He demeaned me, rejected me, devalued me but offered to take me home?

[Anonymous]

After disliking me on our date he offered to take me home or pay for my uber home… why not just leave… afterwards he ghosted me wanted nothing to do with me… I was nothing to him wants nothing to do with me and he pretends I don’t exist

I don’t want to date anyone else or be with anyone else. I’m just post lustful pics online

it’s been 2 years and I still feel hurt by it like I can’t move on

[Keyboardkat]

Why can't you feel anger toward him? He deserves it. And it would help you move on! Why should you put up with being treated that way? You deserve better than that. You deserve someone who will love you, crave you, treasure you and respect you. There is someone out there who fits that bill. But as long as you can't move on, you are not emotionally available to that guy! So go ahead. Get angry instead of moping and just feeling hurt! I used to be like you. I didn't know how to be angry at someone I loved. I thought it would be the "kiss of death." But you have nothing to lose now.

[Finchie40]

Well he sounds like an immature douche bag that you shouldn’t be pouting about, since he treated you that way , don’t sell yourself short be side one person didn’t like you , there are plenty of fish in the sea and eventually you will catch h a good one if you keep trying.

[Screenwriter]

Two years is too long of a time to be ruminating over this abusive person. I suggest you see a professional and talk this out with her or him to get you through this so you CAN move on and find some happiness. Good luck.

[Asker]

I’ve tried it didn’t work… the only thing that has helped me cope was the validation of other men seeing my body and not accepting love or intimacy. He ruined that entirely for me. That’s not even half of it

I hate myself for not being what he wants. I hate him for lying to me…. It’s just a very deep wound he opened up even more by making me believe that he could love me

[Screenwriter]

You need to return to therapy. You cannot "BE" anything but yourself. If that person doesn't want you, there's nothing you can do about this, except find someone who does like you as a person. And love yourself first. You have more work to do and I urge you to keep at it.

I don't understand why you're fallen into this black hole, but you must work your way out of it with a competent therapist. Don't give up.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You only get as much rejected as you allow yourself feel…

Raise your chin up, smile and date again.

[Asker]

I will never allow myself to love another man

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You are putting too much weight on the rejection of one man… It happens… I’ve been rejected… It is what it is…

They tend to come back…

It hurts but, life goes on and you need to find a way to cheer yourself up again.

I am sorry for your bad experience.

[Asker]

He watches a lot of trans porn and possibly sleeps with them… I wanted my revenge and I let people he knew know that and how of a predator he is

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I understand how you feel but revenge won’t make him choose you or make you feel better about yourself for long…

The best revenge is moving on and thriving… You can do that.

[Asker]

He will never love me will he?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Why do you need his love, someday his wife will be so tired of washing his stinky socks.

[Asker]

He’s sexually attracted to trans women and I’ll never be that

[molonski2]

He was just being polite , I'd always do same..
As for all the rest that's your interpretation..

You are going to have to move on , bcoz this guy is sure not coming back , so deal with it , in best manner that suits yourself.

Seek therapy or a phycologist.

[BadApple69]

Sorry you got hurt but you need to know that everyone has different wants and needs in a partner. You were not to his liking. That’s sad for you but don’t dwell on it. Move on and find that guy who will cherish being with you. He is out there. As the saying goes… you need to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince.

[Asker]

That’s true… I think I prefer being lusted after than an actual relationship. No heartbreak

He wants a trans

[MrChinaski]

Don't overthink it. Guys an asshole. Worse, he's an asshole that tries to make himself feel good about being so. He's not the only one.

[Asker]

Exactly!

[Unycorn]

Very attentive. That is a real gentleman.

Most men dont care about if you come home safe after...

Very good man.

[Asker]

Whatever you say

[Unycorn]

So bring you safe home should always be the goal of the man - always.

[Asker]

After disrespecting tho right? Got it

[Unycorn]

To be sure that you come home safe after he did not want a romantic relationship (did I understand it right) is very attentive. Here men don't watch after you then.

[William7489]

There are a lot of guys who are old-fashioned and see it as part of their gentlemen only duty to make sure they get the girl home safely as part of the date no matter how bad it goes. So that’s probably what he was trying to do.

[jshm2]

Lol, he just hit you with his validation web, is all.

It is his trick to make you his bitch that will always be thinking about him.

[slatyb]

Have you considered seeing a professional counselor?

[Asker]

For what?

[slatyb]

"it’s been 2 years and I still feel hurt by it like I can’t move on"

[whosnumber_1]

I think you need to move on but it I think there's more to your story here. Hard to give an honest opinion on limited information

[Asker]

Was I wrong to seek revenge and expose his secret attractions? ↗

[whosnumber_1]

It just means you weren't able to look at the situation pragmatically. You got caught up in the moment and weren't able to look at the bigger picture.

[Staximus]

Why are letting 1 shitty guy who is looking home have so much power over your thoughts? The guy and what he thinks don't mean shit, the hell with him. Go see a therapist already.

[LifeLover91]

He is stupid to reject you, how he likes trans means that he doesn't know your value, you are a woman.

You are beautlful woman, i know that, trust me

[Anonymous]

Avoid this website. It doesn't help move past this sort of thing. I have personal experience with this.

[LiamJHayden]

He was negging you and offered to take you home hoping he'd be invited in. You dodged a loser. No all guys are like that.

[Anonymous]

He just wanted sex. Unfortunately if you post a lot of lustful pics online that’s the kind of guy you’re gonna get.

[AngryCarl3]

Time to move on. And work on your self esteem. That might mean therapy.

[noohair]

Two years, you can’t grow if you live in the past…

[HollyK21]

Sigh 🤦‍♀️

[queenofcardio]

You need to move on..

[RingOfFire]

How did he demean you?

[Asker]

Asked me when I was last intimate, asked if my father knew about the pics I post, said he was scared to sleep with me because I’ll be crazier and more mind you he knew about my pics

[RingOfFire]

And you were surprised that a guy might think that after the apparently provocative pictures that you said like to post online? I'll grant you that he shouldn't have even met you if he felt that way after seeing your pics, but when you do things like that you open up the door to that kind of treatment. Men see you as easy and cheap. So they play games with you.

[Asker]

But we talked and developed a mutual respect and he never mentioned sex.. he asked how he could make me feel safe when I was protecting my mental health… he knew before we talked… he made it seem like he saw beyond my pics

[RingOfFire]

This isn't about whose right and whose wrong. It's about that you are attracting the wrong kind of guys by the online behavior you choose.

[Asker]

You’re right

[RingOfFire]

Got any extra pics? 😉

[RingOfFire]

Just a bad joke by the way. 😃

[In_Trance]

So what's your question

[Daytoday79]

What lustful pics

[blackeagle007]

Move on