I have no idea what she wants, how should I approach this?

[Anonymous]

We haven't met, been getting to know each other the past 3 months, flirting with each other over text and phone, etc.

However, she seemed off last week, conversation went:

me - Wouldn't mind getting to know you more :-) x

her - What do you want to know x

me - Wondering when you are free at the weekend for me to call you? x

her - Got a pretty busy weekend to be fair like I don't know if I'll have time! x

me - It's alright I get the hint, I guess that offer of taking you out will have to go to somebody else x

her - I just feel a bit weird about talking to someone on the phone and stuff that I've never met or seen, sorry if you think that is weird x

me - was suggesting we could meet soon, but if that's what you really want... x

her - Meeting a randomer though.. It's like, I dunno. x

me - if it's because you like someone else then do that, at least you'll be happier. I'm alright meeting up but if you aren't then I can't force it.. You seem to have your mind made up x

her - No its not that. But I have a very over protective best friend who seems to think you're going to kidnap me and keep me in your basement x

me - Haha, sense of humour too! I wouldn't risk my future like that for the sake of a girl, but if its something you're not comfortable with, not much I can do.. I'd want you to be safe x

her - And I do want to see ya but want to make my friend happy and prove it's legit first x

I don't reply until early afternoon the next day..

me - I'd only consider meeting you if it was a public place and you brought a mate along x

Then she doesn't reply.

Late that night I decide to unfollow some people on Twitter on my phone and unfollow her without realising I had done, she sends me a text about it (somehow ignoring my earlier one). She also somehow realizes I unfollowed her so she could have been on my profile?

her - Unfollowing me, mature

me - was unfollowing some people on my phone, must have clicked yours accidentally x"

her - I doubt that very much

me - It wasn't intentional

her - I'ma bust yo assss

me - You wish

her - Stop being grumpy with me or I'll have to..

me - ... 'accidentally' unfollow me!

her - We going to keep arguing then yeah?

me - Unless you have it in your heart to forgive me

her - Sarcastic

me - Shouldn't you be in bed?

her - I'm older than you, so if I should be in bed you should definitely be asleep

me - Not thinking of grassing me up are you?

her - I won't tell if you don't

me - Be our little secret

Happened until 2am (my last reply was 9am as I fell asleep)

So, I have no idea what she wants or if she is making excuses to not meet up or is scared to, but I decided to back off and not act as interested, or at least not give as much attention. Not sure what to do now.. I feel like leaving it a week to see if she decides to make contact, or send her a text teasing her about the twitter thing? Why does she tell me she finds it weird talking to someone she hasn't met, yet reacts playfully towards the end?

Updates

+1 y

There's definitely a few things I could have avoided saying by the way, although I was confused myself

[Anonymous]

this is a weird situation for sure! I really can't tell myself what she wants. For sure she sounds like she does not want to meet up at this time. You asked and hinted that a few times and each time she either said or hinted at she didn't want to meet. Either she's scared because you are a stranger and haven't met yet or there's something else up. Does she have a bf?

But it definitely sounds like she likes the attention and wants to keep you around, for whatever reason, I'm not sure. I wish I could help you out more my friend.

[Asker]

As far as I've known in the last 3 years she's only had like one relationship which didn't last a week I think. She doesn't have a BF, but she has a lot of guy/girl mates she goes out partying with a lot of the time. Yeah I was thinking it was attention too and I hate that, will cut ties with her and see if she makes contact. Will eventually remove her off any social networking down the line as there's no point having not met.. don't want to get used either

[Opinion Owner]

thats a very good idea you have, yeah, see if you can ignore her for awhile, and if she contacts youi, Id try ONE more time in asking to meet up with her. If her answer is still no then Id say she likes the attention. Good game plan. :)

[Anonymous]

She is interested in you but doesn't want to meet up just yet for one of many reasons. It could be that she's not comfortable and wants to get to know you better before meeting. It could be that she's afraid her "friend" might judge her for meeting a random person that she met online. It could be that she's interested in chatting but doesn't really care to meet you in person.