Is a man crying a turn-off?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

It depends on the woman…. As well as why he is crying. Bible even says a woman who doesn’t comfort her husband during hard times creates shaking knees.

I mean finding a woman who has empathy isn’t just important for your future relationship but your future children. If you want to have kids by a woman whose cold and her love is conditional (if she can live at all) I don’t know if that’s the future you want for your kids.

Emotional support and being able to let go is important in long term relationship s. There’s a lot of people of both sexes prisoners inside their own homes. Cannot show emotions or their true selves because they’re with a narcissist. But all the sudden she/he can show emotions and everyone must walk on egg shells and feel bad. I digress.

But at the same time. Early on…. Be careful showing too many emotions and revealing too much. Someone can fake empathy. Let you cry…. To gain trust. And use it against you later. So don’t cry on everyone.

BCRanger10 · Accepted Answer

I wrote a full MyTake on this in November. On Men and the Expression of Emotion

It should have been in Guy's Behavior, but it got put in Sexuality for what I consider to be a very minor reason 😡 (I'll just repost it later without that particular line).

Anyway, short answer, I think it depends on the man's general disposition and what the reason is. I don't particularly fault a man for crying, but I also don't think he should be open about it.

Lilas · Accepted Answer

Men are human, I’d be concerned if they never cried Society made it forbidden for men to show emotions; but in reality it’s a sign of emotional intelligence; my partner should be comfortable to share his burdens with me, there will be many moments in life that would make any human cry…
While there are many ways to express our emotions some are healthy and some are toxic…
Comforting others isn’t always easy but we can’t judge a person for having feelings….

Ps : I wish men provide more emotional support to other men when needed; no matter how uncomfortable it might feel

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

Not at all. Quite the opposite. It shows emotional strength in my opinion. He's able to cry to me and be vulnerable which takes a lot of guts to do.

Finchie40 · Answer

It depends on the woman and what he is crying about. I know some girls’ get really turned off if their man cries , and in some circumstances I can see why , especially if he is crying over something petty , but if he is crying over something serious like losing a loved one , and she gets turned off by that, then she is a complete bitch.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

It is and everyone knows it. Anyone who suggests otherwise is lying or had the wool pulled over their eyes.

Account · Answer

No, on contrary it shows that they are able to express emotions and they have an outlet which is a positive thing.

OneViewpoint · Answer

No matter what any woman says, a guy crying in front of a woman kills any romantic feelings for that guy instantly.

It’s the same with illness, injury, complaining about your job, etc. Women want a man who makes their problems go away. Women have no stomach for a man who brings his problems to them.

Guys have to suck it up and deal with life. We take that stuff to our graves.

sawno · Answer

If it was to her in the sense that if I showed emotions and she'd now consider me less of a man i'd probably dump her and leave. A real girl is supportive when your having a tough time and gives you space to actually have a heart with her, and a real man will show that despite of that she can always depend on him to be strong when it matters.

Gobbyjobby52 · Answer

Looked at the votes and it seems that most women have voted no whilst the men have mostly voted on the yes, im playing devils advocate and saying Yes most women do find that thing at best tolerable for a while given I've heard around that some want a guy to be sensitive and open and then pull away when he does and break up. It's a hard one to really grasp socially of whenever its acceptable.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s not a turn off for me, i encourage it actually. As someone who tends to hold things in until I finally lose it, it’s not okay to hold things in. Now if a man was crying over something as simple as losing a video game or because the grocery store was out of his favorite snack when he asked then yeah I’d probably find it weird

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

To me personally, no, and it shouldn't be. Too bad a huge part of society seems to think otherwise though. That men should be strong and stoic 100% of the time 24/7 no matter what.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

If it is, then she is not someone worthy of being with. We are human beings too. We're not emotionless robots. We experience pain, we experience emotional hurt, to expect otherwise is simply ridiculous. Even the manliest men on the planet get scared and also cry. If a man tries to convince you that he doesn't, he is just insecure about his manhood.

Zack-Bann · Answer

A man bawling his eyes out like a kid who scraped his knee is always a turn off

But a man tearing up at the thought of something that means a lot to him could still be a good quality in terms of him having emotions

exitseven · Answer

Girls will say that they like a guy that can show his sensitive side but if he ever cried, they will think he is a wimp.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Yes and no. Nobody likes someone who can't control their emotions. Men and women alike. You have to kinda earn it by showing them overtime you have emotional maturity. You can't just be crying over everything lol.

Batwoman01 · Answer

Probably not, though a little bit of context would help about why. There are lots of instances where crying is a perfectly normal human response regardless of gender.

RavVid · Answer

Whilst girls will say no, they lose respect and with loss of respect they can't feel the same. Girls are very sexist.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I think it's hard to be horny and sad at the same time right?

DonaldDarko · Answer

Depends, is he crying over someone's death or just because he's a soy boy asshole crying over not getting the latest pair of designer shoes?

Kaneki05 · Answer

I think more girls find it to be than admit it

lilBigPotato · Answer

No of course not (assuming there is some kind of good reason).

Anonymous · Answer

It probably depends what he's crying about.

BruceWayne32123 · Answer

I cry from movies all the time. It’s my way of getting emotions out that I wouldn’t normally be able to. Haven’t been judged on it too harshly yet.

WhitneySnow · Answer

No. Not in my opinion. You’re a girl. What do you think?

Chayce · Answer

It's best to play it safe and don't let those tears flow in front of your girl. I don't even cry to myself

Anonymous · Answer

No it's fine. If he were to make a big production out of it all the time, then it would be a problem.

Zionne · Answer

a man showing you his vulnerability is not a a trun off for me, i think he just showed who really is

WonderingManII · Answer

I don't think it should be. Men have emotions too!

Anonymous · Answer

yes and all the virtue signaling needs to stop

Anonymous · Answer

I like seeing men cry after women beat the shit out of them. Only thing more fun than that is seeing trolls like you go down hard.

loveladies1 · Answer

I hope not, it shouldn't be. I would think women would see it as he's in touch with his feelings.

MemeSupreme · Answer

as long as it doesn't feel manipulative

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not at all.

Abbycado · Answer

Nope.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Not at all

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Not to me.

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