What can I say to a girl at her work that feels fresh and surprising?

[Anonymous]

i see this girl at her work now and then but feel like maybe i'm not talking to her about interesting stuff and wondered what else i could talk to her about that would be different / interesting and surprise her?

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3 mo

she wasn't even there which is odd as usually she works Friday nights so have some more time to think about it

[HollyK21]

What’s the point in all this? Because usually efforts such as impressing someone with your conversation is rooted in a deeper interest, and that may not be what she mutually wants. Most people avoid interoffice romance, because even when it’s allowed, they’d rather not shit where they eat. Your topics may already be interesting, or at least worth carrying a conversation about, yet she isn’t trying to go down that road.


In any case, here’s my opinion on generally having conversations with women. You could easily google some popular topics, it’s usually best to discuss things happening in present time since that’s the most generic. If you want something that’s specifically tailored to her liking then you should go back through the things you’ve previously discussed and see if there’s anything worth bringing up again.


Other than that I’d say to ask her out or ask for her number, because the best way to find fresh topics is to create new memories, aka new things to talk about. It’s like an LDR, things start strong, there’s lots of conversation and interest, but after a couple months without ever meeting up, they start running out of things to say and it gets boring.

[HollyK21]

Sorry I misread this as if it were a coworker, so ignore the first bit. Anyway, I remember you as that guy who takes interest in the younger women at this bar/eatery you frequent often. I feel like we’ve been unintentionally touching base about this for years now. I’d change my sentiments about this, because these waitresses/bartenders probably aren’t interested in dating or interacting with you outside of work, as that’s been the case for years when it comes to social media, texting, outings. So there isn’t the best chance to get to know her more and therefore, not a lot of topics out there. You could keep it generic as I stated before, but they may still seem unengaged.

[Asker]

i've already talked to her there on numerous occasions , this girl did briefly work at a restaurant but currently works at a pharmacy/drug store. sometimes she works cash but often on the floor doing stuff when i see her there , sometimes i feel like i'm interupting but she still talks to me

[Asker]

i don't follow her on social media , i've never seen her post anything to tiktok and her instagram page was set to private so not sure whats there

[HollyK21]

I know you’ve talked to her on numerous occasions, however I do think a big contributor is that you frequent her place of work. In the past when I’ve made mention of this, you said you tip well and ultimately expect a good amount of conversation, but to me it’s like a sense of entitlement because she couldn’t really do anything else otherwise she’d get in trouble. I’ve said before that I find you keeping up with their social medias a bit unsettling, and that maybe you should look into dating or finding a means of filling your free time that isn’t going to this place.

[Asker]

she works at a retail store , i've never tipped there but have frequented it and talked to her on numerous occasions. my sense was that our friendship was genuine and that she was ok with my attention. she is friends or at least knows some of the girls who work at that restaurant but she doesn't currently work there , i'm not sure if she plans to keep working at this store for much longer or not , she had indicated an interest to go to school in the fall although i have no real idea for what or an actual career she would be interested in

[nolabels]

Tell her that being near her makes you want to think of fresh and surprising things to say to her.

After she gets done looking at you like you have three heads, she may be intrigued by your unique method of opening the door between you and she may then think of ways of coming back to you.

#1 sales technique - Get your foot in the door. Once the door is open, the sale is statistically well on its way to being a done deal!

Your mileage may vary.

Lol!

Cheers to you!