It's a fact , the more women a guy attracts and has around him , the more likely he is preferred by a woman than a guy who has limited females around him.
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I am not talking about actually pursuing the guy for a relationship or having sex with him. I said what " attracts" women to that.
Anyway , a lot of girls seems to be in denial about it and taking it as a personal case by saying things like " I am not that kind " . Please don't take it personally , even if it's not you , you have certainly seen this happen around you , right?
Why are women more attracted to men who are surrounded my many females than man who are not?
We're not. At least women in their right mind aren't. They girls that do are usually after him for money, sex and to gain some sort of status. That doesn't make him desirable. It's just a power tactic to tell his competitors he is more in power, while turning to women to show us he holds two positions in her life: a pimp or controller of territory. It's like war. And what aninals do to find mates or gain territory. The more territory he gains the more benefits and an advantage over other men he gets. His goal is to basically get a specific high quality woman to invest him to appear more "LARGER" than he is. Though he is likely not high quality than he thinks. So he uses whores and low quality women to surround him.
The ones who have low self esteem helps him to feed his ego. Unless the one who have low self esteem is extremely sexually attractive to him, he will attempt to play up like a gentleman to win her attention and her body. That's It's. Once he has her heart he has everything. While the less attractive girls he will mock and bully to tear down her self esteem to show he has more power and authority over her. This makes other men appear to be intimdated by him. If the girl is not even interested in him or cafe for his personality, he may chase her to enjoy the chase and mystery to feed the broken ego. He knows he can't win with So much a person so he will try to falsely bow down to show he's giving her power just so he can take it from her. If he sees he can't, there are two possible scenarios. Either he shows her respect because he has no choice, or he will treat her as of she is a low quality women even though he knows she is very much more high quality than him and the whores he sufroibfs himself with.
So again, it's never wise to generalize about women. You have to know which type of women are attracted to such men. Usually those who lack self worth go for that type of guy, whether he has money or not.
Asker, attraction is attraction. And for women it's eitger sexual or a soul level attraction just like for men. Nobody here is taking it personally, and nobody here is in denial. The problem isn't that you trying to think like a woman and you're not a woman. We are simply telling you that a lot of women don't actually care about that stuff. We really don't. And many of us is not attracted to that type of guy no attracted to what he's doing, or what he's allowing. Plenty of female uses here have clearly said that, but a lot of you don't seem to pay attention or you're deliberately ignoring what we're saying. We don't care.
We can tell the difference between a player like the one in the picture who is not afraid to ask me to show that he is one, versus a genuine guy that actually is disliked by many women. But the guy that is liked by many women either allows it to get to his head, or he sadly does nothing about it so all the girls that he is interested in don't get the wrong idea, or he will naturally respect any woman because that's just how he was taught. But you will respectfully tell the other women to respect who he's with or just cut them off if they don't respect him. They don't allow feels kind of affections whether they're genuine or vile and get to their head.
Sorry to say. But most of those girls that would say they are attracted to those kind of guys 9 out of 10 times just want to get in their pants and the money. She wants something from him. That's all. Nothing to do with love or attraction. They love you for what you got. Don't have it and they won't pay attention to you. That's reality.
Maybe they are deliberating ignoring what you guys are saying. You can obviously determine the difference between a genuine guy and a player. Women obviously know best and determine everything. That’s best, right? “We don’t care.” Yes, you don’t care. We know. You think you know best, but... Women think like men all the time. What’s wrong with the asker thinking like a woman? They obviously know they aren’t a woman.
Because it hurts the true relationship between both sexes. This is why both sexes think that the other is enemies and why there is a lack of trust anymore. That's what's wrong with it. If you don't want others to make assumptions about you don't make assumptions about another person. That's not proper communication. That's being a jerk and condescending. And he is way off the mark.
And if he doesn't grow out of that type of mentality he's going to God forbid, end up dying a lonely man. Women hate being treated that way. If you don't want to be treated bad, don't treat us that way. Every woman is not the same just like every man is not the same. We are all individuals and we want to be treated as such. Our own individuals. And any guy who treated me like that he lost my respect immediately. He will not exist to me.
