Why does it seem to be that women who are single and unhappy want their girlfriends to stay the same way?

[ManOnFire]

This really does seem to be a thing. I've seen it happen with girlfriends in real life, and I've heard women talk about how their miserable single friends will try to discourage them from dating a guy. The other night a friend of mine was telling me this happened to her as well. Why do they really need their friends to be single and unhappy with them?

Guys almost never do this with each other. We will usually be happy for a dude who starts dating a girl, or at least if it makes a guy sad that he's not dating, he won't show it or try to tear the other guy down. Why is this such an issue with women?

[Nik1hil]

View it like men are Giver and Women are Consumer by Nature!.. and you will understand better..

A Man is like a Tree Making Fruits - A Tree who's Fruits aren't being eaten or he isn't making any fruits, Those trees seeds won't spread!. All Trees encourage Others to make better fruits so their seeds spread and More trees grow, which Turns in a Vast forest! And is beneficial for all trees!

Now View Women like a Bird or squirrel - It only Shows up to Trees which has fruits, it stays as long as the Trees gives shelter and fruits! Otherwise it jumps to the next one.. It's goal is not the spread the seeds.. but only to find shelter and consume the Fruits! But if another her Squirrel or Bird has already made a home in a Good tree 😂 and She wants that tree, she will Sabotage her relationship with that tree! So that tree is available again, and she can visit and eat those fruits, basically Every squirrel/bird is trying to increase its Domain of Trees it can Get fruits from.. and it will try to eliminate it's competition!.

While Trees are at the Same spot, they don't move, or Fight and don't compete with each other trees share resources amoung themselves in root network, they all try to Grow and Build fruits.. Trees are embodiment of Masculine energy & and all those Bugs & vermins and critter that consume on resources of trees display feminine energy making a complete ecosystem

[ManOnFire]

Lol. Nice analogy.

[Nik1hil]

I am Glad you loved the Analorgy

[Chazmatazz269]

I think the underlying issue is women need to believe that it’s always men’s fault when a woman can’t find a good dude. So a woman with a good man forces unhappy single women to consider the possibility that they themselves are at least partially to blame for their failures. This doesn’t suit the prevailing narrative. So it’s easier to fashion a collective misery than to do the necessary soul searching and personal work to become a woman who actually deserves a good man.

[ManOnFire]

Makes a lot of sense, yeah.

[sage2021]

A lot of times when one of them get a boyfriend, she stops hanging out with her friends and maystop calling them as well.

You have to be careful with what you tell your friends if you should happen to get a boyfriend. Everything you tell them is information that they store away in their brain and they can use it to go after him for themselves. Especially if you should break up because some of them will move right on in and go after him for herself. 🤫

They don't like when she has a boyfriend because they don't have anyone else to hang out with.

And the first thing that goes wrong with her relationship, her girlfriends will say things like "You don't need to put up with that crap - break up with him. You deserve someone better." Stuff like that.

[ManOnFire]

That's absolutely true, they will try to go after the guy if they break up, I've heard that a lot.

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂🧡

[LazerBean]

It's a mixture of misery loves company, jealousy, and not wanting to admit to themselves that they don't meet the standards of the men that meet their standards. Basically they're incels, but female. Also when a really good man gets taken out of the dating pool, the market takes a really bad hit and there's a good chance that her friends also had an eye on him. I had at least three girls that I onow upset whenever my husband and I got engaged, they were all hoping it wouldn't work out and they would get another shot at him.

[ManOnFire]

That's really messed up. Those are called femcels.

[LazerBean]

Yep, exactly lol Also for some reason it seems like the fatter the female, the worse about this they are

[ManOnFire]

Yo! I notice that too. Overweight girls tend to be really stuck up or act like they are actually God's gift or something.

[LazerBean]

Yeah, I'm pretty sure it's a defense mechanism or a complex or something, but still lol

[blueonblack22]

It’s because misery loves company. They feel better when someone else is “relatable” to their sh*tty life. Its a lack of maturity.

