I have been talking and texting this man for while now and he is from Alabama but says he has property or lives in Florida and wants to fly me over there to stay with him for a week, so we can go to Disney and Universal or just hang out. My family though is trying to get me not to go or do anything with this man. Am I being foolish and stupid, and should I listen to my family and stop talking to this man. I have seen him in person on video chats and in pictures. I even looked him up on different look up sites and it matches. Anyway, I just need advice and to make sure I am making a good choice.
Should I got see someone I have never met but only talked on the phone, texted or video chatted with?
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For your own safety, it would be good that you suggest he fly over to visit you first, and you can bring a friend or multiple friends along.
If he doesn’t have any ulterior motives, it should be no problem. And plus, your friends can do a vibe check and let you know if they feel something is off.
I flew 7000+ miles to see my SO for the first time, met her friends, and passed the vibe check. We’ve hung out in groups to go eat, go to the movies, or hang out at her place with friends to enjoy pizza and horror flicks.
We’ve spent time alone together of course too. But, only after hanging out with her group of friends a couple times.
If he doesn’t want to do any of that, he may be hiding something.
Human traffickers can be very charming when they’re luring people into meeting them. It’s quite common practice for them to pretend to be your boyfriend before they flip everything around. The less people who know their identity and whereabouts, the better. (For human traffickers.) It’s much more difficult kidnap you in your hometown because you know your way around and you have connections.
So, I’d say invite him to meet with you, meet your friends. Hell, maybe he can even meet your father. (Like a guy picking up a father’s daughter for a prom dance. 😉)
In another long distant relationship, when I flew out to meet her, I dressed well and brought her parents a bouquet of flowers with bottle of wine to set a good impression.
I did and he was going to come down here, but I meet another guy and there would be issues with this other guy. This guy in another state he's pretty open minded when it comes to relationships, but I didn't want him to have issues, plus he fucks other ladies as well. He wants to take me to Walt Disney world and some other places. It would only be for a week and that's all. I told my mom about this that's the only one I told, but the other guy is closer but he's not as successful as the other man in another state, so I am torn as well.
both of these men but I am also trying to think who I will be happier with in the long run and if I am going to have to break their hearts when I choose what I want to do.
I mean I like both
So there’s a local guy you’ve been talking to an a LDR guy you’ve been talking to.
What do you mean there would be issues with the other guy? Are they under the impression that you’re exclusive with them?
The guy that lives close to me doesn't want me to talk to the other guy and the guy in the another state doesn't mind me having other relationships but wants me to also be with him exclusively whenever we are actually together.
Is the out of state guy the one who sleeps around? Or is that the local guy?
And who do you feel closer to?
Too early, don't go. Have him come visit you. That way you've got friends and family around.
"Stay wth him?" Sounds like he is expecting sex.