Is my Chinese girlfriend a gold digger?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. I am currently an undergraduate student majoring in Psychology. She is constantly telling me that my degree is worthless and I should change my major. She said her end goal was to raise a family and have kids with me but now she wants to break up.

[StopWatchandTime]

How is majoring in Psychology worthless. I'd say that's one of the more worthwhile majors out there.

I don't know if she's a gold digger or just very opinionated and a little controlling. Maybe she doesn't respect psychologists. That is just her opinion, but she's trying to make you change your major because of it.

Don't. You can have a very successful career as a psychologist. Actually, I don't think she IS a gold digger, because if she was she would realize how much money you could make in that field and be all for it.

The best indication of whether or not she's a gold digger is this- is she constantly asking you for money? Does she constantly want something?

Whether she's a gold digger or not she sounds kind of bothersome. Maybe ending the relationship would be the best step.

[Matchmaker7072]

No job demand. Almost 0 in every state. To get any reasonable job with that degree you need a doctorate too. It's the most saturated degree atm.

[Bandit74]

Not necessarily. In my opinion a true gold digger is a girl who exclusively dates/seeks out men who she would have otherwise not been interested in if not for their above average income/earning potential. She said her goal is to be able to raise a family with you, not for you to buy her designer clothes and travel the world on a private jet.

It seems she just wants you to have an average income and worries that psychology won't be able to prove that.

[Wanderingheartbeat]

To early to tell.
And what does her being Chinese have to do with being a gold digger.
And also she isn't a good girlfriend if she doesn't support your dreams.
If she was going to advise you she should do it in a much more kinder way and maybe even help you find opportunities.

[apple24]

hahah! Right! HAHAH "chinese"

[Wanderingheartbeat]

@apple24 yeah that's kinda mean; your using her race as a way to indicate if she's a gold digger or not?
Plenty of women (and men) of all colors can be gold diggers.

[apple24]

I know he must be a troll and if not than he one sad sad man! hahhaha

[CoolSky01]

actually mentioning that she is chinese is a good thing to help us help him , you know many chinese students move to america or are born there to chinese families who moved to america so basically most of these families and students are poor and are seeking better life , she is not your typical American girl who has everything ready and she just needs a husband , maybe its wrong but iam guessing she comes from a really poor background and wants financial security so she is trying to make him change majors.

[Wanderingheartbeat]

@CoolSky01 nah dude; my bro works at a bank and all the Chinese people he meet have big checks. One time he had a dinner with one of the older Chinese gentlemen and he told him all the Chinese (majority) that migrate to America are "well off" Chinese.
The poor ones are still in China and can never even move up a rank. They are stuck working in factories or scraping things off the streets.

[CoolSky01]

sure there are rich and poor people your brother works in a bank so he's gonna be interacting with the rich ones , the illegal ones and the poor who dont have much will be kinda invisible not to mention that some students get scholarships becasue of their high scores and move to American colleges to study there , that is also a possibility i know a woman who has done that and she married a man with a good job much older htan her , not exactly good looking or even has a great personality , he is nice and respectful but nonethless i thought she could do better , but he has a good job.

[Wanderingheartbeat]

Most of the South Asian (Indian, Pakistani, Bengali) propel that come to America have a decent life back home but still want to make it bigger in America.
Vietnamese are more poor because they were forced to flee their country and were brought to America as refugees.
Ultimately people from Asia come to America to make it "big." American dream.
That's why a lot of Asian parents (south Asian and eastern) push their kids to become doctors and engineers because there is big bank there.
It is also the cultural upbringing and because white people are viewed as having "a high rank" its no wonder that Asian women want to be with them because they are acceptable.
Try being Asian and bringing a black or mexican home. I know my parents will scream.
I bring home a white guy and my folks will be a lot more willing.
I'm Asian by the way (half Indian and half Persian)

[Wanderingheartbeat]

@CoolSky01 yeah there are cases like that. Not all of them but majority if people that I've met were in that category. :) thank-you for the insight though!

[CoolSky01]

no problem , i've heard about it and even seen an example so i guess it happens.

[beautifulangel76]

I agree with everyone else. She feels like you are going to be able to support her and a family. This doesn't make her a gold digger.

[NatashaJ]

Ok can you please not put Chinese in your question because it seems like your trying to bring race into.

[thatkaruguy]

its possible but it sounds more like she's the type of girl that was raised to want the best guy possible with a good or better paying job.

its kind of like being a gold digger except they aren't only there for the money if that makes sense? anyways she is kind of right about your degree

[Urbantarzan]

She's not a gold digger. She's very practical (like most Asians I know).

A degree in Psychology won't get you a job. She wants a family with you, who is going to bring home the dough?

[Messiah89]

Let her break up then... follow your heart. This your life even in a relationship tell her to step her game up.

[cinderelli]

keyword.. ''chinese'' wtf has nationality to do with anything..
and she just might be worried if you'd be able to provide for your family or not..

[mutedaisy]

Maybe she feels you won't be able to provide a stable family life.

[Agrojag]

I've heard Chinese girls have a reputation for it. It's entirely possible.

[I_am_repulsive]

She was just looking out for you mate, but maybe she's a status hunter or something

[apple24]

Maybe she worried that you won't make enough to provide for her and the future kids.

[Matchmaker7072]

No she has common sense. Get a degree where you can actually make a living. Something with actual Job demand

[Anonymous]

Wait what is a gold digger I'm sorry i catually don't know what that means.

[CoolSky01]

Someone who is just there for money , she likes him just because he has money , girls who try to get rich guys are called gold diggers ( since you know... gold costs lots of money )

[Opinion Owner]

@CoolSky01 Yeah she is. Don't change your interests/classes because of her. Make sure you get a good job where you like what you're doing, rather than one where you only earn lots of money, which could lead to serious health problems where you'll need to spend all that money on fixing.

[fenixx0083]

What does her being chinese have to do with anything?

[ihatethiswebsite]

Just ditch her. You don't need some one who tells you your doing pointless stuff.

[Anonymous]

get away she loves you zero. ZERO. manipulative toxic gold digger DETECTED.

[BertMacklinFBI]

perhaps.

status hunter

[Lady7]

What makes you think she's a gold digger?

[notenough]

break up now cause she will do it too you

[abundantlyrich]

Yes she is.

[Jersey2]

She is being honest.

[JohnnyTalker]

yes, she is