If the old proverb says that women are The Gatekeepers of sex, the men are being stupid when they want to make that assumptions about us, and they complain about why their not getting it. This is why I stick to things of the Bible and none of this worldly nonsense.
Women being the gatekeepers of sex is not the problem. And yeah, I know, you don’t care. We are just being stupid. That’s cruel way to put something very serious
So another wish you want me to sugarcoat it and tell you a lie? When you make mistakes and I mean big mistakes, not minor ones, big ones, you mean to tell me you're not going to think that you wasn't being smart? You mean to tell me you wouldn't think that you were being stupid? Because let me tell you something. There were plenty of times where I have made my mistakes and I had to realize and learn to humble myself in order to see what I was being stupid. The truth may be cool but the truth is not something for you to like. The truth is not going to care about your feelings. The truth is the truth. No I don't care because I don't settle for BS. I don't care because I know what reality is. I don't care because I know how God called man to be and I know how he called me as a woman.
Just like I had to learn that a man does not think and feel the same way how a woman does is the same way you men have to realize that we don't think and feel the same way you do. It may not sound like it's a problem to you but that's exactly what you men are complaining about when you're not getting it. You talk about how we're the problem but we're not always the problem. You men just choose not to listen. And when you hear all this toxic negativity not since you're feeding into it and you don't see how detrimental that is too your health no different than it would be for us. You want real answers you speak to the type of person you need to get answers from. But you don't go around the glove thing a person simply because it's not the answer you want to hear. It's the same way how I had to learn to realize that a lot of men's primary desire is to have sex with a woman regardless of how he wants to get it, and the same way a lot of you men have to realize that regardless if we're so called visual creatures or not, we don't come after the sex the same way you men do. That's reality.
And all you men really want is just to have your ego filled. Because of a lot of young men were taking it seriously you would not be having so many problems with women. It is easily avoidable. So many of you and I'm not just talkin about the females because it's a lot of them that do the same thing too. So many of you do so much stupid that it really makes me want to do any of you have any kind of Common Sense. So much so that I can hardly even take any of you seriously. Because you talk the talk but many of you don't walk the walk. Women want action we don't need words. And if we see there's a pattern you can bet we're not going to pay attention to you.
I give plenty of people of fair warning. Do not get yourself into a serious relationship especially am yours if you are not prepared to die to self. Before it will force you to die to self. Life is not going to care if you like it or not. Either we're going to learn the easy way, or the hard way. I got this far in life because I chose not to be ignorant of the things around me. Doesn't mean I have to like it. But I have no choice but to accept it. You want a quality woman in your life you got to earn her no different than we have to earn a quality man, unless he or she herself chooses to give themselves to you. I respect any man who works hard in his life regardless of any stage he is in. But I don't respect those who just want a hand out just because they think don't put the equal amount of work. I don't have much but I still put in the work.
I am not trying to attack you, put you down, just respect you as a man, trying to make you feel low. But you need to understand and learn something. Women are tired, as much does a lot of them are hypocrites, a lot of us can be our own hypocrite, so we judge ourselves just as harshly as we do. We are not perfect you are not perfect. We all human beings and we all have fallen short from the glory of God. But that's when you need God more than ever pivot so that he can mold and shape you to the type of man he wants and needs for you to be. So that way, if you have a true desire to be with somebody, you will attract the right kind of person in your life. But until you have a purpose for your life, and you do all the right things that you need to do for yourself first as a man, is not going to be easy getting the right kind of woman.
The same rule applies to us. You have to fight for the things that you really want. As long as it's for the right reasons and it doesn't affect another person. But you're not going to do that if you don't take it seriously. We are more than willing to understand you why do you think we tend to nag, and ask you questions? It's how we show our love. But if you keep rejecting that, the same way we going to start rejecting you. It takes maturity to have a desire to understand the other.
