What are easily missable red flags, in your opinion?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

[MCheetah]

In women? Ooh boy, take a seat.

This was taken from another site. I did not write this. However, I did post it all in one single MyTake.

"These are some possible red flags I've noticed in certain women for a while now. If you're looking for a good partner for a stable, healthy relationship filled with peace of mind or just curious, this could be worth a read:"

1. Long nails.
2. Fake hair (or long, bright colored).
3. Heavy makeup.
4. Provocative clothing.
5. Big earrings.
6. Very active on social media (attention seeking content; thirst trap antics, etc.).
7. "Questionable" questions (e. g. "Babe, would you date me if I were a worm", "babe, do you think I'm pretty").
8. Tattoos/piercings (especially in weird places).
9. Most/all of her friends are male.
10. Promiscuous or using sex as a proxy for feeling loved and adored (this can be especially true for people who struggle with attachment issues/daddy issues)
11. S. I. G. N language (Shaming, Insult, Guilting & Never being wrong)
12. Herd mentality/No sign of individualism (follows beauty standards, fashion trends, body ideals, bad friends or other trends without questioning or reflecting on their reasons for doing so)
13. Spoiled brat-like/elitist behavior (e. g. people who refer to themselves as "bad bitches" or claim to have "very high standards".)
14. Materialistic.
15. Cognitive dissonance (their actions don't follow their words).
16. No sense of boundaries.
17. Uses past events or personal information you gave when you 'opened up' to them, as ammunition against you during fights or quarrels.
18. Clingy, jealous or possessive (e. g. you not being allowed to have any female friends)
19. Frequent quarrels over trivial things. It seems some people think toxicity makes relationships more 'fun or exciting' (or even straight up admit they enjoy toxicity in relationships)
20. Habit of lying.
21. Has a tiny, little girl/baby-like voice (possibly due to trauma or abuse at a young age).
22. Expects you to 'mind-read' their thoughts and/or 'hints.'
23. Sh*t Tests. "Used to 'determine your frame.'
24. Ultimatums.
25. Can't/doesn't take 'No' for an answer.
26. Comes from a toxic/abusive home or lacks proper parental figures.
27. Passive aggressive.
28. Bisexual/dyke ("They have a propensity to get bored with whichever gender they're dating and move on to the next. This is why they always go back to females.")
29. Exhibits infantile or child-like behaviors, voices, or speech patterns when in need of aid. (e. g. acting "cute", naïve; sometimes with a 'sensual' undertone - often used to avoid accountability and responsibility or get their way)
30. Frequent mood swings. Could be 'preemptively' identified with certain comments e. g. "Having someone who can handle your mood swings is such a blessing", "Need a man that can handle me (when I'm mad, act crazy..)"
31. Into astrology.
32. Being "Free-spirited"; 'Hippie' or 'Gypsy-like'. (Could correlate with No. 8, 10 & 26. Possibly with No. 28)
33. Always plays the victim. "When you're so used to playing the victim you don't realize when you're being the villain."

"These flags could be a result of insecurities, emotional and/or mental immaturity, childhood emotional neglect, attention/validation seeking, attachment issues, etc. I think observing people's personalities, character and behaviors rather than focusing on their 'looks' or 'physical attractiveness' is a good way to overcome the halo effect. Also, like attracts like, so make sure to be self-aware and reflect on your actions/behavior to grow and mature as a person. And be compassionate to others as you'd be to yourself. These are just my observations and opinions."

[globetrotter22]

When she gives me big compliments about everything except my looks that’s a red flag I am friéndzoned.

That red flag took a lot of time to figure out. Seriously who wouldn’t mind being complimented about anything from the person they are romantically interested in? However if she never mentions me being cute, handsome or any other mention of me being attractive that’s got friéndzone written all over it. It is a respectful friéndzone but still a friéndzone nonetheless.

Another red flag is the girl is very comfortable and confident around me on a first date. If she likes me she will be at least semi nervous about how she acts. She will have harder time being herself.

