Is she a gold digger?

[guy76]

I was on a date almost two weeks ago. It felt great. I was the one who paid for the food at a restaurant.

I asked for a second date. She said yes. It was supposed to be three days ago, but she cancelled at the last minute.

Why she cancelled? Well she wanted to go out on a very expensive restaurant. I didn't know it was so expensive. So I said I can't afford it right now. We can go to a cheaper restaurant or watch a movie at my or your place, or take a walk or something else. But then she said almost right away she will be with a friend instead. I told her that was quick to plan with a friend. She said she already planned with her friend over a week ago. I asked her why she then said we could go on a date on Friday, if she already decided to be with a friend the same day. She said it nicer to go out on a date on a Friday.

I asked her if we could watch a movie next weekend, but she said no. She said we can go on a date on Valentine's day instead as planned. Yes we planned it two weeks ago and I promised to pay for the food.

It feels like she only wants to see me if I pay for the food.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude that does sound a bit suspicious. A few things don't add up:

- Why suggest an expensive place you know the dude can't afford? That's wack.

- Canceling last minute to "hang with a friend" she definitely planned earlier? Too convenient.

- Only wanting to see him when he pays? That's using him bro.

I'd be keeping my guard up if I was him. Some girls just want a free meal ticket, not a real connection.

My advice would be, if they go out on Valentine's, watch her behavior close. If all she does is order the most expensive stuff and doesn't seem interested otherwise, that's a red flag.

But play it cool - don't call her out direct yet. Just don't offer to pay next time. See how she reacts. That'll show her true colors quick I bet.

Stay wary bro, but don't write her off just yet. Give it another date and see what's what. Her actions will show the truth here I think.

[slatyb]

Why do you want to date her? What do you like about her?

I agree with you, she sounds like she's using you -- she wants you to take her to an expensive restaurant. I would be done with her.

[MimiKitty]

You're probably on the right track. Go with your gut instinct. If she just wanted your company then she wouldn't care what the activity was as long as you were there.