Yes it's called fisherian runaway selection and is well documented in humans as well as several other species. Experiments have shown that no matter how physically unattractive you make the male he'll still attract females if you surround him with a crowd of them. The belief is if such a male is attractive then he will father attractive offspring who will be just as successful.
I hear you and I'm sure you're right. Although that's how u pick em out. To fall for this type of situation shows their character. Not at all unbelievable. Look who our president is. Most people are susceptible to being followers. Wanting what others want just because others want it? Weak, petty, and blatantly shows no real care. No real interest. Just being a fish.
This is such a crap lmfaoo all these girls saying no and you still spread this trash I don’t understand you type of girls trying to group all of us in with you. Stop.
Really so get a bunch of girls around you and see if other women will want you this is the stupidest crap I have ever read they will want to know what’s going on they will not want weirdos like you. Blocked.
Aphrodite the crybaby just proved my point. Typical.
Funny if I said “I was never that guy” she we would twist it into some other insult.
The bottom line is women want to compete among each other. They “think” men are the same way but most of us don’t like getting pulled into love triangle bullshit. You also don’t see a huge group of guy groupies at female singer concerts. Most of us know that would look pathetic. The chances of a female celebrity pulling a random guy out the crowd go bang are slim to nil (rare exception if she somehow things he’s incredibly cute).
Nope, no matter how lonely a guy is if he is hot I will consider him. And no matter how much attention a guy gets, if he isn't attractive I will pass on him.
I thunk this comes down to some very natural things and then some chainreactions to that. But nothing is as simple as this..
Let say a man have lived and lost then learned across years and now have competence in befriending women by peaking their interest with his charisma/mystique/intellect/physique/etc.. Now, as soon as it starts going well for him he will gain some confidence. Confidence is a very attractive thing and it builds him up, so then he attracts more. And matured guys could also be keeping them as friends. Friendzoned or not.
I think it comes down to truths like; today many men just aren't of very high quality because of social shaming and because they lack the motivation to work on their character. So when there are less men on the market the few men that gets it sticks out and get a lot of attention.
Maybe it seems like that, but it isn't what you think it is!! Usually, they are all with other men, and you are their 'Nice Guy FRIEND' and you are NEVER going to have sex with any of them. Women love having a 'gay' guy friend, or a 'friend' that is male, and NOT AT ALL someone they want to have sex with! You are like their brother, or cousin! That guy usually listens, cares, and knows what they mean, and isn't too bothered by hearing the MALE-BASHING jokes, and Small-Dick jokes!! You are their "Emotional Tampon," when they get dumped by the BAD BOY, and are miles from home, they call you to come 'SAVE' them, get them home, like a good FRIEND! SOOOO many women LOVE those guys, but never have sex with them!! Fine, and PERFECT, if that is what you are looking for!!
It’s kinda the thrill and a competition. Most girls want the guy every other girl wants. Trying to prove she was “the worthy one” to win him out of all the other girls, and/or just to hop on the bandwagon and be able to be known as (if she ever does manage to win him over) the girl that has the guy everyone wants. It’s all really a show and like a competition. Not saying she can’t genuinely like or be attracted to him, but 85% of the time we all know she wouldn’t if everyone else also just seen him as your average guy or a guy who isn’t able to get many women. On top of that a woman’s friends influence her decisions and opinions very well a lot of the time. So if her friends like him for her, she’ll most likely go for it.
Not true at all. Everyone has a chance. All you need is a good personality, be funny and be a good boyfriend. But my point is some girls just go for guys with a lot of attention from other girls or ones that are even in relationships... but that’s just for a chase and majority of the time not even for genuine feelings.
I see. But most women I start chsting ask me first why are you single? Look like If I was not celibate I would have to look for parallel relationship!!!
"... the more women a guy attracts and has around him , the more likely he is preferred by a woman than a guy who has limited females around him."
