have mentioned that they want a man with boundaries but what does it actually mean from a female perspective in terms of sexual attraction and dating?

Who tells you what you can and what you cannot do

Who you cannot just walk over with your bad manners

If something other mention in the comment

[VioletHaze]

A man who isn't so desperate for your attention and love, he is willing to date anyone, or let you walk all over him. If he can establish bounderies (tell you what behaviours he doesn't allow or tolerate) in a respectful way, that's very attractive. Shows he is assertive and confident in himself.

[Asker]

Many times in my interactions I casually mentioned girls about what I don't like and what she is not allowed to do. So setting boundaries in that way generates sexual attraction also?

[VioletHaze]

I think my reply was removed. It basically said: I can't guarantee sexual attraction, but I think most women would appreciate a man with standards. And if she doesn't, you'll know she doesn't meet them and you've wasted no time.

[VioletHaze]

Felt the need to bring nuance, though. Such boundaries should be fair and not needlessly undermine her freedom or autonomy.

Telling a woman what you like or dislike is good and causes respect, but be flexible as both parties need to adjust.

And make sure to set them early. Don't start telling your woman, 3 years later, you don't tolerate her having close friendships with the opposite sex and then chastise her or ask her to give them up, for instance.

[beenherebefore]

A Man who doesn't tolerate our sh*t.

[Summeroflove]

Well people should have healthy boundaries and people who do have boundaries once you test them…. They generally just break the relationship off because it’s not worth it.

[Zack-Bann]

Basically not being a pushover


Not saying yes to everything even when you disagree


You become her “child”


And women hate having to parent their boyfriend


You need to have the illusion of having all the answers without really having or showing them


It’s very tricky at first but very liberating when you get the hang of it

[Wolfski]

Women want to date someone who’s mature enough to know exactly what they want in a relationship. If you date someone who’s up in the air with their likes/dislikes and doesn’t know if they want commitment or not it’s annoying. Boundaries are things that show someone has a grasp on what they want. Having clear boundaries you both set means that your partner takes things like cheating seriously and is less likely to do it to you.

[Flower7]

They probably mean a man who respects other people’s boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Lol I’m not going to date a guy that tells me what I can and cannot do.

[Asker]

When you date me you cannot have other guy friends.
And you have to dress beautifully.

Now I have just told you what you can do and what you cannot. Haha

[Anonymous]

I have not once ever heard that and don't even know what it means.