Do you split the bill after a few dates or never?

[Anonymous]

Some women it safter a few some women its never. which are you?

A few dates

NEVER!!

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

The thing is, this bill issue I heard frequently about on GaG seems to only exist on GaG, I haven't seen any complications happening with bills in real life, I haven't heard anybody in my surroundings, guy or girl, complaining or even talking about bills in real life. It is like some internet legend to me lol

[Shrimpenjoyer]

Unfortunately it exists

[Awesomesauce2005]

You should be ashamed if you are a man and you split the bill. If you want to make sure she isn't taking advantage of you as a new partner I would suggest you take her to cheap restaurants till you understand that she isn't out to get you 🤪

[Asker]

so you pay everything? even long term? many women will like this attitude

[Awesomesauce2005]

I do.

[Asker]

do women offer to pay? do you decline?

[Awesomesauce2005]

Always

[Asker]

do you provide transport too? some women like that.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I do. They just have to deal with it being a classic British sports car from the 1970s with no factory ac 🤪

[Asker]

ok. many men complain this is not fair and only for stay at home mums. how do you respond?

[Awesomesauce2005]

Paying the bill without giving it a second thought shows you are financially well off and responsible. If you are worried about the bill then you probably aren't ready to raise a family

[Awesomesauce2005]

I'm currently 20 in Tennessee and. I'm debt free. I make about 50k annually and I work 50 hours a week with profit sharing

[Asker]

men claim this is not fair to be expected to pay 100% forever. Some claim its being a man. what is your response to the men who claim it is not fair?

[Awesomesauce2005]

Don't date if you aren't willing to provide for your future family.

[Asker]

good point. here a wealthy woman admits even if a man is working for macdonalds he must pay. 3:45 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bop9IkIDMBM&t=1s

[Asker]

https://www.instagram.com/p/DKCPZmeOxSh/

[Asker]

https://www.instagram.com/p/DRJw0rggXBX/

[Asker]

here is another one https://www.instagram.com/p/DRJw0rggXBX/

[Asker]

what if a woman is rich? what if she wants to pay and claims she is not a child? those videos are good

[Asker]

www.tiktok.com/.../7593848707817213239

[Asker]

ok has a woman ever persisted and continued to do so to pay or are they all happy with you paying 100% ? have they ever gotten cross with you or do they all just allow it?

[Asker]

here between 23 and 25 minutes a woman talks of how wealthy she is and claims that even if a man is working for macdonalds he must pay www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkImNpVgzoI&t=1494s

[Anonymous]

I always offer to split the bill even on the first date, because that's how it should be. Some guys will insist on paying it all anyway, and that's fine. But I would never feel right about not offering.

[Asker]

your rare

[Chocolatetwopoint3]

no she’s not, majority of women are like this, you’re just looking at the wrong women and keep complaining about it.

[Opinion Owner]

@imjustagirl15 I'm sorry to say it but he is correct. Based on women I know, and on many polls on the subject here on GAG, the vast majority of women still expect the guy to pay for everything on the first date.

[Asker]

this is what they say. their behaviour is different.

[Chocolatetwopoint3]

majority dont.

[Opinion Owner]

@imjustagirl15 Says the 15 year old who has yet to live in the real world.

Do us both a favor and search out some questions related to this topic here n GAG. You will be disappointed and disillusioned to find, as I was, that most women today still feel it is the responsibility of the man to pay for the first date. It shouldn't be that way, but it is.

[Asker]

are there men who will not allow yohu to ever pay for a date? are you ok with this?

[PeachyPie93]

If I'm paying you are friend zoned..

[Shrimpenjoyer]

Why so dramatic about it

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer It's not dramatic. I am just weeding out guys I'm not compatible with or the type I don't want as a boyfriend.

[Asker]

well at least yoru honest so many vote and leave no comments.

[Shrimpenjoyer]

What's the big deal about it? Your hair will fall out if you pay?

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer I can pay but I don't want to date men who are weak. Also I have seen men who wanted to split with me but date other woman and they paid for them. I assume because they were actually attracted to them. Men pay for things they actually want so it's easy to weed out guys who aren't serious or who will waste your time.

[Awesomesauce2005]

As they should be, you go girl 🤣🎉

[Awesomesauce2005]

And no that wasn't sarcasm

[Shrimpenjoyer]

You are dumb

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer I rather be dumb than date a broke whiny little bitch..
@Awesomesauce2005 Thank You :P

[Shrimpenjoyer]

You are a petty womanchild bitch, who probably never will find a good man.

