Have you tried dating apps, and were they actually worth your time?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

In a manner of speaking.

You can only minimally improve your odds dating online. No amount of extra work or effort you put in will make a difference. When you ACCEPT this FACT then you can date online "successfully"

First off: Never view online dating as anything more than FREE ENTERTAINMENT (assuming it's a free site, which I recommend since pay site WILL NOT improve your odds any).

Secondly: understand 85% of women online have no intention of dating ANY man (save for the rare unicorn that they will NEVER find on a dating app). So your essentially only working with 15% of the actual profiles you see. Knowing this this should make the 3rd point rather obvious. Which is...

Thirdly: you should NEVER message ANY woman first on a dating app. Trust me on this. If you want me to go more in depth on this, I can. But you will not improve your odds by messaging women first. The ones that want to know you WILL message you. I understand, IRL it's the man's "job" to approach. This rule is inverse for online dating.

Fourth: you PIC'S are PARAMOUNT. But not for the reason you're likely thinking. You don't have to look like a male model. But understand your pics DO tell a story about you. If you use all selfies the story it tells is you have no friends and could possibly be a serial killer.😆 No selfies!! When you go out with your friends take pics. Camping, a night out at the ballpark, golfing, hiking. I don't know what you do, but you get the idea. Take pics of the personality you want to convey. And have at least one Pic of you in a suit. Just so she knows you own one and are capable of wearing it.

Fifth: leave your bio BLANK. Trust me on this. Women are HIGHLY judgmental. The less you say to a woman the better your odds will be. You open your mouth you're only going to give her reasons to dismiss you. Women spend HALF their life inside their head creating what isn't really there. So if you don't say anything, or say as little as possible. She will look at your pics and start writing the story in her head. And what she creates in her head about you if she likes what she sees will be far better TO HER, than anything YOU can write. I know you're saying to yourself, "yeah but then she doesn't really know me". Well would you rather her just flat out reject you now? Get to a date first before you give her a reason to reject you. Women are going to do that on their own. Why help them reject you.😆

Final thought: as I said earlier this is entertainment! That's how you should view it. Be polite of course. But remember people online are flaky. Take every conversation with a grain of salt till you're on a date with one of these women. And remember women online are RIFE with STD's. So be safe, and chase any woman you might meet online with a shot of penicillin.😆

Maybe_Maybe_not · Accepted Answer

This is what I gathered from friends using it: 1 male has paid Tinder subscription for a year and talked to maybe 2 girls  1 male has used different dating apps and ended up in 2 long term relationships 1 male is on free Tinder and get regular ONS with it 1 female has used one dating app for months and ended up with a couple of new buddies bc she didn't feel any romantic interest for these guys

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I have. I used it primarily to find local friends but ended up catching the eye of my now boyfriend. We talked for weeks before meeting in person which made me feel more comfortable.

I realize dating apps are much harder for guys to find someone, but I think thats due to way more guys being on there who try to match with all the fewer women on there making it harder for the others.

A lot of guys on those apps generally don't pay attention to profiles or boundaries either. I've heard of them creating profiles on lesbian apps trying to find dates too. It's pathetic.

lilBigPotato · Accepted Answer

I have tried a few. They're alright but I prefer going out and meeting people the natural way.

Finchie40 · Answer

I have tried them but overall they were a waste of time because most the girls’ on there are fake or catfishes and scammers , just like most the internet is as well , so I prefer meeting someone in person over the internet not saying you can’t meet someone on. the internet it’s just easier to meett someone in public

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I don't think so but, if I did, it would've been over 20 years ago and what few online relationships I DID make, almost none of them lasted more than a day or so. Quite a few of them were horrendous!! One girl had 5 kids with 5 different guys and wanted me to be daddy 6!! One only wanted me for my money, a few others were Russian and Nigerian dating scammers. Another one latched onto my brother behind my back and tried to kill him. Most of these were through the local AOL chat room when I first got online in `01.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I use dating apps to 'study' people and the 'structure' of certain environments.
The primary "function" of browsing a catalog with potential partners is a joke, though.
... Select one, order, and delivery service with the right to return faulty goods within 7 days?
- Dating simply can't be handled like an online shop.

Zack-Bann · Answer

During the COVID era it was open season.

It slowed down later.

But still works mostly.