That's not necessarily true. I actually avoid men like that because I assume he's a player, womanizer, or WAY of my league and not worth dealing with. Basically they're collecting women and/or attention, thus boosting his self esteem and ego.
But to answer your question: people are drawn to what or who is popular. However, that does NOT mean it's good or worth being with.
It's like anything - if its popular with people like you then you assume its good. I think girls think there must be something special about him to attract those women to flock around him. It also might be an ego boost for a girl when he is surrounded by many girls and happens to want you, just like a lot of men like it when their women are desired by many men.
However, I would actually find a guy surrounded by many girls a turn off. I don't date for fun, I date with the intention of a relationship, so I feel it may become an issue later down the line.
Wouldn't it go to reason a good date able guy would have a few women who liked him? Just because a few or even many like him, doesn't mean he can't be monogamous when in a relationship.
@B-radley I didn't really mean it like that. I had more of a stereotypical arrogant guy in my head, who bragged about that kind of attention because those are the kind of guys I have come across. A guy who a few women liked isn't an issue.
And just to say I didn't necessarily mean he wouldn't be monogamous, but it is likely something that would get annoying after awhile, especially if he liked to brag about it or it was in your face. I am pretty sure a guy wouldn't want their girlfriend to be surrounded by men all the time, even if they trusted her.
Women have a herd mentality. They're not as individualistic as men are, they have much stronger group instincts and always tend to go along with whatever the rest of the herd is doing.
I guess because it suddenly becomes a competition between the females and whoever “wins” the guy makes them look better to the girls but personally, I’m not into that because if I’m going to be paying attention to a guy I want, it’s not going to be when I’d just blend into the rest of the crowd of girls who are also swooning over him.
I’ve admired guys who are popular like that but I’ve never wanted to be involved with them romantically/sexually because I feel like I’d just be another girl to them so I automatically avoid it
I'm not even sure if the statement in this question is true, but if so, here is the most plausible explanation. If a man does have multiple women surrounding him because they're interested in him, then, more likely than not, he's extremely attractive and/or has high status. Women tend to like extremely attractive men and/or men with high status. Therefore, it's likely that such women are not interested in him simply because he's surrounded by women, but rather because such men tend to look better and/or have a higher status than the average man, which grants them more attention from women. Personally though, I don't care if a man is surrounded by multiple women. In fact, I find it attractive if a man is sexy and has the confidence to approach me, preferably alone. In fact, I wouldn't even give a man the time of day if he has a harem following him because he's already focusing on plenty other women and I don't want to be a part of the crowd. I want my man to myself.
There are a few things that I think could cause this. The first and most obvious is the more attractive a person is, the more attention they will receive from people who are interested. I actually think it might be more about confidence though. Confidence can be very attractive regardless of physical appearance. If I was considering talking to one of two guys I would most likely choose the one who came off as more confident regardless of who was more attractive. The more attention a guy gets, the more confident he may become, and the cycle would continue like that. I obviously can't speak for all females on this one though, only from my observations.
Well I don't know what you're calling confidence but I have seen guys that were more attractive and that confidence that a lot of women was looking at was actually arrogance and if a woman is attracted to that then she has some mental issues going on because she don't know the difference between confidence and arrogance. Most people that are super attractive have what you call confidence because they know they could just about have any person in the room that is interested in them. But at the same time, that person has a lot of insecurities and faults their looks is hiding that insecurity. A lot of the so-called confident people are broke can't carry a decent conversation nine times out of ten they're always looking for someone to pander to them. Far as I'm concerned they could take that confidence and shove it up you know where because it's no good to me when it comes to paying bills or taking on the responsibility as an adult and paying their fair share and treating people with respect and dignity and I'll look over a so-called very attractive woman because they're high maintenance and not worth my time with their ugly ways and bad attitudes versus a woman that is not that attractive because I know she's not going to treat me like trash and she will appreciate the things that I do for her and she's most likely have a job or a career and she's very well educated and will reciprocate and that's my two cents on the subject.