Us guys can feel envy, jealousy and resentment. But most of know we will look pathetic if we try to sabotage someone else’s happiness. And I’ve had to check myself a few times when I feel that. Especially when I see women inexplicably dating guys that don’t have much going for them. But I tell myself “well I’ll give credit where credit is due”. Good for them.

[ManOnFire]

"But most of know we will look pathetic if we try to sabotage someone else’s happiness." - That's basically what I was trying to tell the pink anon.

[blueonblack22]

Women don’t have to worry about losing face the same way men do when it comes to this.

Remember what God said to Cain when he was angry that God favored Abel’s sacrifice but not Cain’s:

“Sin lays at your door. But you must MASTER it”

It’s not a sin to feel anger, jealousy, resentment, etc. However you have a choice on how to handle it.

For example you know about the woman I liked at the establishment I use to frequent? I made a choice to stop going there. Because I couldn’t control my resentment. So I made the right decision and removed myself from the picture. I didn’t badmouth that guy to other people there. Didn’t try hitting on that girl in hopes of getting her to cheat. It sucks and I don’t understand it. But I didn’t do anything wrong.

But some people truly believe that “two wrongs make a right”. Especially women when it comes to dating and relationships.

[HighValue]

I don't know how women are supposed to have friends at all. Men that are friends with them usually have ulterior motives and will purposely give bad relationship advice because they want her for themselves romantically, sexually, or both. Women just tend to try to ruin people's relationships, cause drama, and are dishonest more often than honest so I don't know how women are even supposed to have friends. I guess they just need to find a highly compatible partner that is okay with her being very clingy and spending most of her social time together with him since most other people will just cause problems in her life. Too bad they often don't handle alone time/isolation nearly as well as men and need to hang out with friends, even if those friends often damage her life.

[ManOnFire]

Women mostly want friends for gossip and to seem like they have a social life for the sake of social image.

[Just_Ken]

Women are often the worst friends. They often give each other the worst advice out of jealousy or because they want them to do worse than them or because they want them to make the same mistakes as them or do immoral things such as cheating because it makes them feel better about what they did.

Not uncommon for a bitter woman to try to break up a good marraige or to take another woman's man because they themselves are not married.

A single man might say of his friend who has a great girl "I want a girl like that ".

A single woman might say of her friend who has a great guy "I want that man".

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I think women see dating as a competition and they don't want to lose because it will weaken the mental model they have of where they stand in the social hierarchy.

[ManOnFire]

Oh 100%. They are preoccupied with having some sense of social image, like female socialites in 1800s Paris or something.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I dunno it's just a guess

[PinkSchmetterling]

Yeah, we get catty sometimes even with our friends. I’ve had friends encourage me to break up or tried to set me up with other people

[ManOnFire]

That's fucked up.

[PinkSchmetterling]

In their minds they meant well. I just figured they’re jealous lol

[Intelligent_Lady]

Seeing a friend in a relationship can trigger self-comparison, especially if they’re not happy with their own situation. But it’s not always the same. People react differently depending on their personality and emotional maturity

[molonski2]

Catty jealousy with these kind of bitches , and they will do " whatever it takes " to make their " friend " ( not real friend ) unhappy also..
Catty , nasty , bitches and they are everywhere.

[genericname85]

so i don't even know if that's true but my guess would be: cause women don't regulate their own emotions. they co regulate. so when their firend gets a partner, they can't feel the same anymore so they gotta sabotage their friend so they can keep co regulating.

[ManOnFire]

It's 100% real, I've seen that shit happen.

[genericname85]

i saw it too but i'm not sure how much of a broader societal phenomenon this is. could just be anecdotal.

[Titanic1912]

It’s usually some jealousy. And girls usually do that to their friends because if they get married, it’s like they won’t have time for each other anymore.

[AngryCarl3]

Women are social creatures. If they're single and their friends are all in relationships it isolates them from the rest of the group.