I haven’t been on for a while since I’m recovering from knee surgery and before that I was burnt out by meaningless sex for a while

The issue with the apps is quality.
At least for me, I haven’t met someone I actually fell in love with

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I have on and off but I guess for some people it can be worth it but not for me. Too many guys want to hook up and nothing more. I’m not into that. On the other hand by friend met a guy on Tinder and she dated him for 5 years. It seemed fine at first but then later on there was drama with his baby mama and drugs. My friend broke up with him and got into a new relationship with her ex high school boyfriend. Her ex stalked her for a while too.

Anonymous · Answer

I have tried all of them.
The free ones even some paid.
And it was not even worth it.
3 years constantly swiping, changed pics changed lines, got it checked from someone who was more successful then me. He picked out a lot of things.
Then I wrote a good bio.
But no swipes from anyone, mostly fake swipes asking for Snapchat and OF subscriptions.
And the real once I tried to keep them entertained but I am not good with flirting.
I am good with deep talks.
I even got a swipe of some bitcoin girl, who wanted me to invest money through her.
Then I gave up cause it takes a special talent and good looks.

slatyb · Answer

After divorcing, I tried a few but then only Match was useful. I dated a few women, had a five year relationship, dated a bit more, then met my wife. I have no idea what apps are useful today. Even them Match was a bit of a scam as they would show profiles of people who were no longer subscribed and would be unlikely to read any message. I only responded to women who had been online in the last month.

genericname85 · Answer

yes i have and no, they're a complete waste of time. like for some reason i still swipe from time to time but dates are mostly mediocre and never lead to anything. so i should probably stop wasting my time. guess there's still that kind of hope people have when trying to win the lottery xD

NathanDavis · Answer

not something I ever tried myself before so... I can't really tell if they are worth or not... nor if they actually work

but, as many things in life... it's probably more about the person, and if they can make them work and worth...

Sevenpointfive · Answer

not really. i'm not going to pay. if you want a sure method of getting a date i can tell you how. type out a cute message that you can copy/paste to 100 guys on social media that live in your town. press send. that's free dating

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Married before these apps came out.  I met my first funny on match. com  I met my now hubby here on gag in 2016. Hapoily marrid. 😃

MissSunshine2 · Answer

Well…I made two friends on dating apps. I met another person that I’m getting to know who might become my partner one day.

Cleatchaser1 · Answer

I haven't but I've been with my boyfriend for many years. If I ever somehow became single, I would not resort to those for quite a lond time

Tomislav7 · Answer

In my late teens early twenties i had marginal success i wasn't yet rejected by community. I was able to match w pretty girls over time I've used it temporarily but no success. Thing is im not sexually desirable to women.

sawno · Answer

Heard a ton of bad things about them so never tried them.

Shiprex · Answer

LOOONG time ago and it was ok. I met all the girls I met as they all lived abroad and going to those places was a holiday in it's own.

ironsteelbirade · Answer

I tried an app called yubo as a teenager, it was worth my time, met some girls on there, lots of teen sexting though.

Abbycado · Answer

Never tried them. Those that I know have, didn’t have good things to say.

Jammannn · Answer

For an average guy its not worth your time. Men outnumber women on the apps like 3-1 , even an average women gets multiple times more oppourtunites than a man who is the top 5-10%

Nonamez · Answer

I do use them, but they bore me, I definitely prefer old fashioned meet ups

MrChinaski · Answer

Go out. Get drunk. Wake up with someone.  It's been working fine for 6000 years.

loveyouoak · Answer

I've never tried it. I'm not really into dating apps.

shortster · Answer

Yes, most aren't. Facebook Dating is the most useful; since it doesn't require money for any features.

LiamS95 · Answer

No I haven't because I always considered them a waste of time.

msc545 · Answer

I have tried them, and they are not worth my time.

Anonymous · Answer

Tried most of them in a chaotic year, got nowhere and quit the game for life after that

ChadThunderCack · Answer

Just for hooking up, you won't believe how much ass I pulled on these apps.

FinancialMarketsMan · Answer

Bu uygulamalar aracılığıyla çok ciddi ilişkiler kurulmuyor.

queenofcardio · Answer

I've tried them. Not worth my time.

Dnice1 · Answer

No and don't trust them either

Alex-Snow · Answer

So far I have not had the need for them.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

Yes I have, and no they were not.

dudeinohio · Answer

Yes i have and yes they were.

karlaatsd · Answer

Tried some met some interesting guys

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, but with no success.

AgentG111 · Answer

Yes.

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