I went out on 7 dates with her so far and only one of them has cost me nothing. The free date was our first date but the other dates were all paid by me. I am slowly starting to think, that she is just with me only for the money. Never has she offered to pay for anything. If I suggest her free dates or very cheap dates, she refuses to come with me because "she has better things to do" and she doesn't think the dates are exciting. I can mostly convince her when it involves something, that is going to be paid by me. I feel so used now.
I also haven't got laid but even then I do not think getting laid is a payoff for that.
Is she a gold digger? Should I drop her?
She takes your money when you're in need. Yeah she a trifflin' friend indeed. Oh she a gold digger!
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Thanks all! I have a plan. I am going to fully ghost on her, block all contacts with her and keep my distance from her. I will not tell her, that it's over but I will simply vanish. But from now on I am single.
She'd only go out with you if you're paying for her. She either believes that money is the root to love (which is wrong), or she's using you for free food (also wrong). Since she won't go out with you anywhere else except public, you won't be getting a relationship or anything other than her company on one of your dates with her. Think about it.. would a girl that really likes you attempt to make you pay for her? A girl that likes you would try to get on your good side. She'd try to impress you, and she'd at least pay for her own food instead of making you pay for hers. Would a girl that really likes you ever do anything like your girl is doing?
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You're right. I will break up with her. Thanks a lot man! I only wish I would have realized this earlier.
Clearly you're not upset that she's not that into you. So in response, you decide to stay "single from now on". Move on, and if you find someone, give it a try. Just don't be stupid
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What point is there being upset? It doesn't help me now. I just waste energy on those emotions.
I meant, that I am officially single now without declaring it to my now ex.
I can't understand why people are kind to others then feel taken advantage of. You aren't obligated to give. Don't give to girls if you fear being used. It's as simple as that. You can only be used if you allow yourself to be. You're responsible for being taken advantage of because you are the only opening your wallet
Pay attention: This is a person who wants a particular lifestyle. She can't be happy with ordinary things which aren't monetary. Some people are simply accustomed to that while others don't want to get stuck in the disadvantaged life they grew up in. Yes, she is about money.
Does she have a lot of money as well? You might want to start with that question. My boyfriend refuses to let me pay for things when I'm with him but because he's just being nice it's not like I'll get mad if he doesn't
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I don't know or care how much money she has but I feel like I was just squeezed out all along.
I don't mean to sound harsh or anything but It's important because if she doesn't have it she might be using you, and I'm only telling you this because I've been through something like that with my last boyfriend!
If she refuses to go on cheap dates then run like hell. She is not in it for you, because if she was the price of the data wouldn't matter. Spending time with you would make it worthwhile.
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