Is sending nudes too much for someone you haven't met yet but talk to everyday via phone?

[Simslover92]

If they say that you're essentially dating and a couple?

[ohsheeT]

You can do what you like but first meet if I'm going to do that well I have to know them and been with them in real life well that's a lie I've done it before just because we clicked and they were on the other side of the planet.

But thanks for the question because thinking back on how many nudes I've sent out and how many girls I'm still in contact with hmm.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you have not met in person, you are NOT dating. Do you know this person well enough to trust that if your relationship ends, they will delete your naked pictures? And why do you even want to send him naked pictures?

[Simslover92]

I don't really because I don't know him like that but I know my friends have done it before.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are too smart to do something just because your friends have done it.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Simslover92]

You're welcome!

[CherryLove007]

NADA

do not send out your precious prize to a man you have not met IRL. To be clear who he is then find out enough about him from social media if he has any. No rolling on the mattress right away either and no nudes. Simple common sense.

What does he have to offer you for the future? Hopefully he is older than you and has a great job.

[Screenwriter]

Completely up to you. But to send nudes of yourself that are identifiable as you is, for me, a bad idea.

People have misused them and sent them to friends who you'll never know. Might appear later on if a search is done via someone planning to hire you. You don't want such stuff following you around. Be cautious.

[AviatorTom]

Sending nudes to anyone is rarely a good idea. Once a picture is sent via the Internet, it's out there for all to see. Do you really want that?

If you do send nudes, please make sure there is nothing that can specifically identify you.

[HawkPerception]

If you're comfortable doing it, then it's fine. Don't overthink these kinds of things. If he seems like a genuine dude and you want to spice things up, there's nothing wrong with sending nudes.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"too much" is quite vague to me, what does "too much" concretely mean for you?

There isn't any zero risk situation I can see, plus I don't see any objective, ultimate way to trust someone, I have trusted people based on subjective things, on observations, on feelings, on experience... I see trust somewhat as how some believers describe faith, without evidence or guarantee, just a feeling, a belief in something.

To me, meeting in person or not does not add to trust I have (or not) in someone, what I look at is how people react, write, talk, manifest, how emotionally stable they are over time. If I had to name one predictor, it would be that: Emotional stability. Which does take some time, technically, to observe...

[KostasKouvalis]

A lot of people do it. But you also need to be careful that he isn't lying just to get nudes, especially to show them to his army buddies, which is highly likely.

How long have you been talking to him? I might wait or ask him to send one too as insurrance. If you DO, do it on Snapchat and don't show your face, but honestly, I wouldn't do it. At least not until you trust him 100%. If you wanna test him, just grab one off the internet

[Simslover92]

This isn't the military guy. I've given up on seeing him and gotten closer to someone else that I met on plenty of fish a month ago.

[KostasKouvalis]

😲
Okay yeah. definitely DON'T do it

[KostasKouvalis]

Have you sent nudes before? I'm surprised, I thought you were a conservative Southern girl

[Simslover92]

Only for my ex-boyfriend when we were together and I thought we were going to get married.

[KostasKouvalis]

Oh damn. Yet you wanna do it for a guy you've only known online for a month?

[Simslover92]

I'm not sure. We've talked about marriage and being really serious already.

[KostasKouvalis]

The ONE MONTH GUY? 😲🤦‍♂️

[Simslover92]

Yes I know it sounds crazy but I've never felt such a strong connection to someone before.

[KostasKouvalis]

Damn 😲 I don't know what to say

[DryGermanGuy]

I'm with Kostas here. Girl, calm your hormones and establish a real relationship with that guy. Meet first, send nudes... probably never.

[Simslover92]

Ok I can do that. I plan on meeting him this Saturday if all goes well.

[Purpleronnie]

No.. that doesn’t make sense to me but not sure that I can relate that well as I don’t and wouldn’t send nudes nor have I been asked too.


In my opinion it’s cheap behavior to ask or send.


Being you though I’m not sure I’d take a guys advice 🤷‍♂️

[WhitneySnow]

Don’t do it. A lot of guys will ghost you if you do that too soon. Wait till you’ve actually had sex in person (or at least done sexual stuff) before you do that.

[Simslover92]

Ok thank you!

[WhitneySnow]

You’re welcome

[MrChinaski]

Call me old fashioned.

I think asking someone for nudes is seriously creepy... MAJOR red flag. Shallow, perverted, possible sex offender, lacks confidence in themselves... all words that spring to mind and I'm just getting started.

If you choose to send nudes to someone who hasn't asked for them because it's something you want to share about yourself, I think it's a lovely sentiment.

[Grond21]

Yes, it is. Although common, it isn't a good idea. Plus, does the guy just decide you are dating without asking you? Because that isn't good

[Simslover92]

He did ask me if it was okay if we are now dating and together.

[Grond21]

So he didn't ask you to be his girlfriend, he just asked you if you were opposed to a relationship?

[Simslover92]

He basically asked me to be his girlfriend. At least I think so.

[Grond21]

If you don't know, then he didn't. He just kind of phrased it in a way where you have to fill in the gaps. That's not kind nor respectful

[Simslover92]

He said "I believe it's safe to say I want to be with you"

[Simslover92]

And that we are dating

[Grond21]

That... Is odd at best. What did you say?