[MissSunshine2]

Really? Mos of my friends have Asperger's Syndrome and are clueless about relationships as a result. I'm sure they mean well, but they're as clueless as I am.

[ManOnFire]

I guess that's sort of a good thing lol

[AngryCarl3]

@MissSunshine2 You should probably tell your friends they have Autistic Spectrum Disorder. Asperger's isn't in the DSV anymore.

[jahaims]

Because the single ones are immature. Immature people don't want others to do better than themselves

[slatyb]

Maybe they have been in relationships and are warning their girlfriends that a relationship is not the key to happiness.

[ManOnFire]

I think that would be wishful thinking.

[jimbob70]

Truthfully that a women thing happens
More than men knows

[Steve-the-lion]

I've been noticing this for years. It's mostly down to jealously and misery loves company.

[Shiprex]

They want others to be like them so they don't feel alone

[_Jenny_]

@ManOnFire so that we’re not lonely and some of us are bi

[Anonymous]

men are the same way. they just bully

[ManOnFire]

This is a little bit true, yeah. It just doesn't happen to the degree it does with women.

[Opinion Owner]

@manonfire

No it does. It just comes out in "other" ways in men. When you find another man who wants to be competitive with you, playfully put you down for no reason, make fun of you for no reason, giving you a rough time for no reason... these are usually the signs someone is envious

[ManOnFire]

I have definitely experienced that from guys. But what I'm saying is that guys don't do this proactively to actually try to make you stop dating a chick. They are just doing that out of their own insecurity. Women proactively want to sabotage their girlfriends' relationships.

[Opinion Owner]

@manonfire

thats not true. It might seem that women try to sabotage because women tend to discuss their relationships with other women. Men don't tend to talk about their relationships with other men which makes it much harder for men to try to sabotage each others relationships. It doesn't mean they don't want to... they just can't. Men just express their jealously differently compared to women.

If a man is an asshole to you, he's not doing it for no reason. There is always a reason

[Opinion Owner]

you need to understand that women tell each other their life stories and secrets. men do not.

[ManOnFire]

Do you have any male friends? I do. And almost all of them talk about their relationships, and some confide their deep secrets in me, like how one told me he once tried to kill himself. None of them are trying to sabotage each other's relationships, and I most definitely am not interested in sabotaging theirs.

[Opinion Owner]

@manonfire

Google "Men group together to do common activities while women group together to confide in each other"

There will always be rare exceptions among the male population though. Nothing is ever 100%.

It's the same reason why women's suicide rates are lower than men's. Because women tend to socialize more, confide their secrets in friends, have more friends than men

[Opinion Owner]

Realize that women don't tend to put each other down or bully the same way as men. They do it very indirectly such as you mentioned. It's just a different approach, not that men aren't as toxic

[ManOnFire]

A Google search? Lol. Women's friendships do not even last as long as men's. Women put each other down way worse than men do it to each other, it's why a lot of women choose male friends over female friends. Women are the most misogynist of any group.

Women attempt suicide much more often than men, and men die from suicide more because their methods are more effective. So if women attempt it more, then their safety groups aren't doing much to help them.

[Opinion Owner]

@manonfire

Women's ways aren't as effective cuz they don't actually want suicide as much as men

Women tend to have more friends, stronger friendships than men, bigger better support network than men. That is also the reason why single women tend to do better in life than single men. Married men tend to get more of their friendships from his wife's contacts.

Friendships are crucial to health- both emotionally and physically.

Women don't overtly put each other down... only men do that.

[Steve-the-lion]

You're talking bollocks

[AMS700CX4u2]

Shakespear: ? Misery loves company

[sawno]

Crabs in a bucket kinda stuff

[AgentG111]

Misery loves company!

[DryGermanGuy]

I never noticed that, from men or women.

[MereAnarchy]

Jealous losers

[TheGreatCornholio79]

Misery loves company.

[jazzy34]

Honestly, jealousy.