The irony of that one is women usually get very turned on when a guy is confident and comfortable around them. However that’s can actually at times be a bad sign and they don’t even realize it. I know it’s easier for me to be myself around women I don’t feel attracted to.

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

Making plans and then never following through with them
Ignoring you most of the time for video games, YouTube, or their phone in general
Being unusually close with and defensive over another girl / guy
Talking about how amazing an ex was and how "special" they were
Talking about how they can't do anything intimate with you or special with you because their ex either "ruined it" or it's not "the same" as the ex
Getting angry and lashing out whenever they're told that they've made a mistake / done something wrong
Threatens to leave you or make a harsh decision over a small argument

[Puppystarfish23]

Not being fully committed. I remember I was kinda on and off with a guy I was crazy about. If he really liked me we would have never been on and off and he should have been as equally as crazy about me as I was about him. Looking back I wish I realised that one but I enjoy the chase and the drama to much at times. I was young and naive I thought he loved me back and was just scared. Which he said he was but you don't then cheat and two years later have a child if your scared of commitment

[Kkstarzz96]

when he insults his mom but is actually very close with her. basically he thinks loving a woman is calling her a bitch and yet doesn't leave her side. you either respect a woman or you only do so to get what you want from her. not the same and you'll soon see the difference as a girlfriend when he listens to you before sleeping with you and then doesn't reply shortly after you do.

[Moose304]

There is one that I keep hearing about that rarely gets mentioned in places like Reddit. Continued inattention when together. I am not speaking about situations where a person is dealing with a problem and can't get their mind on that person. I know a lady who told me her now ex-husband did this a lot at the dinner table. he even tuned out the kids. After months of this, she hired a PI and the PI discovered his affair.

[notwoke]

likes cats
doesn't cook
speaks the word feminism even once
fails to reject progressive ideas
withholds sex
sexual hangs ups/doesn't swallow after a reasonable break in period or has to be asked too often.
finances are a mess, not saving, etc.
liberal friends
homosexual friends
tattoos
drinks every day
drinks no alcohol ever
unshaven vag

[hypotheticallyurs]

Getting jealous in the beginning of the relationship, telling stories of how they’re always personally victimized (and not doing anything about it), trying to push marriage quickly

[Anonymous]

Girls with guy “friends”
Girls who are/were party girls
Girls who use drugs or drink
Girls with tattoos, weird piercings
Girls with a double digit body count
Girls who are aggressive
Girls who are high maintenance
Girls who expect guys to pay
Girls who have cheated in the past
Girls who are feminist
Girls who act like victims

[libsaretards]

When someone wants to spend an absurd amount of time with you. It is hard to tell between what is healthy amount of time together and what is too much sometimes.

[sage2021]

When a guy says "Trust me" that is a red flag not to trust him. He says that so you will let your guard down. Don't let your guard down.

[dustybiker]

Ones you don’t want to see because you are falling for someone. You’d rather keep the illusion alive, it’s more enjoyable. “Love is blind”

[D_Bone_Steak]

Why anyone bothers to try at all is beyond me at this point.

[Anonymous]

When you have sex early in the relationship... Or on the first date. Not a good sign for either person to be honest

[Adivabbaby]

Very good question I can say.. how they treat and talk about other people

[RandomGuy1030]

Not cleaning and cooking when you want her to.
Likes cats.

[Starlight007]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[In_Trance]

Friends and/or contact with an ex
Poor money mgmt skills
Brainwashed

[Creampiekarl420]

Women who like to travel
it’s sounds nice but they usually have ulterior motives for traveling not just seeing the world

[bamesjond0069]

Doesn't submit to male authority.
Ho past.
No values or poor values.

[Starlight007]

narcissism!

[Starlight007]

spotting a narcissist can be hard ngl! especially because they can be so charming and lovable!

[TacosRAwesome]

I suspect I'm their type.

[Starlight007]

@TacosRAwesome, please don't let them ruin your life! those people are cruel 😢

[TacosRAwesome]

I suspect I've been with 2 or 3 already.

[Starlight007]

@TacosRAwesome oh no😭💔 sorry hun!

[Flower7]

Working a lot.