I seem to only find women who prefer chaotic men & women who can't commit to a man. Is this most women nowadays? Or is this just gen z ♀️?

[Anonymous]

I've been stuck in a cycle since 18 to now in my mid-20s. Where I only find women who prefer chaotic/ toxic type of man. Whlist finding those that don't settle also. Is this what most Gen z women want to settle for?

Don't know where to go from here?
Should I give up finding a partner & becoming a dad?

[Anonymous]

I'm in the same boat as you, ASD and all, but I seem to attract athletic middle class women with a sexual lean... they're quite intimidating in looks. For me it's something called Assortative Mating; I attract women who see themselves in me, and vice versa.

Maybe you project a non committal or chaotic vibe, or perhaps you attract the Opposite of what you are; maybe you're so orderly and so committed they think you can make up for both of them.

[Twalli]

I don't think they're drastically different than Gen X and Millennials. I think it has to do with age and maturity. Chaotic and toxic people are more exciting to be with, but they aren't long term partner types. So, when gen z girls are ready to settle down with a long-term partner, they will look for more stability.

[Nikki1989]

Get out and experience the real world. You sound like the typical basement-dwelling anon troll that has hardly met any women, if any at all.

[HollyK21]

Just because you deem yourself the opposite of toxic/chaotic does not necessarily mean that’s why you’re struggling with dating.

[Asker]

Please enlighten me?

[HollyK21]

Basically, there could be other elements as to why you’re single. Attraction, personality, connection, etc, these things matter too. I’d also add that just because you don’t consider yourself toxic or chaotic, doesn’t necessarily mean a woman on the receiving end of your personality would say the same. We are more than welcome to think highly of ourselves, or to feel assured that we are bringing beneficial things to the table, like being loyal, committed, thoughtful, etc. However we can’t control how someone else is perceiving us, and in the areas where you think you are succeeding, you may actually falling short if not lacking entirely.

[Asker]

Well, I'm aware that I don't look like a model i. e avarage looking & I'm disabled with high functioning ASD.

[HollyK21]

ASD, that’s autism right? Do you feel like it impacts your romantic relationships at all? I wouldn’t put too much on looks, because I think that’s more about self/esteem which is something you could actively work to improve.

[Asker]

I have never been in a relationship, so I wouldn't know if it did or not.

All I know is that I have been rejected a lot for having it. That's it because of stereotypes/media & people false ideologies.

No, I just said that "average looking"" because it is truth.

I'm not egotistical/delu, so I say how it is.

[HollyK21]

Gotcha. I feel like this conversation helped to shed some light onto your situation. In your mind, you seem to contribute your bad luck with women to not being toxic or chaotic enough. Instead it seems to be based off women pre-judging your autism. There could be other elements too, I have an ex who was high functioning autistic and it did create some hurdles. In any case, here’s hoping you do find the woman who can look past that and give you a real chance.

[Asker]

It doesn't sound promising for me if he couldn't last the distance. 😕

[Anonymous]

It's all women, but it might be WORSE with gen z considering their poor communication skills.