In dating, what’s the difference between confidence and arrogance to you?

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Confidence is attractive… but there’s a point where it starts to feel like something else. What’s the difference between confidence and arrogance to you?

Beckybooboo · Accepted Answer

This is arrogance on a date! A guy I liked in college and went on a date with.

Him: Do you like hiking or canoeing?

Me: I love hiking and did a small rock climb for the first time a couple weeks ago!(I was proud of that lol) I'm terrified of heights and almost made it to the top.

Him: Are you serious? I've climbed cliffs in California! At beaches that I've could have been arrested at for climbing. They were close to 200' high!

It felt like he was competing with me the entire date!

Confidence on a date.

Me: I'm curious, are there any boat rides down the Wisconsin river? It's so beautiful.

Him: There's a few up here but better ones near the Dells. They also have rock climbing, which is fun. Have you ever rock climbed?

Me: Once! I didn't make it to the top though, because I'm terrified of heights lol

Him: WOW! You're adventurous? Amazing! We need to get you to the top!

Me: You do rock climbing?

Him: I do have to do some training in it for my job. We definitely need to plan a trip to the Dells and go rock climbing!

Charming, humble, supportive and a little mysterious! Guess who I married?

queenofcardio · Accepted Answer

Confident men have a suave sexiness, but they’re also humble. Arrogant men know they’re attractive and walk tall, they’re the type to walk into a room and expect compliments. They aren’t humble.

Arrogant men repulse me, while confident men pull me in.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

They are two different things that first sure but you can hear the differents. Sometimes when a person is confident and you all ready know this there might be times when the person is being short with what they say and it might sound arrogant

I'm a very confident person and that right there might sound arrogant

Just by the way that I said it but I usually won't even say anything like that I just do my thing and it proves itself to myself anyway that's all that counts

Master_Debator · Accepted Answer

I think the key difference is always based on the humility level. Confidence is attractive af to most people, but when it's coupled with unchecked ego... now it's just arrogant af.

In dating, what’s the difference between confidence and arrogance to you?

The key difference changes how people respond. People want to hang out with one and people pray for bad things to happen to the other.

sage2021 · Answer

A guy with a big head is arrogant. Thinks he's all that and then some.

A guy who is confident isn't conceited and knows himself and has a cool way of going about getting what he wants without being cocky.

A confident guy is the kind of guy that you can trust will say and do the right things. You won't be embarrassed for him when he opens up his mouth!

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

In dating, or in any social interaction at all, perhaps humour, and even more so self-mockery, is one dividing line between confidence and arrogance.

Arrogance is rigidity based, it can't bend, fold or shape-shift because it must protect its appearance. Confidence is flexibility based, it dances its way through interactions, and it genuinely laughs with you when you hit it.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Arrogance is boastful whether it's deserved or not.. It's basically acting like you're better just because you may be.. Confidence is knowing what you can do without a doubt, but not acting as if you are better or thinking that you are better than anybody else..

Phoenix98 · Answer

Someone confident knows what they are and they generally don't give a fuck when it comes to what people think about them but they still have humility.

Someone who is arrogant thinks they are gods gift to man all that and a bag of chips. Generally are pretty condescending and do care quite a bit because they're insecure.

Abbycado · Answer

I wish I was around my boyfriend. He exudes this without being arrogant. Don’t know how he does it.

Staximus · Answer

I always hear /see girls saying things like "he was so confident” like it’s something impressive. Let me clue you girls in on something- Confidence is bullshit half the time and one of the easiest things to fake. It means approximately jack shit.

FreyaRed · Answer

Arrogance if fake confidence, mostly focused on belittling of others and elevating or the person who craves to appear confident. While confidence is more being optimistic about one person;s skill and abilities to handle a situation.

Daniel707 · Answer

Confidence just means you’re confident you can do something or that you’ll figure it out. Arrogance is usually masking insecurity but what that is tends to be acting like you know everything even if you don’t even if you screw it up

thegreenyogi · Answer

Arrogance= you think everyone is beneath you. Confidence= you're true to your values, you won't settle for the sake of it and you're not afraid of saying no in name of disrespect...

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Ehhh sometimes I wonder if it's a matter of perception I think confidence and someone just being stupid can both get called arrogent

OneViewpoint · Answer

Confidence is quiet competence. Arrogance is announcing everything you do to everyone around you. One is quietly noticed by others. One is quietly repulsive to others.

YourExLover69 · Answer

Arrogant is racist, close minded, judging quickly, haughty, ignores most of the time. They are huge turn off for me.

I love humbleness, sense of humor, good response, open mindedness. It attracts me a lot.

lilBigPotato · Answer

Arrogance is when you're overconfident and lack any humility.  I hate people like that.

exitseven · Answer

When people are confident they are aware of the fact that they would be a worthwhile person to date. When a person is arrogant they think that they are owed everything.

Agape93 · Answer

Confidence is knowing what you bring to the table.  Arrogance is assuming you're good at it.

msc545 · Answer

Confidence is what some men pretend to have, and arrogance is what too many women have.

MrChinaski · Answer

Confidence is an accurate assessment of ones own strengths. Arrogance is an inaccurate assessment of others' weaknesses.

slatyb · Answer

Arrogance comes from comparing oneself to others. A confident person doesn't have to.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Confidence is knowing who you are and what is acceptable. Arrogance is having a delusionally elevated view of oneself.

Jay-_- · Answer

Confidence is when you know who you are... Arrogance is when you have to step on someone's shoes to prove it...

AgentG111 · Answer

Arrogance is being an Ass all the time.  Confidence is having the ability to but choosing to or not to be an Ass.

jahaims · Answer

They literally have definitions. No need to make up your own.

AydenHazor · Answer

Confidence is is knowing yourself to be capable, arrogance is making sure everyone else knows it

Shiprex · Answer

Performative behaviour to make one seem and be seen to be competent

Anonymous · Answer

As long as she's my type of girl, she can be either really :P

Anonymous · Answer

It's simply a matter of opinion.

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