You're assuming that I can't tell the difference between confidence and arrogance. Maybe at first glance they can be confused for one another, but a truly arrogant person is incapable of hiding their own self righteousness during a conversation. I would be much more likely to approach a person who looks comfortable and inviting, is smiling/laughing, is successfully holding conversations with other people, doesn't avoid eye contact, etc. If I found them to be arrogant after talking to them, I would move on. Some people come by confidence naturally, while some gain confidence through experience as i said in my first comment. Yes the qualities I mentioned can also be seen in someone who is arrogant, but those qualities don't always go hand in hand as you seem to believe. As far as your comments about a confident person being broke and not being able to pay bills, this conversation is only about approaching people. It's not like you can look around a bar and tell who has the best credit scores.
Confidence in what? it's not like you can look around and say that person will be confident in a crisis situation. People have confidence in many different things because of their capabilities of being able to perform them. When it comes to dating, a lot of people have confidence I want to approach a person but that person's attitude may cause there to be shattered. A confident man that feels like he has something to offer a woman will feel confident in those things that they could do. Whether it be providing material things or being able to perform sexually it's all up to the individual and why they are attracted to that person.
This topic has absolutely nothing to do with a crisis situation. The question was why a guy with more females around him may appear more attractive than a guy with no females around him. I am referring to basic self confidence. You can sometimes tell a person's level of confidence by their body language. I mentioned a few nonverbal cues in my last reply. If you don't understand what I'm getting at I would recommend either a little people watching next time you are in public or a quick google search for "how to look confident." I feel like it's completely fair to say that a guy who is used to speaking to females and is comfortable around them will come off as more confident in himself whether this was gained from experience or he came by it naturally. Can this turn into arrogance? Yes. Is that always the case? No. I still stand by what I originally stated that I would be much more attracted to a guy who looks like his having a good time, is laughing, and holding conversations than I guy who is by himself or just with his male friends who is playing with his phone, fidgeting, and not making eye contact with anyone. I am 100% judging people in this scenario at a glance which obviously isn't a great idea if we were talking about relarionships, but that is literally what the question asked for.
It generally starts by approaching two or more women simultaneously with confidence and no expectations. From there they start floating out of no where and introducing themselves on their own. So I’d say confidence, charisma, magnetism, force of personality, or whatever you want to call it. Being good looking, smart, and funny doesn’t hurt either… If it’s a situation that lasts more than a day like work or school, well girls tend to gossip and talk you up if you’re a catch. Other girls get curious...
they are also more attracted to taken guys. This bs is so annoying. It’s about the guy being “approved” by another woman. Players know this and often will stay in a open ended relationship just to pull other women on the side.
Personally I have never been more attracted to a girl who is taken/married unless I extremely disliked their boyfriend. I once had an opportunity to hook up with a very pretty blond girl at a wedding reception. I asked her to hang out afterwards while holding her hand and looking her in the eye. She melted and said “oh so tempting” and her body language said she wanted to. Under her breath she mentioned she had a boyfriend. I immediately responded “oh I didn’t know that. I respect that. Hey you have a good night” and walked off. But I know she WANTED me to insist. But I don’t go there.
But if the roles were reversed would the girl say “I respect that” if the guy is already taken? Much lesser chance.
so I wasn't actually gonna answer but it seems to be some confusion on how this works.
for example I have women friends I party with, or do whatever. In a girls mind I'm more desirable because other women like me, so in a competition sense for some, but it's more so the fact women are comfortable around me and enjoy my company, and they like going into something knowing they'll be comfortable. Where as if you're a single guy, you'll come off as uncomfortable and they'll be more rigid around you until that ice is broken.
I dont know about that but I know I'm competing for no man attention. That's immature and low self esteem. Plus I am yet to meet a pretty boy or a bad boy who his sole focus is to attract women and is loyal, honest, has depth and intelligence at the same time. No thank you.
