Do you use or like my method to filter gold diggers? How do you avoid her?

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When i ask a girl out, if she said yes i say: "Considering we will each pay for ourselves, where should we meet?" Half say "ugh" showed they wanted a free meal. Half ask "like dutch'? So i say 'the first date we each buy for ourselves to see if it is good.'

On the date i noticed what she orders for herself- and lay the trap "is that all you want?" If it goes well then i say "i will treat second date" and plan it... and when she orders much more... You can guess what i say!

What method do you use?

dragoblack · Accepted Answer

It honestly makes sense tactically. You are trying to find a woman who views & threats you as a person, rather than someone to reap benefits from. I kinda work along the same, but if you live in the USA like i do, women like them are super rare. Most of society has engrained the 1950s standard from the time when the economy was stable, women have little to no rights, unions were strong and paid very well, and prices were super cheap. That standard doesn't work in this economy that is about to be insolvent[bankrupt without becoming nonexistent]. Everything is overly expensive, most jobs don't have opportunities and just have extortion, workers rights are mostly unknown, most people are struggling to just pay bills. Men don't get paid enough to be providors for women who have rights and can provide for themselves and their lifestyles. Standards for dating need to change to modern times. Most of the world honestly just sees splitting the bill in dating as a standard means of showing respect & intentions. The USA is living too much in the past

nomomrnice · Accepted Answer

I have had thousands of fake looking for husband supposedly women bots ask me all kinds of questions looking for Mr right in the quotes and lines that they say, reverse search and nine times out of 10 you'll find the same print somewhere in some magazine but I have made it quite clear to anyone that's approached me that if they're serious about wanting a husband they need to get their ass here call me from the airport and I will come bring them the money that they spent to get here reimburse them every nickel and we'll go home from there and out of 1050 ain't seen one yet

Unycorn · Accepted Answer

I do not completely understand.

Do avoid gold diggers don't wear luxury brands, don't chose the most expensive restaurant.

Go out eat & do things you do together and not focus on costs. So maybe a walk in the park. Before or after dinner. Don't wear expensive watches, jewelry. People who like to show needn't be surprised so meet people with same focus.

I don't know how you dress and behave. Just what I think.

To me I don't like people who wear expensive brands. I hate decadence.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Do you really think in this era any woman just wants a free meal? If anything I go to the dinners usually already having had dinners before. And had to apologize on my last previous dinners because I wasn’t hungry at all and they were offering me things to order because they wanted to give and share with me.

So I think many women would see that phrase as petty and even if they don’t care for your money, not many women want to date petty men.

Summeroflove · Answer

Well obviously some are easy if they demand expensive places and won’t offer to pay anything despite it being their idea to go…… If someone genuinely is interested in you they want to get to know you therefore coffee dates, going for walks picnics, etc are great opportunities to get to know you on a deeper level. No emotional depth is another issue if topics seem mundane to superficial and materialistic….. that’s an issue.

Some are more difficult because some people in the beginning can seem super sweet, go on simple dates, even chip in money, and tell you what they think you want to hear. But as time progresses you will see the red flags and don’t ignore them.

If their super superficial that’s their whole social media account etc….. That’s a red flag especially if they don’t has anything to really show for it. If she’s not making that money…. Who is? Either dudes are paying for her or she has some side gig you would rather not know about.

It’s another major issue if you’re doing all the initiating, planning, etc and she’s not investing anything. Someone genuinely interested will invest it isn’t one sided.

LazerBean · Answer

I'm sure definitely works, but you're going to also lose a lot of non gold diggers who are turned off by how tacky that all is.

fish5505_87 · Answer

I never used a method, this seems a little strange. It's like your setting yourself up for conflict. I'm only a couple years older than you, I'm old school, I'll pay, and see how things go. If your a gold digger I'll know before long.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I keep it simple on the first and often second meet ups. If she declines, I assume she is looking for freebies. What is funny is if she passes the trial she will get more than she could have expected, but most fail.

MzAsh · Answer

Sure if you just want to go as friends. This isn’t a date though.

jamesgoldman · Answer

I quit the dating game years ago, still have a gold wedding band for when I don't want bothering

exitseven · Answer

I always paid but I always took them to McDonalds.

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