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer I'm not worried.. I honestly don't know why you are offended by my dating preferences that have nothing to do with you, when you aren't even in my age range LOL

[Shrimpenjoyer]

I just find it stupid

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer That's nice.. but I am allowed to do what I want. Just like you will only date woman that do 50/50, I will only date guys who pay for dates. It's not that serious we are just looking for different values in a partner.

[Shrimpenjoyer]

I would pay it all sometimes, I don't care that much.
The thing is I think there are 1000 more important things to look at a partner, not if he pays the bill or not

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer Yeah but I don't have that kind of time to be wasting getting to know a guy for three months thinking he likes me just to be told "I'm not really looking for anything serious". All because he realized he liked one of his 6 other options..
A guy who pays and isn't rich is usually not focusing on multiple people, they are courting you properly and being serious.
Like I have had multiple men tell me they loved me for months yet they had no real interest in me that is why I go off actions and not words.

[Shrimpenjoyer]

So you think a man who wants to pay 50/50 just is not interested in you?
That's not true.
It can just be a man who prioritizes equality l.

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer In this dating shit hole it usually is..
I ain't a feminist tho so I don't want that kind of guy.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Not being a feminist makes you a woman I would go out with lol

[PeachyPie93]

@Awesomesauce2005 haha well thanks..

[Asker]

what percentage of men are happy to date like this. paying 100%. is transport to be provided too?

[PeachyPie93]

No idea what percentage do.. but its not like I would be doing fancy dinner dates..
So yeah he should pick me up too since it shows real effort. The guys I was gonna date were fine to buy the drinks and pick me up.. If he's not then I really don't care if we go out or not, since I am not interested in wasting my time with a guy who doesn't prove he wants me.

[Shrimpenjoyer]

What do you bring to the table?

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer What does the guy asking me on a date bring to the table? Probably nothing and is just wanting to fuck.. so if I don't have to waste my time finding that out the slow or hard way I really rather not..

[Shrimpenjoyer]

How does he know you are not a waste of Time? Why should he invest?

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer He doesn't.. but if he doesn't want to that's his choice it doesn't matter either way. At the end of the day he asked me not the other way around.. so if he doesn't want to pursue me how I want to be pursued then it won't happen.

[Asker]

do men complain at these demands or accept?

[Shrimpenjoyer]

Stop putting yourself in a pedestal

[PeachyPie93]

Some accept some just stop talking to me lol

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer I can do whatever I want.. No man has the entitlement to me unless I want to let him have it. So no I don't have to lower what I will accept from anyone since it is my choice and if Mr. Nobody doesn't like that he can move on to the other fish..

[Shrimpenjoyer]

Good luck staying single all your life then

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer I'm not worried about it lol

[Asker]

how do you inform men this is how it works with you? just say it early on? state the reasons?

[Asker]

do you want drinks with not on a date and just with friends?

[PeachyPie93]

That seems okay..

[Asker]

so how do you inform men of this? just text before the date? saying I do not do 50/50?

[PeachyPie93]

I don't tell them I just make my decision after the date lol

[Asker]

how do you tell them after a few dates 50/50 does not exist with you?

[Asker]

are you good looking? as with good looking men will be happier to comply. I am a 6 on the looks scale.

[PeachyPie93]

I never needed to tell them.. a guy who pays usually just always does it.. One who doesn't just drops off..

[Asker]

so you judge how happy they are to pay? are you good looking as this will make men happier to do it

[Asker]

what else do you like? is transport expected too? is buying drinks when with friends expected too?

[PeachyPie93]

Im probably a 6.. I notice guys who are my level or under are more willing than guys who think they are better than me looks wise.

[PeachyPie93]

Transport is nice but doesn't have to..
I dont usually go out for drinks with friends but I could by that myself..

[Asker]

so you like underachieving then ok?

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah I am not in a rush to get a guy and looks are not the most important thing in a person, so if someone is not gonna make my life better I don't need them in it..

[Shrimpenjoyer]

But if you liked a guy you wouldn't leave him just because he wanted to do 50/50 right

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer I don't know depends on the guy.. but I probably would chose to be friends instead..

[Shrimpenjoyer]

Why?

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer Men are usually better as friends most the time.
A guy who can't even pay for a cup of coffee shows he isn't invested or showing he actually wants you specifically. I want a guy who wants me and will actually try to get me, if he can't do that he belongs in the friend category. A lot of men just like the idea of you or want to have sex with you but are not willing to put in the effort. So why make getting with me easy, just so they can hurt me when they find the real person they want to be with and put effort into them.

[Shrimpenjoyer]

If you aren't willing to pay for a cup of coffee how can he know you are not interested in him?

