What's the biggest red flag that you ignored during a relationship?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

-“he’s just a friend”
-“it’s not like that”
-“I don’t think of him that way”
-“he’s like a brother”
-“I’ve known him my whole life”
- “Trust me, there is no one else”.
-“you need to trust me”

-If she leaves out a specific name every time she mentions a group of people, she is 1000% fucking or will be fucking that person.

If she mentions a weird truth that makes you feel she can be trusted, but makes her look vulnerable. Ex: “Some random dude asked for my number today.” She is covering up something and this is a deflection to make you think she is trust worthy.

-talks about someone more than normal
... then stops talking about them completely.

-hiding phone or being protective of it

-hanging out with people or doing something not ordinary more often.

-Gets angry when you ask basic questions (where were you)

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Well I would never say I ignore them... but my bid red flags insecure women, once they show any degree of insecurity I bail. But lets be honest, if the sex is good guys will put up with some degree of bullshit for as long as it lasts. That's not say they ignore it, but they do the math and think some sex is better than no sex.

So they turn a blind eye to finical problems, insecurity and anxiety provoking, passive agressive bull shit as long as they keep getting laid..

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Not the biggest but a common red flag... Believing a guy could just be friends with a girl he used to crush on. Never falling for that bs again. she's usually the first one he’ll try to hookup with when things go left (or she’ll come seeking comfort from him when she's hurting).

Crazycookie23 · Accepted Answer

When he trash talked all of his exes. The guy will literally make it seem as if everyone else in the world is messed up and that he's completely innocent. Now he's doing the same thing to me🤣😭

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

A big lie in the very beginning.

wheresmrcunnunglis · Answer

Oh boy, here we go.

- Them opening up about deep traumatic stuff that happened to them as a way to deepen our connection to each other quickly.
- Trying to insist on me staying over at their house and leaving my stuff there in the very beginning of the relationship.
- Talking about what they think about make-up or how women shouldn't wear it.
- Saying that they're a feminist. 🙄
- having a nasal-y voice. Never will I ever overlook that shit. like ever. just no. 🤮

honeynut-scenarios · Answer

He punched a hole in my wall after a week of seeing each other. We’ve been together a few weeks short of one year, and I’m now about to begin my ‘break up’ letter.

Chlo3_2001 · Answer

Him trying to sleep with and actively engage with other women while we dated. This was when I was 18/19 and I'm learning to establish better for myself.

Anonymous · Answer

Libido excuses.. there was always a new reason why she hasn’t been as horny for periods of time. Yeah let me tell you, ignoring these damn signs and accepting these damn excuses has secured me a life in a boring marriage with infrequent and BLAND sex. Ugh I wish I was 20 again to redo it all over

petitedollbabee · Answer

Him using dating sites and claiming he’s only using them to meet new “friends”, even though his profile had dick pics on it. And him being addicted to porn. I should’ve trusted my gut instinct before he cheated.

Agape93 · Answer

The gaslighting probably. It went downhill from there.

exitseven · Answer

I dated a girl who was a bartender. Her whole life revolved around drinking. It was fun at first but after a while it just got too crazy.

Babygirl_S · Answer

He had had casual sex once. Such men are not boyfriend material even if they're extremely handsome and behave well.

admles · Answer

Demanding my passwords and snooping through my messages every chance she got, accusing me of cheating when I never did.

Typical case of projection; she was the one cheating so got paranoid that I must be too.

ThatOneBee · Answer

them constantly talking about other girls and then turns out they were dating 3 other girls and yea they kinda just threw me away

IMuser · Answer

Attention seeking behaviour and lot of male friends

Desconhecida · Answer

Verbal abuse, gaslighting.

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of drinking, recreational drug abuse, verbal abuse, gaslighting, going out with his friends til 5/6am, doesn’t think much for the future, hides phone,

Darine123 · Answer

He get annoyed at me then found out later that he acted like that cuz he cheated

msc545 · Answer

My ex was cheating on me and I didn't realize it stupidly.

bowenw · Answer

Getting easily agitated.

LaNc3L0TT · Answer

Her mental instability, haha :D

driven159 · Answer

Her drinking alcohol way too much

DiegoO · Answer

Extreme insecurity and jealousy.

cosmicallyinclined · Answer

pushing my boundaries.

JoyGirl · Answer

Smoking and vaping. Not gonna happen, again.

Gimmesomegandb · Answer

They liked to fuck me in front of their family.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

They had multiple sisters

Anonymous · Answer

Her being physically abusive.

goldfleur · Answer

Controlling

moonpie89 · Answer

How needy he was.

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