Why is it that some people I find attractive find me attractive, but some find me ugly?

[Anonymous]

I do need to work out more, I’m not enormous or anything, but I could chisel myself down for sure. But barring that, objectively I do think I have a relatively attractive face. So when there’s people who think that I’m not attractive at all I don’t understand that. for example, with women I think about 40% are some level of attractive because I would say about 10% of the population fits into each one to 10 number range. So objectively 40% of women are a 6 or better.

[Anonymous]

Well, (assuming you're straight) you're talking about WOMEN here. You cannot use logic when talking about women as it pertains to what they find attractive. Logic does not compute in a woman's thought process. You can be a hideous f***ing CHUD, if other women show interest in you, by reflex she's going to find you AT LEAST mildly attractive.

I wish more guys understood this. Never worry about whether a woman finds you attractive or not, only if you find HER attractive. I'm not saying waste your time with a woman who says no. But don't get upset about it. Or worse, doubt yourself. Just laugh and walk away. Just from that act alone she'll be questioning whether she's good enough for you. Because ALL women are insecure. From the ugliest little duckling to the supermodel. And a lot of women reject men today simply to weild the power of doing so. It's kind of funny. a lot of them are so insecure but angry. They want to make you feel lower than them. And some guys (too many, today) fall for this. Just move on to the next woman. It's all good man.👍 Always remember a woman's actual attraction to man is rarely rooted in actual physical attractiveness, and even rarer is it ever logical.

[Anonymous]

You don’t understand that people have different opinions and different taste? I can also tell you that if you ask people to divide people in to categories 1-10 you would get very different results because, again, people have different taste and opinions and your opinion/taste is not the norm or baseline in any way. Stop centering yourself and exaggerate your own (opnions) inportance.

[queenofcardio]

Looks are subjective. Everyone has their own opinions about what they consider to be attractive, but what matters more is your opinion of yourself. Personally, I would pay more attention to the people who find me attractive than the people who don't.

[Nikki1989]

Looks are subjective. Smart men know this, which obviously counts most of the anons on this site out, obviously.

[Asker]

not necessarily. For example, I’m not that into Scarlett Johansson but a lot of guys think she’s really attractive. On the flipside anybody with common sense can agree Rosie is very ugly !

[jahaims]

You don't understand attraction is subjective?