If you and a girl stopped working together and after not talking for a while she reaches out first, can I ask her to hang out?

[Anonymous]

We never dated

[SueShe]

As long as you are not intending to have deviant activities with her, you are basically free to talk to her.

I don't know where you are from since you post anonymously, but a man talking to a woman is nothing reprehensible. I would certainly not do it if you lived in a country or area where doing something like that if frowned upon or even forbidden be religious constraints or political ethics.

The question is always: What are your intentions, what is your ultimate goal when asking her to hang out. I presume that you are hoping to ultimately get into her pants.

[Asker]

I want to ask her to hang out to get to know her. I always liked her

[DishLady]

Honestly… ask yourself what for.


You’re not working together for a reason.


You haven’t talked for a reason.


What’s changed?

[Zack-Bann]

Obviously


You’re an acquaintance at that point
No longer coworkers
Just two people


If you wanna ask her out you should


Many relationships start that way every day

[Asker]

I thought we were still friends although we weren't talking because that's how it was when we were coworkers. So when she reached out I thought she wanted to resume that

[Zack-Bann]

Stop thinking about what she wants for a second

What do you want?

You want a friend? Be her friend

You wanna date her? Ask her out

Either way you either get what you want or nothing happens and no one gets hurt

[Nikki1989]

Of course.

How is that even a question?

[Asker]

Why can I ask her?

[beenherebefore]

You can try. Why not?

[Asker]

I didn't think I could. I thought I could only text

[Anonymous]

What did she say when she reached out?

[Asker]

Something casual like "hey how have you been?"

[Opinion Owner]

Oh okay, maybe just go with the flow then ask to hang if you think that is where the conversation is going

[In_Trance]

Yea. She wants to smash

[Asker]

You don't think that is thinking too far ahead? You don't think she just wants to be friends?

[In_Trance]

Nobody just wants to be friends

[Asker]

Girls are more willing to be just friends than guys

[In_Trance]

Firmly disagree

[Asker]

Okay fair enough. Me and her never had that kind of relationship. We talked outside of work but we didn't hang out

[In_Trance]

I can assure you she has a group of friends already. As do you.
Bring her back to your place give her a couple white claws and eat her ass. She has no interest in getting together and talking about YouTube videos or politics