Do you intentionally want to be single? If so, why?

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Do you purposely want to be single in your life? If so, why? And do you want to be single for life?

HawkPerception · Answer

No. Never have. Call me a hopeless romantic, but I've always known I'm happier with a partner to sail through life with.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Hell no! I am much happier when i am in a relationship.

DishLady · Answer

I did for years. This past year I floundered and thought to try my luck, but… meh.

Noredcarpet · Answer

I had a period lasting into a few years when I intionally wanted to be single, refused to date, and focused on other things in my life, both things I wanted myself to do and felt obligued to do. I felt so free during that time, no broken heart, no compromises, not having to deal with shit a so would bring in, no crush on someone, almost as if I was having a romantic relationship with myself, and I was very busy too, but it was good busy. I felt free, happy, but then out of the blue I fell for someone hard and that was that, when I was thinking I would slowly get back in the game, if at all.

I think being single has it good sides and being in a relationship has it too, but it was as if I had trouble selling in the idea that I was loving it being single. Some would look at me as if they felt sorry for me or thinking what was wrong with me, always trying to fix me up with someone, and couldn't understand why I was single.

I know of widows who are kicking it and nobody question them why they don't remarry. I totally get it if the bad side of a relationship is something you don't want back in your life. I do not want to feel as if my life has been cut off in some way, I do feel I have sacrifized way too much of myself before, I don't like the feeling of being trapped or people trying to mold me into someone I do not want to be to get their permission to be in my then partners life. With age and experience I realize when I did get back in a relationship that I was more in the I perspective, no more caring, trying to band myself backwards to get partners family and friends to like me. I have become more if you don't like me, fine, I may not like you either, it's still cool. Because of some things I have at times drawn a line between my life and partners life when I know I am going to be the one who end up with the short stick. I sadly think some guys has been raised the wrong way, and some girls too and they then take that expectation into their adult life, their relationship where it don't belong. In one relationship I sacrifized way too much of myself, he was raised to think too. much of himself, and he thought I should sort of give up my own life to fit into his, not both of us adapting. Part because of that my life was way too much stressed out, it was not mutual. I promised myself not to be like that again, began to question everything and myself.

I think if you are happy single please enjoy and others should learn to respect that it is not only one way of life that is the right way. I was a happy single.

Apulu_backagain · Answer

I'm still very young so for most of the part I don't know what kind of life I would want in future.

However, I can see myself enjoying both the lives. I would love to come home and wait for my partner while making dinner or come home to warm dinner and warm hug. But at the same time I don't think I'll feel lonely buying fried chicken and coke and have a cheat day after long office hours and watch some criminal documentary or hang out with my friends or whatever.

I think most people don't want to be alone because hey, we're human, all we want is someone to witness our lives and sometimes validate our choices.

For now, I'm being purposefully single because I simply have a lot in my plate, my life is going through a transition and will soon be going under the infamous process of 'adulting'. I'm studying for my finals and waiting for college decisions. On the other hand, anyone who shares perspective similar to mine is not available for relationship because all the good guys my age are busy. They should be.

I think I will even stay single in college because a relationship is demanding and I would rather spend that time by making sure I use my student loan to it's fullest and get that good score or do activities which improves my resume.

Maybe in my job life, after my Masters degree I would want a partner. But not now, I'm not settled and frankly I think I'm way too immature to be in a relationship. So single works for me.

But if fate has some plans, then I will give it a try.

RavVid · Answer

Pretty much YES.

It is impossible to pretend marriage is forever when median length is 8 years and escapes the median man or woman. As a guy I will be taken to the cleaners if I am foolish enough to be married.

The Australian gov't has effectively implemented common law marriage at two years so I am reluctant to put my head in a lawyers mouth by going that long. Prenups are in fact quite dodgy because courts can find clauses unconscionable and strike them out.

Of course everybody wants plentiful sex but marriage doesn't give that. Most wives seem to shut up shop and even girl friends do this. So you don't get the objective.

So far I am doing ok inviting outer burban girls to inner city cafes. There are always brothels in a dry patch.

mstbooblover · Answer

Having had only difficulties and problems at home with my parents and students at school, it was a genuine mental alleviation to have at last a place of my own. Thus, yes it was a choice, a practical one, but also not really a choice because of my tendencies.

At a certain moment nevertheless I had the desire to find a girlfriend, and as someone here already mentioned, without really searching, a nice woman popped into my life naturally. Now she has passed away since years, I'm fine with living single, although I still would appreciate finding another girlfriend.

Actually living single fits me rather well, which is not contradictory with the wish find a regular partner, in order to share nice different activities together now and then. Living together is not at all a priority, but who knows how life may evolve?

godfatherfan · Answer

I did do that for the last 7 years. I just started dating again this past June.

Why? I got tired of women and their toxic bullshit. It seemed like if I wasn't willing to be an asshole, they weren't interested. Then they get online and go "where are all the good guys?". I was just tired of it all.

