Is it normal at 24 to be single with no dating experience yet?

[Anonymous]

Hello, I just turned 24 and have never been in a relationship or a sexual encounter. i’m not someone that guys come up to and compliment or ask out. Which is pretty obvious due to the fact that I’ve never had a boyfriend.

i wouldn’t say I’m ugly, but I wouldn’t say that I’m a super model either. I’m pretty average. I’ve overhead guys my age say that a woman that’s never had a relationship is a “red flag”. So I feel like that’s probably lessening my chances at having one, and most likely not wanting to have a ex with someone on the first date lessens it too.

in school i wasn’t one to look around for the guys attention and I still don’t to this day, but it sort of feels like I’m falling behind. I’m not sure if I should even bother myself with the thoughts of being in a relationship and remain alone for the remainder of my life.

the area I live in is predominantly white, and over the years guys my age here have made it known they wouldn’t date a woman who is mixed or black. So that cuts me out of the picture there. It feels like all signs point towards me not trying to be in a relationship at all.

or maybe I’m just not cut out to be in one in this life. I have classmates from high school in long term relationships/ married/ having kids.

either way it doesn’t really matter, I guess some people aren’t going to receive love or to share love and maybe I just need to accept that I’m one of those people.

[Anonymous]

It's not normal per se. But it's not weird either. And with today's generations and their inability to communicate it's become more normal.

It's not a red flag. At least iit's not in the sense that there's anything wrong with you. Those guys likely mean if a woman never dates than it's a red flag that she's too hard to please. And holding that view is their gailing not yours. It's as WRONG as women who view a guy is undateable for the same reason.

[whosnumber_1]

Have you put yourself out there? Have you asked any guys out? Are you flirting with guys?

You are still young, 24 is young. I wouldn't worry too much about your age but maybe you need to work on putting in the effort to meet someone

[Asker]

I attempted to put myself out there, but the guys in my city have let me know time after time they wouldn’t date someone that is black

[whosnumber_1]

I feel your frustration, but as a white guy I know I would date someone black and I did once. So there is a whitey out there for you. There is no black dudes around? Not one?

[Asker]

Other than my own brother, no.

[Nikki1989]

No, not really. Everyone I grew up with were actively dating by the age of 14.

[Asker]

Oh… nice. Some in the weird one, got it

[I_love_Capybaras_29]

heh, the ones I went to school with were dating at eleven.

[MissSunshine2]

It's a bit later than usual, but nothing that would cause concern.

[genericname85]

Do you want to be "normal" or do you want to have dating experience? What's your priority?

[Asker]

Honestly, not even sure anymore. It’s probably best I don’t date at all, let alone have the experience.
If it hasn’t happened while I was in school, it’s most likely not meant for me

[genericname85]

That's not a reasonable assumption to make. A better approach would be to first clarify wether you want it or not and if you don't, that's fine but if you do, you should think about the things you're not doing and start doing them.

[julia0220]

i say single yes but no expirence i don’t think so are you a active person?

[Asker]

An active person? Such as?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No, but it doesn't matter. Don't live your life by what others are doing or thinking as that is a big mistake to make.

[Anonymous]

No, but it could be worse. I'm 28 and haven't even gotten a girls number.

[Tomislav7]

Im almost 32, at this point it would be too awkward to try

[Malwi93]

lol im 33 i never been in a really serious relaitonship or crazy in love

[Tomislav7]

@Malwi93 ok but im gay and everyone knows it but my mom

[I_love_Capybaras_29]

I mean hey, Sunday Kalogeras is 23 and has not dated a single person and man is she gorgeous.

[Asker]

I have no idea who she is

[NathanDavis]

it is common

[In_Trance]

Not normal