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer I don't like men who want to be chased or treated like a princess, that's my spot lol

[Shrimpenjoyer]

What has that to do with anything i said? lol why should I man provide 100% of the money? What you have for him?
Just two holes?

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer I'm his home if he treats me well..
I'd love him, protect him, take care of him, give him sex and a family and obviously share my money.. but he has to prove he will be a good partner before that happens or he gets a shot.

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer What does a man have to offer to me besides dick and money?

[Shrimpenjoyer]

Him offering you money seems like a little thing to you? Seriously?

[Shrimpenjoyer]

If you want him to not split the bill you better not want him to share house chores too right? You gotta do those.

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer I don't really care bro.. I was already a house wife and had a lazy asf husband..
Plus money comes easily to me, I have luck on my side. So to me money doesn't mean a whole lot cuz I can get it myself.. Its not the money that matters it is the persons drive to get me, that I want to see so that I don't end up with a douche bag like my ex..
You haven't even had sex or a relationship so I don't get why you are pushing your standards on to me.. Date someone with the same standards and goals as yourself and stop trying to push your way of things onto other people. I will live my way just like you can live yours.. Have a good day bro..

[Shrimpenjoyer]

It's weird how you keep insisting on the same take

[Shrimpenjoyer]

Would you date someone working minimum wage?

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer How is the take weird? It is my standard.. You are the one trying to change my mind where as I don't care what you do.. So Why are you trying to get me to do 50/50?
Yeah I don't care if he makes minimum wage if he is a good partner..

[Shrimpenjoyer]

I mean you seem nice overall but like you being too hanged up over this is weird.
I'm just telling you a guy who wants to do 50/50 is not bad, you should start to focus on more important clues.
It would be a shame to break things off with a good guy over that, that's it really.
Nothing else I have to say.
Oh wait one more thing, a guy who pays it all is not necessarily good, he might as well be manipulative and abusive.

[PeachyPie93]

@Shrimpenjoyer most guys are bad, so if it keeps more away from me its for the best.

[Shrimpenjoyer]

You are so confusing

[Asker]

do men ever address this with you?

[PeachyPie93]

No..

[Asker]

just say nothing and leave or stay? thats how you like it?

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah I will stay and act like everything is fine then if they message me after I just say I'm not interested in meeting again..
Yes that is how I like it.. I haven't been dating in quite some time tho since men are just nuisances. I do talk to a guy online I really like often tho and that tides me over for male attention lol.

[Asker]

you dont tell them you will not accept it just say nothing?

[PeachyPie93]

Why would I tell them? No need to discuss things that could cause and argument or problems..

[PeachyPie93]

*an argument

[Asker]

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[PeachyPie93]

Exactly lol

[Asker]

well my female friend is far worse than you. With her transport must be provided and she refuses cheap dates and presents are not optional. I would tell her to fuck off but some men are happy to go with it. If Trish Stratus told me thats the rule to date her I would say 'Lets go'

[PeachyPie93]

Exactly because a man will pay for things he really wants.. Things he doesn't care about he will make excuses for.. like I already said, I seen it multiple times..

[Asker]

well if I was dating Trish Stratus I would pay 100 percent on problem. however you do need ot underachieve as a 6, Trish is a 9

[PeachyPie93]

Lmao I don't have to do anything but good luck trying to get your 9..

[Asker]

women like me and about 50% of 8's and 9's like me. I just gotta re enter the dating pool

[PeachyPie93]

I'm sure but anyways good luck :*

[Asker]

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[PeachyPie93]

Aren't you bored of discussing this yet?

[Asker]

too much free time on my hands lately

[PeachyPie93]

Lol these chicks are not saying anything wrong..

[Asker]

ok what about dating a hot guy and working hard to satisfy him in the bedroom to keep him. you dont wanna do that? now I know why attractive date ugly men

[PeachyPie93]

If sex is the only thing that keeps a guy, why bother?
I like sex but I ain't doing anything to keep someone with me... If they want to leave.. go on then lol..

[Asker]

ok some women are proud that they satisfy a man to keep him. you like men who work to keep you ok then

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah maybe women who have nothing else to offer a man. I just be myself, the guy either loves me or he doesn't. That is why I don't bother to date rn because I'm just not interested in men or going out of my way for them. If we both don't want to stay with each other we shouldn't be together to begin with.

[DishLady]

Never. The guy typically insists and feels insulted if I ask to cover. I tend to pout and ask to cover cocktails. I always win that one.

[Summeroflove]

Well some women insist…. Even paying when you go to the bathroom. So it depends. Everyone’s different both men and women…. So it comes down to compatibility.

[HawkPerception]

After a few dates? I do it from the first date and every date until we're officially in a relationship.

