I think dating apps are helping me as much as they’re hurting?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been out of the dating game for pretty much my whole life. I’ve been working so hard just to get my money right and up to a livable place. So it was to the point, up until now basically, that I just didn’t feel like it was worth it to even try. Not to mention the prospects around here aren’t great to begin with.

However now that I’ve finally cleared some hurdles in my life, I’m using dating apps to see what’s out there, a bit beyond where I’m from and there are some really gorgeous women out there.

Basically me using the apps 😆

But as much as I try, I just end up feeling a bit “high and dry” from all of it. So much stimulation from these attractive women… they’ve really well optimized themselves in this modern society, with the make-up, the camera angles, pretty hair, clothing where their chests are half exposed, or bikini photos. As much as a man can’t complain, it’s almost becoming too much.

And I don’t even want to get started on the lofty expectations of women. I did some research recently, and I concluded, with salary, net worth, physical looks and attributes as included into the equation that I can, I’m probably within the top 5-10% of guys out there, but even that is not proving to mean much on the apps.

I’m making strides in person too, when I can get out to a place where there’s a bit more happening and where I can find more attractive people to interact with, but I can’t feasibly do that all the time.

I just find myself YEARNING for more at this point. Just one woman that takes the bait, that I’m not like, iffy on, half-interested. I don’t want to be partially interested. I want to be all in.

[Anonymous]

this is coming from a dating app user of almost 10 years.

No high quality person would ever need to use dating app. Vast majority of people are on there for a reason: its because they can't get a date in real life. A lot of indecent people on there. Don't think that just because you make enough money, then you won't be ghosted or catfished or used for money. If you care about your mental health, get off of the dating apps.

Money won't attract love. It will only attract gold diggers. High quality women look for the overall package: looks, character, personality, a decent job. Gold Diggers will marry anyone with a big wallet. Don't listen to the lies about how you should waste your prime on building yourself so that you can become rich then finally date when you're old ugly saggy, with erectile dysfunction, and no one wants to look at you. By then, you will be only getting women who want to use you for money.

My advice is... go out there and talk to people. See who you vibe with. Focus more on character than how big her tits are. Because good character and having common values is what will sustain a forever marriage. Her tits will end up being saggy as hell at some point so if you aren't happy with her as a person, you will be very upset toward the end.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Starting to recognize options aren't as great as they're cracked up to be. Options create indecision. Indecision is keeping you single.

[Asker]

Yeah and just think how bad it is for women

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Yep.

[Nikki1989]

Quality people don't need dating apps.