When should you have the exclusivity talk after you start dating?

[AliceGregory]

[Master_Debator]

When you both decide to. Be careful though. There is a lot of vultures out there that just want to remove you from "other options" while they keep looking for better options than you. You have to learn how to weed those fuckers out and it takes hard moral positions to do so over your feels.

Someone serious is just tired of the games people play, isn't really in it just for the sex with you and to remove you from "other options" and isn't fucking around with bullshit like girls night out or boys night out. You can make an agreement with someone that's actually serious about serious shit.. but pickup lines and feels... you can't just a relationship on that shit. You have to be serious and no longer into doing bullshit yourself.

That's when you should have exclusivity talks.. when you are done with bullshit and you sense they are too. Again, be careful for deception. Don't let them sense you're trying to figure out if they just want to get their dick wet elsewhere whild locking you down... test them with getting their dick wet elsewhere instead. If they go for it... let them go. They're not ready for a 1 on 1 relationship and are still seeking adventures in pussy land.

Good luck.

[Hagar88]

When you date exclusively then its to the exclusion of others. It should excluding others from dating you at least 3 dates in and before you have sex. You shouldn't be having sex with multiple people.

We should ho back to courting.

Courting is the traditional, intentional process of getting to know someone with the specific goal of marriage, often emphasizing deeper connection, family involvement, and slower pacing compared to modern dating. It focuses on building a foundation through courtship, often deferring physical intimacy, and is viewed as a serious, committed, and often romantic endeavor.

[MontBlanc]

I think exclusivity shouldn’t be rushed, but it also shouldn’t stay unclear for too long.

When two people start realizing they genuinely enjoy each other’s company and see potential for something more serious, that’s usually the right time to talk about it.

For me, it’s less about a specific timeline and more about mutual intention and consistency.

If the connection feels real and both people are investing in each other, the conversation tends to happen naturally.

[Natasha1995]

I never felt the need for an exclusivity talk. You just know.

[ChiTown33]

This is my sentiment as well.

[OlderAndWiser]

When you are ready to stop dating anyone else, and when you feel that your partner is at that same point. And it should be before you start having sex. I am married now but, in the past, I usually had that conversation after about a month of dating once a week.

[Finchie40]

As soon as you feel ready to settle down with them , when you know they are all you want

[realbiggrin]

I feel like if you need to have that "talk" you either worry too much, or you already know their not the one. Just tell them how you feel but having talk about it isn't going to change them. They are being it or their not.

[new-person]

That all depends on:
- how you feel
when you start having feelings
-Did you ask the other person if they feel the same way
If you did all the above, then it is time for the talk.

[HighValue]

By the third date, if people aren't automatically exclusive, they are morally corrupt and should be avoided.

[Still-alive]

whenever you both feel ready for one. there's no one answer for this.

however just don't go too fast. if you feel that way don't go for it yet.

[dudeinohio]

When everything feels right and you want to develop a relationship.

[4ngelic]

a couple months

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

Follow the 90 day rule.

[Jeff51]

1 or 2 months in

[Daytoday79]

I always thought it's taken for granted

[beefcakebradybatson]

ASAP.