How do men really perceive women’s behavior around other men?

[curious_gul]

Men always tell their girl to not wear makeup, revealing clothes, to not talk to men, laugh with them and have guy best friends...
When we see these things in a Platonic way, we talk and laugh with them platonically, a friend of mine told me it's because only men know how other men think, now I'm asking you guys, what goes on inside your heads?

[Finchie40]

Your friend is pretty much correct for the most part , it’s just like how girls’ know other girls’ more than men do. Guys’ and Girls’ have different brains , that are wired different from each other , they have done so many studies on this that prove men and women think differently in most cases. So back to your question , most men our natural protectors of a girl that he loves or is into , so when another guy approaches her he might get worried that this other guy is going to try to make a move on her because he pretty much already knows what that guys’ intentions are , so the girl on the other hand might automatically assume her partner is being insecure when really he isn’t because he knows what that guys’ intentions bare and he knows what most guys’ think , just like when another girl approached her man and she c’s right through that other girl. Pretty much every girl I was in a relationship with would get jealous or insecure if another girl approached me and started talking to me , which I thought was cute that she was that protective of me when she didn’t have anything to worry about because I am not going to cheat on my partner but then I think my partner can’t control my actions , so instead of getting upset with her , I reassure her she has nothing to worry about because I love her , Guys’ on the other hand come off as insecure to his partner when another guy approaches his girl , and it really isn’t insecurities he just knows what that other guys’ intentions are. Most men in general are visual people , when we have a beautiful girl by our side we know other guys’ are going to find her beautiful as well , so we tend to get protective of her so she doesn’t draw herself attention from other guys’ But unfortunately some guys’ and girls’ can be over protective and insecure if they don’t trust their partner at all which is a turn off to most people. So if you are with a guy that constantly seems like he is controlling you and insecure everytime a guy talks to you then you should really reconsider that relationship, if he only seems jealous and insecure once in awhile , then that’s a guy that truly loves you that doesn’t want to lose you. The same goes for girls’ that are overly insecure and jealous over every girl that talks to him , he should reconsider that relationship with her because someone that is that jealous and insecure usually means they are the one that’s up to no good behind their partners’ back. I can’t speak for everyone but from my personal experiences and things I have witnessed this is usually the case.

[HighValue]

The majority of women that have male friends, have them as back up options, regardless of how much they lie and deny it. The male friends almost always side with her in any disagreement she has with her boyfriend/husband to try to damage their relationship because the majority of men that are friends with women are interested in them romantically. If a man is compatible with a woman emotionally and has things in common with her, that is the majority of appeal for wanting a relationship with her. Some women don't understand that because the majority of women are attracted to resources and how much they can extract from someone instead of emotional, moral, and hobby/interest compatibility.

Many women that have guy friends and end their relationship end up in a relationship with one of those guy "friends." Same goes for who they often cheat with. The majority of women DO have interest in their guy friends and keep them around as a backup option, no matter how much they LIE and deny it.

[Master_Debator]

All facts... I can tell you've dealt or at least seen one of those women in action. I almost feel like I wrote what you wrote. I mean I could... I'm just too drunk to lay it out this well right now. Good job.

[curious_gul]

In my case it's just for guidance I'd say, to have a man's perspective... To know how they think and get to know them better to better manage my relationship with my man...

[HighValue]

If you want a man's opinion, ask online, NOT a guy you hang out with in real life because he will likely have bad motives for the advice he gives and be more interested in damaging your relationship over time, not helping you to improve it or make it stronger.

[Master_Debator]

We know the guy is just trying to fuck. It's so obvious to us that we think you should just know it too.

But you don't. And if we ignore it... guess what's going to happen... yup, you'll fuck him. He's "just a really good friend," "just a really nice guy," or my favorite "You're just controlling and jealous" like I don't know what the fuck is going on. Yeah bitch, I don't want you to fuck Lenny just because you're saying he's just a friend.

To a young guy... can you imagine what it's like? He just doesn't want his girl fucking around and she's making her best arguments just because... he's not your god damn friend. He's going to make fun of you and him after he gets the fuck session... don't see that far ahead though. It just feels good and he's saying nice things that makes you feel good... right now... no thought as to why he's doing that.

So yeah... I perceive women's behavior around other men. You want to fuck them. At the same time you don't want your dude to do the same with other women, but then justify it for yourself. How would you feel?

Horrible situation and you could just not enguage. Take the compliment and leave. Oh but your "friends" now. And somehow if left unchecked... you fuck your friends. Funny that.

[Master_Debator]

Look... a dude has nothing in common with women. Nothing. Why would he sit and listen to you yammer on about things, always side with you, and start telling you about how your always right and you shouldn't take that from him?

You don't see it? Everything is deleberate and motivated for getting to a sexual place... he wants you to get fucked up with your man and go down on him. If you really want that to be your friend... I can see why you don't have any real friends. You make friends out of people that just eye fuck you and are willing to play a game to really fuck you.

[curious_gul]

I don't have guy friends, but I'd love to and it's for the sole reason of knowing their opinions, or advices on how to navigate my relationship's conflicts/disagreements...

[curious_gul]

Sometimes I go like, can the husband be the manipulative one? Stopping her from having guy friends so when he mistreats her she'll have no one to tell her and open her eyes, aslo what if I misunderstood him? And that friend tells you he's right, this is how we see think and shows you men's perspective, so you won't misjudged him.. you get what I mean? And why I want a guy friend? I need a man's POV!

[molonski2]

You friend is correct..

There is no such thing as a platonic male friend ( unless gay ) it's just a guy who hasn't yet managed to get into your pants , but make no mistake he is thinking and planning.

[Master_Debator]

Facts.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"Men always tell their girl to not blah blah blah"

They do not, some controlling men do.

"told me it's because only men know how other men think"

No one knows men, even less men. They think they know, but the only thing they do is projection/generalization based on their limited experience.

I think nothing special of women's behaviour around men, because this is a much too broad question.

[NathanDavis]

I've never told any of my exes how to dress...

never told them how to wear or not wear their makeup

never told who they can talk to or be friends with...

they never tried to control that about me, either.. we were our own selves before we met, during the time we met and fell for each other, we remained ourselves during the relationship stage... and came out even better after it completed the cycle

[Anonymous]

Women and men are not monoliths. I do not think about all women equally. Though i try to treat all women with respect, some women are worthy of my respect, some are not.

I will say this, if you're a woman worthy of respect why would it matter what a man thinks of you? If you're worthy of respect and he doesn't get that then what he thinks is not worth a bucket of piss.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean what goes through guys heads. If we feel the need to say it then we feel it needs to be said. Most guys are about the status quo. So he says it and then the ball is her court. What else can you do? If this is routinely a problem then you both have to re-evaluate whether you with the right person.

[LC75LC71]

Who's that dude? Hanging around until after a big argument to swoop in and tap that ass! Men are overprotective for a reason, we know how other guys think.

[worldscolide]

Here is a good test, ask your male friends if they will have sex with you. If they say yes or jump at the chance, they were never your friend.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

If she gives it to another man then it's not special. If it's not special then I don't want it.

[LC75LC71]

When is chick going to shut the fuck up and let me have some pussy? Nah, kidding partially.

[Jerre]

I would like to have sex with her

[ZameerAnsari91]

Thats true