There are different approaches to explain this problem there is the runaway selection approach in which the man shows other women that he is required so that women rush towards him, thus women become an object to attract others women. There is the risk hedging approach, that is, if a woman has selected it it means that the subject is good so I can even a third person can mate with him. Women appear to copy the mate preferences of other women, but this might simply be because humans have a general tendency to be influenced by the opinions of others.
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I think it's a little comical that so many women are denying this female behavior here. It's not up for debate. Many studies have proven that women find a man more attractive when they know he is taken or they perceive that other women also find him attractive.
I think it might be because the thought that if a guy has more women around him then that shows that he's more likeable then if a guy didn't have a lot of women around him. Maybe its because some girls like the idea that if they start dating the guy then they might feel better about themselves because they were chosen over multiple girls.
I'm not sure what kind of situation or instance you're describing. I haven't seen this happening, and I personally would not want a man who's surrounded by a lot females. I think it's kind of like a bunch of flies around an object. No offense to the man, but it would also become competitive and dramatic to try to be with a man who has too many females wanting him.
For me, I like what I like, regardless of what others like. I won't like a man only because a lot of other females like him. I admire or am attracted to a man only because there's something about him that I like. Same thing I won't wear certain clothes because it's trendy. That defeats the purpose of individuality and uniqueness. I wear what fits my style and taste.
Excellent answer and you're right. I've never seen this happening. Only in the movies. Or possibly because of wealth. People do what they do. Make your choice. Leader? Or follower? Be you.
They think that if that many women want to be around him there must be something attractive about him. It’s like seeing a restaurant with a line stretching out the door versus a restaurant with only one or two customers.
I haven't seen this much so I'm not sure it's as common as some may think; but in the cases it happens I would imagine it goes something like this; it all starts when one girl likes a guy, and she thinks a lot of him so she tells all her friends about him and stuff, so then her friends already have a positive opinion of him when they meet him because after all, their friend likes him so he's got to be alright, and then they see it for them self and it kind of adds up and they end up liking him too or something, and then the cycle continues. Once again take that all with a grain of salt, I'm no mind reader and this is all just how I IMAGINE it might work
I admit it makes me think he is desirable... but not for the reason of being a good partner... I'm not more attracted. I would feelspecial id he wanted me perhaps but not feel safe or trusting. And the attraction is no more than with an unpopular man. If he's type to actually SEEK and entertain attention from WOMEN I will quickly get annoyed and lose interest.
I spent a few years at my job where no girl showed romantic interest in me. But then one eventually did, but when this one did (and made it known to our colleagues), so did a few others within a few weeks 😅 I didn’t see it as a coincidence or that I suddenly became more attractive; my immediate theory was the same as everyone’s theory here (I became appealing to a group by becoming appealing to just one person who made the rest curious suddenly) 🤷🏻♂️
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It is actually a psychological thing. Is something is more desired it is therefore more desirable... especially if it is limited... E. g. a 1 of a kind toy, people like it therefore a person sees it is wanted and starts showing intrest because it is popular to others therefore preserved value. It is the same for people, if someone is liked by many, then other will like them too
That’s actually a HUGE turn off for me. I don’t want to compete for a mans attention. That goes against my primal instinct and evolution. Men should be the ones chasing the women because women have a LOT more to lose when being intimate than a man does. So that is just very strange that women actually WANT to chase men like that.
First over came by contraceptives, and the second is a myth.
To be honest, men and women should feel that there are losing (giving) themselves to others. But nowadays it is so hard to find a woman who is waiting until marriage.
Wow thought all of you would be a lot smarter than what I’m reading. What do women have to lose if she keeps the baby compared to men. Let’s analyze it, didn’t think I would have to.
Women: 1 - umm let’s see 9 months of debilitating - immobilizing body function that will change our bodies some way or another for the rest of our lives. 2 - I know it may be surprising but it is actually scary AS HECK thinking about pushing out a pumpkin sized thing out of my body and how much pain I have to endure to do that and the contractions. 3. money 4. Time 5. Our aspirations put on a hard holt for, most of the time for most women, many years.
