What’s a red flag that you ignored, that you won’t ignore again in the future?

[7Phoenix7]

🫴❤️✋

There is always something we wished we hadn’t just brushed off…

[exitseven]

I dated somebody long distance. We went to the same college and both lost our scholarships and had to leave. We lived 1500 miles apart. She really put very little effort into our relationship. I went out to visit her maybe dozen times in 4 years. She visited me twice and once she only came because I threatened to break up with her. She told me she loved me and we talked about getting married. Still I wondered if she was this inattentive while we were dating , what would it be like being married to her? I finally decided that I had enough and called her late one Saturday night and broke up with her over the phone.

[7Phoenix7]

I’m glad you did. Probably would have been even worse in person…

[exitseven]

@7Phoenix7 Now that I look back on it, having a long distance relationship really dragged this out longer than it should have. When you do not see somebody for a long time you overlook all the negative things about them because you do not want to ruin what little time that you get to be together.
She really was special and I really loved her but towards the end I just did not see her the same way.

[Finchie40]

Next time I am going to make sure I check her medicine cabinet to make sure she isn’t mentally psychotic

[7Phoenix7]

Lmao 😂

[AgentG111]

They all are !

[Nikki1989]

You can often tell a lot about a person by their taste in music. I found that out the hard way, unfortunately.

[Crimsyjo]

Oooo tell me more!

[7Phoenix7]

Interesting… but very true now that I think about it.

[DishLady]

Stalling with an answer to a simple question.

[7Phoenix7]

Ew… brought back bad memories lol

[DishLady]

I think we all have one of those at baggage check, lol.

[HawkPerception]

Being a feminist or liberal. All of my partners were good girls, but I do not resonate with feminist or liberal views. It's a part of why my 2nd ex and I broke up.

[TrueConfection]

Not having any hobbies.

[Zack-Bann]

Her constant desire to recharge her own batteries by being away from people
And getting overwhelmed at the slightest hitch


It’s ok to be self aware of your mental health but having the mental fortitude of a paper straw in a tornado is not something that can be dealt with all the time


And it leads to selfish decisions

[7Phoenix7]

You dated a toxic introvert? lol

[Zack-Bann]

Yeah basically
And she was pretty social for an introvert
Her schedule was always full
I had to fight to get a few hours of her time which i find wrong. As her boyfriend I should have priority over some random friend she bumps into once a year

I never asked her to clear her schedule but she never made an effort to include me in at least a small part of it

[Anonymous]

She said "I don't care about politics, I care about people". What she MEANT was "I don't care about people who don't agree with my politics". I knew when she said that, she was a conservative, big time. I ignored it for a while because she was cute and really into sex, and was really good at giving oral. But after a few months it got boring so we just kinda ghosted each other.

[7Phoenix7]

That’s sad lol

[Opinion Owner]

Which part is sad? The sex was pretty good! Not good enough to stay with her because of the rest of things, but it as definitely fun for a while!

[genericname85]

i don't ignore my red flags cause i have them for good reason.

[7Phoenix7]

What are your red flags?

[genericname85]

Smoking, morbid obesity, big tattoos, not asking questions on a date, Talks about previous relationships a lot or previous relationship was very recent, feminist... There's probably more but I'm too lazy to list them all. Why does it matter to you?

[TonyMetal___86]

When someone is able to leave you once or twice than he/she will always leave you, so the lesson that i've learned is that when someone leaves me, than i'll leave them for good with no returning back!

[7Phoenix7]

Good idea 👍

[Razp_Sorbet]

Picking fights its not normal to fight all the time in a relationship

[Anonymous]

Actions (or lack thereof) over words. You can’t trust what people say, especially women.

[7Phoenix7]

Why especially women

[Opinion Owner]

Because they think they’re doing you a favor by lying to you. Letting you down easy. But it doesn’t make sense. A strong man will stand on principle and do the right thing. I’m not so sure if women have the same ability. I’d love to be proven wrong but you really have to pry the truth out of them. Pry anything out of them actually. Everything women do is like covert and sly. Out of fear. If you’re not aware of it as a man, a woman can easily ruin you this way because you want to be able to trust them, you want that respect as a man, that they respect you enough to be honest with you, but they seldom are. They run and hide from the truth and hope whatever conflict there is just goes away.

[7Phoenix7]

Not all women are that way. Seems like you have dealt with a bad batch.

[goaded]

Not respecting my feelings and desires while expecting me to do everything they choose.

An equal relationship: we're both free to do whatever she wants.

[AgentG111]

I don't believe I'll list them. That way they can't be avoided and I'll know.

[7Phoenix7]

Lmao

[AgentG111]

Glad you laughed!

[BruceWayne32123]

If the girl isn’t into butt stuff… I just can’t make that relationship work.

[7Phoenix7]

Hahaha

[BruceWayne32123]

Was hoping you’d get a laugh out of that one

[AgentG111]

That's freaking hilarious!

[OneViewpoint]

People's or an individual's inability to change. I won't wait to pull the trigger

[Simslover92]

Being sexual off the bat.

[MikeTheBartender]

No hobbies

Obsession with social media

No close friends for long periods

Not kinky enough from day 1

[Twodogs0525]

Not to start a relationship after they've had a very recent breakup.

[sage2021]

If he's checking out other women when he's around me, his girlfriend.

[Fireguy17]

if she is coo coo for coco puffs and the sex is awesome, someday you will wish you moved on sooner.

[YourExLover69]

Making sure she isn't inconsistent during chat/texting. She isn't seeing multiple guys

[Staximus]

Women that fuck on the first date (might not ignore that)

[Zionne]

lying, even if its just small things

[7Phoenix7]

Yep definitely

[Shiprex]

Trusting them to be loyal

[Ariesman81]

The way she talked about her husband...😖

[snermcger]

Prison tattoos.

[7Phoenix7]

Face tattoos scare me

[snermcger]

Oh yeah. No doubt!

[Kingofkings1992]

@7Phoenix7 what about neck tattoos?

[snermcger]

@Kingofkings1992 I have had a saying since those things started popping up.
Show me a girl with face or neck tats and i will show you a girl with severe daddy issues.

[Kingofkings1992]

@snermcger eh. Maybe, maybe not. "Daddy issues" can manifest in many ways. I am in no position to judge, and neither are you my friend.

[7Phoenix7]

@Kingofkings1992 I don’t fear those. You have a tattoo on your neck? What is it?

[Kingofkings1992]

@7Phoenix7 I have 3 on the neck lol. Spider on the right side, centipede on the left, and one on the back too 🕷️

[snermcger]

@Kingofkings1992 Oh I can definitely judge. It's called pattern recognition and anecdotal evidence.
Judging is what keeps us alive. You should try it.

[msc545]

Initial inappropriate friendliness from women.

[Anonymous]

Girls who talk too much.

[Friendddd]

I have never had a girlfriend

[Siajanua2027]

Women who only talk about themselves

[ineedaname9]

Not to get back with an ex.

[Raydergman26]

The fighting and having the cops show up

[MikeTheBartender]

Lol me too!

[BarryLiverstone]

A smoker