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This guy I texted for a couple months. We finally met a few times and he was super nice. After a while he would start to be distance, and I would wonder what is going on. I was confused. Then finally, 1 day I didn't hear from him for a couple days, he called me and he told me everything that he was experiencing. An issue with alcohol that it's never been like this, but he has been drinking for 3 months now daily, sometimes a 6-pack. S so he was telling me that he needs to quit and what his plan was. He was going to the doctor for medication. He made an appointment at the gym with the fitness person to start exercising, to try to get in the healthy frame of mind and physically, and he called me his girlfriend. The last time we talked was the day before yesterday and said he was gonna call me back and I haven't heard from him since. I'm confused. I don't know what he may be experiencing. Maybe it's because he told me he loved me and I didn't say it back. I dont feel we're there yet. Especially now. I'm not sure what is going on if I should be concerned or just leave him be. He doesn't have family that lives in state. If anyone has some insight on if he could be experiencing something mentally concerning id appreciate it. I called him but he didn't call back the day before. I left it alone for a day. This morning I called and left a voice note telling him I was checking to see how he's doing and hope everything is going good for him and I've included him in my prayers. I told him sometimes I fo feel like telling him I love him but I hold back. Its because we haven't got to spend a lot of time together. I told him I hope he has a good day and ill talk to him later. He hadn't opened it all day yet. Im ok with it im more concerned than anything right now. Thinking possibly he's experiencing different emotions heightened? Im not sure what someone goes through with quitting or trying. Its possible he has not too I guess. Well I let him know i care and am thinking about him.
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If he is really into you, I don't think he would be treating you this way and making you wonder. It is impossible to know for sure what he is up to, but all the excuses he gave you for distancing you previously could be his way of covering up the fact that he is seeing other women.
I agreed im always skeptical I've always been that way. But I keep catching him telling the truth the times I didn't belive. I've gotten to the point where I started thinking im just looking for things wrong. I think ill always be cautious tho.
It is good to be cautious until he earns your full trust.
It’s hard to say, but he possibility might be going through alcohol addiction or withdrawals.. have you ever been to his house incase you can check in for a wellness check? I hope he’s okay.
He called. He said this is day 3 of not drinking and he didn't feel good. He said that second phone I've been on is off and to use the other phone. He has another doctor appointment this week. He apologized. It sounded legit I didn't feel like anything didn't make sense. I've been to his place 4 times and have spent the night. I feel like he's pretty honest partly because I was supposed he told me about his problem. Thanks 4 your input. I was worried
If he is being honest, he may just be going through withdrawals.. which is something his body won’t be used to without the alcohol and he will be encountering uncomfortable side effects for a while. Hopefully he remains strong and don’t go back to the alcohol misuse. But yeah it’s good he has a doctor appointment to talk about his condition and see what the doctor recommend for treatment. If he needs extra support, I think resources such as AA groups or individual AOD counseling trying to reach for sobriety will be helpful. I do recommend for him to have the professional support and you cheering him on with his progress.
Yes I hope for anybody in addiction. Thanks for your input.
Your welcome! Yeah, addiction is an ongoing recovery journey… it takes a while and having positive support from both personal & professional is very helpful for them :) I hope he gets well and everything works out for the both of you!