Why do the gym guys avoid me and walk away when I walk in now?

[Anonymous]

Every time I walk into the room they walk away from me and look over! This just recently happen. Now they work out in a different room. What is going on in this situation…? One of them used to have a crush on me where he look over where I was at? What is going on

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3 mo

Let me say the guy used to follow me around upstairs on the gym and now avoids me with his friends?

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3 mo

Last why would he want his friends to be involved in this situation because i felt like i give space and then they left all the sudden? i could be looking at this wrong but im trying to figure out the clearer picture.

[HollyK21]

How do you know he had a crush? For all you know he was noticing you, noticing him, and doesn’t want you to get the wrong impression anymore. That’s why I’ve chosen to avoid guys in the past, so I could see it being the same for men.

[Asker]

Ya. But when I work out upstairs I got followed by him now he avoiding me with his friends and I have given it space too and respected it too.

[HollyK21]

I think it’s fair for me to say that without confirmation from him, then all opinions are speculative — including yours. Mainly because you are simply interpreting his actions as what you believe to be the case, without having any actual validation from him. You could feel fully convinced that he was interested — it doesn’t make that fact. So if you really want to understand, you must be willing to look outside of your own biases and truly be ready to consider other possibilities.

In my opinion, things like this could be coincidental. I know you won’t agree, but without clarification from him, it’s absolutely fair to consider. I also feel like he is trying to set a different tone with you, and that could mainly be because he’s noticing you are taking notice of him, and he doesn’t want give that impression. The only way you could fully negate what I’m suggesting is if you refuse to believe anything other than he had feelings or interest and now he doesn’t.

[Asker]

actually i agree with you. I had to do this many times with someone else besides the gym and it was at work. Im gonna let it go not my place. If he isn't interested, than he isn't. I give space and let him go. Plus he might got someone else. I need to move on and enjoy my gym days without being bothered.

[Cyfris]

Thank God tik tok has ruined gym dating and it can go back to being a place where people can just go work out. They clearly avoid you because you are not worth the headache and they just want to do what they came to the gym for and work out. Get over yourself.

[Asker]

All I did was walked in to talk to members of the work place we knew. Maybe don’t judge cause I worked out before even walking into the lower part of the gym. I just saw them standing there and hide to avoid them too. Get over yourself is a real nice saying

[Cyfris]

You made it about you. "Every time I walk into the room they walk away from me..." It has nothing to do with you I would imagine. You had nothing to do with them going there and all they want to do is be left alone to do their thing and go on with their lives and not have to worry about what ever girl in the gym is thinking and would rather distance themselves.

[Asker]

What are you saying this just happen. I don’t make it about me I’m trying get a clearer understand of the situation. We all work out the gym and have respect

[Asker]

Have respect when people are trying understand something going with someone and not be rude about it.

[Abbycado]

Sorry, but how are we supposed to know?

[Asker]

You are fine.

[Anonymous]

Maybe someone is spreading rumors about you.

[Asker]

This could be and I bet I know who too.

[Opinion Owner]

Some envious girl?

[Asker]

My bros co. Worker