[Simslover92]

That I want to be with him too and that I agree we are pretty much dating.

[Grond21]

Okay. And what does dating mean to you?

[Simslover92]

It means being serious about that person and in a relationship or at the very least heading towards being in one.

[Grond21]

Okay, that is helpful. And what is his definition?

[Simslover92]

The same thing.

[Grond21]

Did he say that explicitly, or are you assuming?

[Simslover92]

He said it explicitly. Several times that he wants to be with me.

[Grond21]

Wait, these distinctions matter. There are a lot of ways to be with someone, and if you have different expectations it can make the relationship really hard, or even break it

[Simslover92]

He's mentioned marriage and being in a relationship. He really wants to be with me in the same way I do.

[Grond21]

I am still not seeing him define what that is, but I won't push it. I'm just some guy on the internet, and you didn't sign up to be interrogated

[Simslover92]

Well thank you. I just have a strong feeling about him that he is a really good guy and means what he says but we shall see.

[Grond21]

You bet. I hope you are right and that he has integrity

[Iron_Man]

Don’t do it you never met them and the next thing you know you’ll find yourself on the Internet. To many complications can come up jealousy, who are you talking to? Who is this guy and then people get angry and do things.

[Simslover92]

Thanks.

[Iron_Man]

You’re very welcome. It’s not a good idea to do that anyway.

[HighValue]

I'd lose respect for someone if they take/send nude pictures to people. At the very least it should only be for someone that they are in an exclusive relationship with long term, but I'd rather they never did that.

[Spencer10]

I would be reluctant to send nudes... the internet is forever. Once sent you lose control of them.

[c704710]

Don't send nudes without asking. It is a type of assault. Also, a crime in some jurisdictions.

Unless everyone involved are nudists. Even then, it can be iffy. And still a crime.

[fantasticass]

Yes, that's not a smart idea. The " person " is probably a predator and you just put yourself in danger. Stop this immediately... the dark web is full of human traffickers, don't be another victim.!!

[lilBigPotato]

sending nudes always comes with a risk, no matter who you send them. if you are okay with that and when or who you like sending them is your decision.

[BCRanger10]

Just don't send them at all. Problem solved.

[spartan55]

No, no, no, no... you are not dating if you have never met in person. A couple? Wtf? NO. Nudes are your call, but you don't know this guy.

[katiesmuff]

It would be considered quite ignorant and very very stupid!

[itsannalee]

Don’t do that.
And online dating isn’t really dating, that just same with chat with AI.

[Zionne]

Yes thats too much lol, he/she might do something about your photos.

[bowenw]

If in doubt, don’t do it. If you feel comfortable with trading pics of that nature, don’t include your face.

[Curiousboy01]

If y'all are close enough and both parties are okay with it then I don’t think it’s a problem

[Curiousboy01]

But definitely make sure you can trust them too!

[dudeinohio]

If you are comfortable with this guy and trust him, I guess it is all right.

Just hope he's not using you.

[Alex-Snow]

I guess it is ok only if both of you are ok with it and the nude pic has been requested.

[shortster]

If you haven't met them in person then you don't know if they are real. Best not to send anything identifiable; better still to not send anything.

[RickyMontgomeryFan]

It’s not a good idea to send nudes to anyone. Even if you trust the person, don’t send anything you wouldn’t want your grandma to see. What if their phone gets hacked?

[hafinjun]

Not if thats the sort of relationship your looking for. It should be a 2way street too.

[Mark987]

No I don''t find, just make sure you trust them.

[AngryCarl2]

No I wouldn't say you're dating or a couple, and you shouldn't be sending nudes.

[krabbbbbbbbbbbb]

If you don’t know each other or never met in person I would say yes it’s to much.

[msc545]

Don't do that. You never know who you're talking to.

[Ana1988]

Yes, only send them to someone you've been dating for a year and you trust.

[Staximus]

Send nudes if you want them on the Internet

[Staximus]

Some guy you talk to on the phone is not your boyfriend, time to check back into reality

[Simslover92]

I never said he was. I said they essentially said that but not that we were in a relationship. I don't even know if we will be compatible in person. I'm hoping so but I'm not an idiot. I know that we have to meet first and spend many days together before we can say that.

[queenofcardio]

Fully nude? Bad idea

[NathanDavis]

if you have to ask, then yes it is...

[Paige90]

It's ok to do it.

[ABC1x1x]

I've had a strick policy of never dating anyone i haven't seen naked or had sex with first.

[Kelly6]

@Simslover92 its too much

[Shiprex]

It's never wise to send nudes.

[Anonymous]

It's obviously too much.

[Brady]

U hav 2 ask that person if it's OK.

[Pterodon]

I say use your head then do what you want

[cootjuhh]

i sent them to strangers 😳🙈

[sage2021]

OMG!! 🤯

[Anonymous]

Definitely.

[princesskhya913]

in my opinion, yes

[fish5505_87]

Yes.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Are you comfortable with that

[wkhan_87]

Yes it is nonsense

[Anonymous]

No not to much