Men: 1: money 2: time 3: energy (and that is IF they don’t leave).
If he's surrounded by females then it obvious they are attracted to him for something else. Could be a bevy of reasons, but most likely wealth as this is the most visible. Once a few women are aware of this the others will follow. There can be other reasons, but unless they have a very projected personality, personality isn't likely as this is slow reaching. Fame can be assumed with wealth, but as a separate quality it could lure some women. Physical appearance could be a lure, but it may not maintain the crowds, it may get a few, but if they are model level it may do so. Of these though, a combination of wealth and fame is most likely.
Fuck NO ! I instantly ignore him and lose my interest. He's the one who's letting many women to surround him. He won't be loyal.
If he is very handsome but a genuine guy then he will maintain the BIG distance from those women and won't allow any random female or acquaintance to wander near him. He will be honest and a private type of a guy. That's my kind of guy and the biggest turn on.
Well for one thing women that are attracted to a man that has more females around him tend to want to prove that they are better than the females that is around him or can offer him more than the other females they tend to compete against each other in a silent way but they all have the same intentions on being able to say that they have snagged the popular guy and that their stuff is better than the rest of the women that were around him.
Nothing makes a woman look more desperate and foolish than to be around one of those guys. Unless they start to out twerk each other...
Who knows. I work in a male dominated industry... Like 95% male. Even most of the women are men... And we live in towns or camps that are about 75 to 95% men. I just don't get much of a chance to see this phenomenon. But I would imagine its a competition thing to see who will get the handsome prize... 🤮
Psychology. If a lot of people want something, it's valuable. It's a show of value and a multiple women wanting you is attractive. It also shows you're not needy and you have options. People want what they can't have or something that is a challenge. People are ambitious by nature. You don't need a crowd of women to create this affect though. Treat her like you have options will do the same thing. I'm not saying be terrible to her but don't worship her.
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Most of the women don't have much to offer to the society except looks , they don't get much credit , have much work towards actual socity works or problems... So a guy like that poses a challenge , if she can win she feels some sort of superiority... However our society is changing , current women are contributing towards actual society more so values of those guys are changing. Still there are too many girls are like old times so a guy like that still can get as many as he wants... Look at the life of Charlie Sheen ,,, divorced multiple times , abuser , drug , alcohol , violence , jail , hundreds of women... girls know about him still they throw themselves at him...
I've never been attracted to anyone based on the gender of people they hang out with. My boyfriend has one friend and he is a boy too. Honestly im the jealous type so id be very uncomfortable with him having lots of female friends but id get over it or just assume he was gay
Because men judge a woman's attractivity mostly by genetics. Aka youth, health, fertility.
Women on the other hand have a lot more components that decide what they are attracted to. One is social status since it is a measurement of a quality men who is desirable and can provide. A man who is surrounded by many women implies that these other women are him as high on social status.
Actually, we just like men who look good. I refuse to share. The lazy girls just like men with money because they don’t want to go out and make their own.
It's not a fact, especially seeing that these many girls disagree with it in the comments, including myself. I can be jealous, so it would only discourage me if a guy had many girls around him - even if these girls are only his friends.
Because women are gender-conditioned to be attracted to all forms of power (be it strength, money, status etc). Initially it was biological - a "strong" male will have strong children and be able to defend the cave. Later it was just as simple but with less justification - strong male will make the woman look good, stronger, of higher status, he's a better achievement. It's all ridiculously simple, we are apes.
It's not a fact. But probably what you're referring to is the effect of popularity and the power of the crowd. In practice, many girls would stay away from him. Still, it's difficult not to be influenced by the enthusiasm of others.
Social proof. If a man is surrounded by attractive women, he must be desirable. Otherwise he wouldn't be surrounded by them.
Most men experience this to a small degree at some point in their lives. You all know what it's like to be a young man boy and get your first girlfriend, only to then notice that other women suddenly treat you much better and even hit on you.
