Girls, Does success cause an ex to regret?

[Anonymous]

Let’s say your ex was a nice person. Wasn’t mean and wanted to make it work. Later in life he’s so famous and successful.

That would cause me to regret

No it wouldn’t cause me to regret

[HollyK21]

“Nice guy” doesn’t always equate to “good guy”, and if he were actually a good man then I highly doubt she would’ve left him in the first place. The average woman is not ending a healthy, stable, fulfilling relationship on a whim and certainly not for no reason. Usually a breakup happens after a lot of thought and consideration, so in most cases no need for her to feel regretful, regardless of her exes success. Success doesn’t make him a better person or partner.

[Asker]

I was broken up with and I was good to my partner it was a short but very intense relationship and in the last couple of weeks we suddenly started arguing and in some ways I did shut her down.

In the end she ended it. I didn’t do anything wrong as such, could have handled things at the end better and tried to make it work. I was very consistent, caring and sweet towards her, put in the effort

Like I was never mean towards her. She did seem a bit emotionally unstable and got overwhelmed quickly. In the end she was final about her choice to leave me.

What do you think? Tbh I was shocked she ended it as she went from obsessed with me to ending things fast. I am a v rare catch too. Do you think she will regret it?

[HollyK21]

You shouldn’t be shocked that she valued herself more than she valued you, in fact I think you should respect her sense of self-preservation. I’ll be honest, it sounds like you have a hard time taking accountability for your part, and until you can look inward and do that, then you never be able to fully grasp why she made this decision. Like it’s okay to say you weren’t perfect, and while you may generally be a catch, you’ve still got some things to learn when it comes to being a good partner.

For example, you say you were never mean to her, yet you’d shut her down rather than trying to be more receptive when it came to her grievances. You say you did nothing wrong, yet you’re having these arguments which surely didn’t come out of thin air. You talk yourself up a lot, saying you’re a rarity, you’re consistent, caring, sweet, but why can’t you just plainly speak on your shortcomings? Why does saying you “could’ve handled things better” have to be followed up with self-praise?

Don’t get me wrong, it’s totally fine to think highly of ourselves and recognize that we’ve got good shit to bring to the table, but we are not perfect. We can all learn more about ourselves, grow, and do better. Breakups are the best opportunities to have some self reflection, especially when you’re broken up with.

Do I think she’ll regret it? Given the circumstances, probably not. I mean this situation sounds like it was fleeting more than anything, not this long term, deep-seated love. Within that time, things became tumultuous and with a partner like you (no offense whatsoever) who seems to be unreceptive or unable to recognize his faults, things become exhausting. It’s hard to miss or regret losing that just because you’re doing well. I also don’t think you should want someone you’ve seemingly hurt to feel regret over losing you, because she was a loss too, you both had value.

[Anonymous]

Hi qqaae. No. She wanted to make it work, so what would she regret?

[Nikki1989]

Sorry, but not at all.

[_Jenny_]

I would be happy for him to succeed

[Anonymous]

You’ll never have to worry about this.