Is there anything a guy who’s socially awkward, can’t flirt & always gets told no chemistry can do about it?

[Anonymous]

If he’s been on hundreds of first dates from dating apps and he always gets told no chemistry.

Yes there are

No it’s likely there’ll be a natural limit for him and he’ll have to accept he could be single forever

A total of 7 votes were cast: 3 girls and 4 guys. See detailed results

[Anonymous]

There are hundreds of things you can do about it, and I post them on here all the time, but no one ever listens, and no one ever does any of the things I suggest.

You don't have to do everything I suggest, or even most of them, not everything works for every person. But do one of them, do some of them, and if something doesn't work for you, there are hundreds more you can try.

There is something inherently wrong with these "guys who can't get girlfriends," not because of that, but because they are totally unwilling to do anything to make their situation better. All they do is post these endless questions asking for help and advice, and when I and others give it, they don't do one damn thing about it. Not one damn thing.

Do something to improve your situation and and make it so you're not socially awkward anymore, so you are able to flirt, or at least carry on a conversation, so you can have chemistry with someone. You can turn your entire life around by the end of the year.

So shut the fuck up and stop posting questions about it and do something. That's the only way you are ever going to move forward in your dating life.

[Asker]

And what can one do to become less socially awkward and flirt and become more confident? How about go to singles events and approach women to build confidence.

[Sunrising]

If someone is told they lack chemistry, I would suggest taking a chemistry course 🤣

Seriously, everyone is socially awkward, can't flirt, unable to retain dates in the beginning, it's a skill like anything else.

Some people learn these skills quicker than others, though some are given advantages in life.

Obviously this person needs to sit down for a rethink.

A positive is they are going on dates, perhaps just one more date is needed to find the ideal person.

I've never used dating apps, but perhaps they are meeting the wrong females on these apps, perhaps by change their info they give on these sites could help.

I would suggest meeting females in different ways like courses, hobbies, etc. and just by being friendly with people, and not be in a rush to meet the perfect partner.

[Gobbyjobby52]

These two votes seem like extreme ultimatums, he needs to work on his confidence in a natural way with time and try not to be someone he isn't because it backfires later with things like divorce, relationship strain. It'll take longer and he'll find fewer matches but if he can't flirt and doesn't learn it with time he shouldn't do it because it will fall flat and look snobby which can make natural awkwardness look out of alignment with him. Dating apps also foster a lot of self absorbed women who want the best looking guy with the nicest look car pick, so I'd encourage him to not use dating apps and let things come naturally when opportunities in general come up.

[cherrytreeblossom]

not being so negative would be a start, who the hell would want someone like that in their life, constantly dragging them down? yuck!

[In_Trance]

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