Why do women consider me ugly but many men find me attractive?

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I hear them gossiping about how much better they look than me and during arguments they would repeatedly call me ugly and undesirable when in fact they themselves are pretty average looking to me and I’ve seen handsome men checking me out frequently so I’m not that bad looking.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

The woman who said this was simply attacking what she assumed was likely to be your biggest insecurity - your appearance. Women either attack weight (if the girl she is attacking is at all overweight), looks, or reputation (slut/whore). You aren't fat, and she probably couldn't justify slut/whore shaming, so she attacked your looks.

I would not take that literally - obviously men find you physically attractive - it was just the easiest, powerful insecurity she could attack.

Women like her are miserable, and the only way she can feel better about herself is to put someone else down. Of course, that only works for a few minutes, then she has to insult someone else. Do not let that miserable woman bother you - she will never be truly happy and her life will punish her more than you ever could.

Just live your life as well as you can and be happy - that's the best revenge.

Drago12587 · Accepted Answer

Mens have way WAY lower standards on girls that other girls have on girls :D.. all what men need is some p***y.. if you have that, you can have 40% of mens population with no problem.. you can be 90kg fat ugly chick with no moral standards, you can still f*ck... So you probably are ugly, just guys don't care at all.. but only your personality will get you a ring instead of uber when you done spreading legs.. :D.. so it doesn't matter if you are ugly, avarage or beautiful.. what matters the most, is who you are.. are you one-night stand or wife material? You should focus on that more than on appearance.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If you are fighting with women so much maybe they think your personality is ugly. 🤷🏼‍♀️. Also this seems like middle school behavior, it’s rooted in jealousy and other women know our looks are one of the most sensitive subjects to attack us on.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

It’s unpleasant but I’ve been in your shoes.. it’s just their own insecurity having their own competition with you in their head, jealously or envious perhaps. Just don’t mind them and keep doing you :)

Haraklus · Answer

There was once a Jubilee video where they had women rate each other's attractiveness, then line up according to their attractiveness rating.

Then they had men come in and rearrange the lineup. It was pretty much the exact opposite of the women's ratings.

Women tend to have two instincts that lead to this outcome. One is the desire to not seem mean -- and attacking an actually ugly woman by rating her low would seem mean. It's much safer to rate a highly attractive woman low, because she's not going to be nearly as hurt by it.

The other instinct is the instinct to tear down those who are better than us. I'd say this is more of a universal / gender-neutral thing. Nobody likes admitting that someone is better than them.

So it's a way of preserving the egos of less-attractive women, as well as taking the really hot ones down a peg.

As a rule, the more other women are attacking your looks, the more attractive you are to men.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

If you are a straight woman then the opinions of women shouldn't matter, men's opinions should be what you go based of, let's also not forget that usually if a woman doesn't feel threatened by your appearance, they won't even notice you, if they are being hateful towards your appearance then it's most likely that they notice your beauty and are threatened by It, only a woman that feels threatened by your looks would get defensive and comparing appearance, you think they would do all that with someone that was actually unattractive?

Oliverlogan23 · Answer

Sounds like a gaslight to instill insecurity. People will say anything to rile up insecurity when you’re in argument. You should have just laughed in her face, and yes beautiful women get called ugly too, even by men they reject. It’s to humanize them and make them self doubt.

How do you think you look? How have others told you you look outside of arguments? That is how you look. Do not worry about what people say in anger they’d even call an anorexic person fat if they knew it’d hurt their feelings. Next time it happens, laugh at it.

sawno · Answer

Common tactic among evil women to put down the confidence of the girl who is above them. If successful, this can help their own dating chances since it would make you appear less confident / outgoing if you instead want to hide your apperance.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Straight women’s worst enemies are other straight women. Whether they’re trashing you to your face, talking smack behind your bag, or encouraging you to continue an unhealthy behavior, who needs enemies?

Yahoo13 · Answer

Could be them putting their insecurities onto you and a little jealousy. Guys probably see us differently then how girls would too. I'd try to not play into the negativity from the girls and say that they are pretty average either. We have enough pressures from everywhere how we should look and what's wrong with us we need to be building our and others esteem up not tearing it down. Try to ignore them or play into it. Just do you 😀

AngryCarl · Answer

So obviously I don't know what you look like but here's the thing. There are two kinds of attractiveness: obviously attractive, which men and women can both agree on, and oddly attractive, which only men see.

desidoll · Answer

I am the same way. Don’t let them affect how you see yourself. They could be intimidated by you. Only insecure women put down other women.

slatyb · Answer

They are jealous and have no class. Is that a picture of you? You look great.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Because woman can be catty, especially when jealous.

Pohjolan · Answer

Women ranking women based on attractiveness Vs men ranking women:

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

Sometimes I wonder about myself if other guys would say I'm ugly yet women are too shy to ask me out bluntly 😂😃👀🎉🫠🫠🫠

Nikki1989 · Answer

What @desidoll said. It all comes down to insecurity.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Probably jealous. When I was in school it was always uglier girls calling me ugly.

boggboss · Answer

Meh just sounds like catty behaviour normal female stuff

Huntingnfishin · Answer

Women will honestly say the absolute meanest things especially to eachother

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Either jealousy like other women are putting you down to break your confidence or else you're what I call guy hot rather than girl hot.

jahaims · Answer

You do understand that an insult doesn't have to be based in facts right?

Love2Watch · Answer

Calling you ugly is to be hurtful and has nothing to do with your appearance.

sheikalana · Answer

OMG this is pure jealousy.

JacobJordan · Answer

Jealousy probably

laly520 · Answer

some get jealous

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Don't know jealous

Jltakk · Answer

Competition perhaps

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