If we’re always saying we’re looking for the right person, why do we never seem to find them?

[loveyouoak]

Maybe we want someone who doesn’t want us. What do you think?

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[ohsheeT]

Most of the time that's the problem most people are just looking with there eyes. They want that eye candy.

If they get together most time it doesn't last because the person they see on the outside is not the person on the inside.

And they end up splitting up

It is the person on the inside. That has the heart the kindness that is wise is the happy person the lover. The giver.
You choose a person on who they are within. Morals values ethics. They're energy , your energy , that is the connection that is , what becomes one , not the outside of each other

[MrChinaski]

'Right People' are all around you. Love is not something you can find by looking, it's a result of the work you put into building it together.

[DishLady]

LOOKING is the problem. Folks can sense when a person is "on the prowl" for a relationship and they all stand back to let you do your thing...

[Berethor]

Wanting someone who not want us, also it hard to find out of more than 8 billion in the world.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/All_Love_Is_Unrequited

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Could be that the right person in question doesn't consider us the right person yeah lol.

Otherwise, that person could be a rare profile if criteria are strict enough, those criteria could even be unrealistic if they're based on ideals more than experience?

[SieghardWalsung]

I can't relate

I find decent potential prospects in many places I look.

Women as a whole I think have this weird habit of expecting the right man to just appear one day out of glowing mist that rains rose petals, posing heroically while angels sing in the background or whateverthefuck.

Really it all starts with just being willing to get to know people. You're not going to be 100% sure all at once.

[Rangers]

Cause 90% of us don't even know what we want, let alone be able to figure out who, the person you'll end up marrying probably lives in your neighborhood right now and you just haven't met them yet

The parent of our future children probably walked past us in the grocery store, this week, but we didn't know it

[heyhey321]

Maybe we’re just locking onto people who we subconsciously know don’t want us just to validate our beliefs. We keep running and they keep staying out of reach. Self fulfilling prophecy.

[loveyouoak]

Absolutely!

[heyhey321]

But that’s just half the story. The one that is being ran after is subconsciously doing the same thing. 50/50 both get what they “really” want haha. The blame game on just one party doesn’t do anyone any good.

[Nikki1989]

The reason "the right person" feels so elusive usually comes down to a mix of psychology, timing, and a few common misconceptions about how connection actually works. Some people just don't get it and probably never will.

[Anonymous]

Even if you find her, there is no guarantee you'll be able to be together. Unfortunately, that is my experience.

[ChillDude4L]

I guess, its lack of help nowadays, no one got time to help someone.

[heyhey321]

Someone always has, if we can be open enough to let ourselves ask for and receive that help.

[jahaims]

Most people are too immature too find or attract a healthy partner.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes - sometimes life always feels like a 50/50 split banana split 🍌 🍨 lol

[NathanDavis]

I have found them

[Sam1133]

Bkoz right person on your left side 🥰

[dudeinohio]

Some people do.