[Viola_456]

I donr like splitting bills, ussually we take turns in paying. First day should be on guy i think but but if we get to second im paying

[Asker]

some women the suggestion even after 6 months is a death sentence. dumped ASAP.

[Asker]

any man who dates you is one lucky dude and you dont need me telling you that

[Awesomesauce2005]

I insist on paying every time

[Asker]

when men date a hottie they insist on paying and providing transport and gifts as they feel like its impressing them. would you allow this?

[Asker]

would you date a man who never allows you to pay? have you ever done that?

[molonski2]

I think it depends on the relationship, the gap in age ( to some degree ) , I have always mostly been the earner so mostly I just pay , I have also had parners who have paid the lot.

But going Dutch , I think we did in my early 20s from memory , long ago.

[RavVid]

First one person's $s are not another persons $s.

So what is a modest cost to me might be a heavy cost to her. With some idea of what she earns I would manage things such that the cost is manageable for her.

Bill spliting is one of the ways.

[Anonymous]

I've never split the date yet. But I would say about 1/3 to 1/2 the women I've dated have OFFERED to pay thier half. I always decline the offer, but it is appreciated that they cared enough to offer. I think it's just good form on thier part.

[Asker]

on the first date the offer is only a test. if you take your finished.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think the bill should be split. I think the person who should pay is the person who did the inviting. Like if the girl asks the guy out she should pay because she was the one who asked him out. The only time you should split the bill is if you’re at a high end fancy restaurant. But if you’re at a coffee shop or a restaurant that’s not expensive the other person who did the inviting should pay the full bill.

[Asker]

ok do you ever ask guys out?

[RingOfFire]

Having a women split the bill is a huge turnoff for me. Ruins the whole feeling of the date. Don't even like if she asks although in this day and age I can forgive it.

Only exception is if it is my birthday or something and she wants to pay because it's a gift.

[Anonymous]

I always offer to pay the bill, but I will let her split it if she offers. In fact, if she doesn't offer, she probably will not get a second date. Female entitlement is a pet peeve of mine.

[Asker]

I wish more men were like you. sadly most are simps and like paying.

[Opinion Owner]

100%!

[Billlewis]

Nope. They tend to just order as many expensive appetizers, entrees, drinks and desserts on the first date as possible, then disappear, while using caller ID to dodge your follow up calls thereafter.

[exitseven]

I had a long distance relationship and we decided that the one who spent money on a plane ticket did not have to pay for anything else. It was usually me.

[Asker]

long distance thats hard

[exitseven]

it was 4 years that I will never get back.

[lightbulb27]

We work it out, but I learned to like what the government does,

Eat like a fat pig at a feast, and then hand the bill to the other table.

[MrChinaski]

It depends on your relative financial positions. If you both earn good money, sharing costs whether splitting or, preferably, alternating makes sense. If you earn materially more, then suck it up and pay.

[live2dance25]

Some women offer to split the bill, which is nice. I personally prefer that both parties ask, then it’s not an issue.

[Asker]

that is a test of you take it your finished. they will never talk to you again.

[Nikki1989]

Whatever happens at the time. If you have to think about it that much, you probably shouldn't be dating.

[CindyRuns]

Never split the bill

One of usually paid for both of us... And... Yes, I did pay about half the time

[lilBigPotato]

I don't care I'm ok to pay my part. If he wants to make some effort and cover mine sure that's nice but not needed. Just don't make it awkward.

[Anonymous]

Never been on a date, but i would split it everytime

[NerdGuy89]

50/50 from the first date

[Asker]

your in trouble with a lot of women doing that

[NerdGuy89]

Well if they don’t want 50/50, they can be a house wife.

[Asker]

nice way to speak. most women think you must pay for them just cause their women.

[NerdGuy89]

Women are capable of paying. But, If I’m forced to hold on to an outdated gender role, then a woman I’m dating should as well.

[Anonymous]

I always paid when I used to date, but now my girlfriend usually pays because I pay for everything else besides groceries.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I always expect to pay for myself.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

I have not issued splitting the bill

[queenofcardio]

I do it randomly yeah

[WhitneySnow]

When you guys move in together

[Ironco]

I'm old school, the guy pays.

[CherryLove007]

this!

[Asker]

for every date? are you happy to do this?

[douride2]

I have always paid my own way.

[blackeagle007]

How about no one pays?

[itsannalee]

Never.

[Asker]

are men happy to date you?

[elizamichale1]

I dont mind

[Asker]

will you date a man who never allows you to pay?

[Anonymous]

I never had a date.

[Anonymous]

If she's earning same as me then yes