Because women lack thought they don't want to think they want others to think for them to take charge of the situation in most cases men but, in this case, it takes one woman with decent qualities they look and go oh she's ok with him so he must be fine even though clearly women are different to each other but that doesn't come into play here right LMFAO.
That’s a turn off for me. I don’t want to have to compete for a man’s attention. Girls who choose to form a circle around a guy like that are bimbos anyways.
I am personally not attracted to "players" but for women who are I would guess its some kind of biological things where you think that if a guy has a ton of potential partners than he must be a good mate.
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It automatically indicates he's a valuable guy at least in some ways and he's for sure not needy or desperate which women want to avoid at all cost. Some women might also enjoy the competition. And if the guy does something bad or turns out to be a total asshole or manipulator, it's comforting if she was not the only victim.
Cause then they can see who gets him first and be the winner. I've seen this too and it really make me not understand woman at all. Like he could be a date rapist or something or like American psycho. But whatever it's the woman's choice really it's never the guys I mean I guy can try but if the woman is not having any of you then she's got the real power
Because if he's got a lot of girls around there must be a reason... and they want a piece... plus girls are extremely catty to other girls... dont believe me.. Go to a bar with some nice clothes on and a wedding ring on your finger... thats 2nd best pussy magnet aside from cash
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I love this question because i was talking the other day about how all women lie and taking flack for it. Yet hete is a prime example. No woman will admit to being drawn to that guy. In fact the claim the opposite. But the truth is most of these chickenheads would be all over that guy. It partly has to do with her need to compete and rank higher than other women. And the fact that a guy who is in demand holds premium value over other guys.
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It's the opposite for me. When I see a guy surrounded by many females, that is a big turn off for me. I can get jealous easily and I don't like fuckboys.
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If someone is into such guys, it's because they think they're so special and wants to feel validated. If the guy chooses one girl out of all , people will automatically assume she's something special. It's a competition where the winner gets the fuckboi
Because they're illogical. Men aren't like that. If I see a girl with a bunch of guys around her, I stay far away. Because she's probably more likely to cheat in the future or leave me for one of them.
Her being loyal despite high desirability would be the ideal right?
There's nothing "illogical" about pursuing a popular person. Love when men throw that word around. Sure, if insecurity and fear of competition is an issue, take that into consideration since most people seem to be as loyal as their options.
He didn't say he was sleeping with them... Having many suitors makes you. whore? Most women have many suitors.. what are you trying to say?
You want a valuable man however you define that. With value comes additional attention from others even if he has nothing to do with them; he can't help what someone else feels about him.
You're good He was vague and maybe that's what he did mean. I interpreted as girls wanted him or that many flocked to him. Not that he meant he was sleeping with all of them.
Mmm if that's the case, I guess the reason is that if many girls like him, then there must be a reason why he's so liked, and more girls wanna find out why that is. Even guys would be proud to date a bombshell who is loyal to them no matter how many other guys wanna be with her.
Girls often don’t even know what they want. And they often choose wrong. And they often come to realize it. You should be unforgiving if that happens to you.
Trophy effect, mate. It doesn't signify your victory but other's losses. Plus social psychology has a lot of crap you can probably use up to reason such happenings.
There are limits to this. If he's seen talking to a few and/or has a few female friends, it is beneficial, but more than that and he's seen as a player or fuckboy.
It's the classic human thing of wanting what you can't have. So if a man is surrounded by many women in their heads it's harder to get therefore they want them
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This isn't necessarily true because there are guys who have lot of female friends but no one of them considers him as fuckable. Usually girls use this guy for approaching other boys he knows. Real players never appear with their groupies in public because it deters high quality women.
Also known as Pre-Selection , it makes a man more attractive and seemingly more valuable in the female POV. Conversely , if a woman is surrounded mainly by men , many men will not bother with her.
I think they look at it as a challenge. And they are probably thinking what does that guy have that makes the women so attracted to him. Plus, girls aren't likely to go for a guy who stands in the corner like a wall flower.
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