Nik1hil · Answer

SUBCONSCIOUSLY I don't, but Consciously I do..

Truth is, I don't want to be single but I also don't want to Compromise my peace!

I want a relationship, but I don't want to pay it's price with my Mental Peace.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I never want a consolation prize relationship

I want to be with someone I truly enjoy waking up next to

As such I spend most of my life single

I’ve dated around a lot and still do at times
Still looking

But every time I find something real and powerful there’s a reason why it would never work

It’s the same old story

No happy ending for me yet

Chloe1808 · Answer

I'm purposely single atm and just trying to enjoy life as much as possible in my own way without anyone telling me what to do or judging me for what I do

Anonymous · Answer

I generally do :-

ONS, every few ONS lead to hookups or friends with benefits situationships.
During that time the line is kind of fine between relationship or situationships. Usually keep her 3-6 months then off she goes.

Not interested in long term relationship.

sage2021 · Answer

If I could be with my boyfriend who died 2 years ago, I would be with him again in a heartbeat❣️

But since that's not possible then it's better for me to be single.

I've been single for most of my life, so it's nothing new for me. It beats being with the wrong person for sure.

Anonymous · Answer

Have you looked at the selection of single women?😆 why would any self respecting man sign up for that?

SeekerOfTruth007 · Answer

I have about 50 reasons not to ever marry and I'll remain a virgin until the day I die.

First of all, women make such pretty little liars that they can never be trusted with anything. That's the only reason I really need. The other 49 reasons are just bonus points.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Nope but I've accepted I always will be... women don't appear from thin air and I am not a social butterfly so how would I find a girl? Nvm a girl who likes me and I like them. When I was younger I'd stumble into them somehow online but that stopped years ago and doubt it will happen all the sudden again.

SoccerPlayer99 · Answer

There's actually a trend for people 25 and younger to not want to be in a relationship right now. I think it's something like 60%.

Shiprex · Answer

Yes and no. I have low expectations of finding someone who fits my desires. Of course there are others who could be nice to be with but long term it's not likely.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, it's too much work and yes, I'm a short, out of shape, broke, workaholic with a slew of health issues

slatyb · Answer

I hate being single. After I divorced I was rarely single. Probably I should have stayed single for a while to figure out what I really wanted.

JSmuve · Answer

The more I interact with women, the more they convince me that being single is the way to go. They don't really offer anything and the emotional labour they require is too much.

abc3643 · Answer

I will simply say this. If I was no longer married, I would not remarry.

Sal_Monella · Answer

If I were your age, I might choose that. Dating and marriage nowadays are a losing proposition. A rental is better than "buying". Depreciation is unpredictably severe.

Anonymous · Answer

Not single, but lately I’ve been thinking about just being single the rest of my life. At this point it sounds better than being with someone.

FenixG45 · Answer

I've been single so long that I thought I wanted it. I don't, and now I'm not!

Unycorn · Answer

Humans are not made to be alone. Single because the choice is poor

NathanDavis · Answer

it is not my intention and not my purpose, no... but it was my choice not to pursue a relationship, for a couple of years or so

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Nope but it seems that i'm walking in this path and till this day i don't see anything which makes me change or move...

Steve-the-lion · Answer

Deep down I don't want to be single, but the way women are these days I feel that the juice isn't worth the squeeze, so I've decided to stay single.

userss3 · Answer

Yeah cause i actually really hate the psychology of women behaviour... I think its better to be single for me 👍

MysticDevice · Answer

I will enjoy every peaceful moment of being single until the right woman runs into me.

CalmUntilAbused · Answer

I don't want to be single, but I'd rather be single than a punching bag and an ATM for some feminist. There are levels to misery, and loneliness definitely isn't the worst.

msc545 · Answer

I don't necessarily want to be single, but I think it's the only safe alternative given the legal situation here in the United States. If I were to move to another country and meet someone then that would be different.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I have peace and happiness not attached to a man.. I got tired of being disappointed and hurt by men constant heartbreaks and trauma - being good never works out for men. I've been single since 2014 and never dating again

lilBigPotato · Answer

No, but I'm also not desperately trying to be in a relationship. going with the flow..

loveyouoak · Answer

Yes, I do. I don't trust men, so I want to stay single for life.

AustColombiangirl · Answer

Yes I love being single because I can fuck whoever I want whenever I want

genericname85 · Answer

naw. it's just hard to not be single for me.

Anonymous · Answer

Considering no attractive girl wants to be with me, and I won't be with any unattractive girl - yes, let's say that I'm single intentionally (as if I have much of a choice).

Bloodparadise · Answer

I want men. When I want sex and hugs.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Single as in unmarried, yes, at least under current laws. Single as in not dating, no.

imjustagirl15 · Answer

yeah, men literally suck

Miristheiss · Answer

No...

ABC1x1x · Answer

I hate my wife.

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