How can a shy, quiet girl actually get a boyfriend if guys overlook her?

[Anonymous]

I do talk but still labeled as quiet.
ironically I’m alone all the time cuz I have no boyfriend or husband next to clingy following me 24/7 in a serious relationship chatting laughing.
As I don’t have that I’m alone with a serious face , not cuz I’m shy but cuz I don’t have a boyfriend. And my face is serious cuz I’m unhappy lonely bored sad hate being alone. Obviously my face won’t be smiling 24/7 cuz I’m alone thinking in my head.

i have no family no siblings so im alone.
I get told im nice , sweet, cute, quiet.
I make first move on guys whole life.
I’ll reply back if I talk to someone and continue convo. I wave hi bye to many.
I smile at people but people have bitch faces.
I still get told Im quiet or if im walking in public guys will mimick my serious face and make an aloof face which is weird.

I just am not chatting to a guy nonstop at a super fast speed saying millions of stories per sec, my life is boring I have no interesting stories to say.
but I’m not mute either. I’m flirty but guys aren’t flirty.

What you need do to be considered not queit? Curse? Yell 24/7? Say a million stories per sec to a guy running your mouth nonstop 100 mph to finally no longer seen as shy?

[Anonymous]

Honestly I don’t think it’s that you’re quite just reading what you wrote. There’s more to it. A lot of men like women who are shy, that innocent look. You don’t sound like that. I think there’s more reasons as to why you’re almost 30, still single.

[midnightmoon05]

I shared a lot and it seems very repetitive… that sounds like something is off.
Yiu are posted as anonymously… so tell us your height, weight.

your behavior is not friendly and that will drive guys away.

if what you have been doing is not working… go on YouTube, learn some skills with how to meet people.

start making some changes… if you don’t want to be alone. we can all change if we want to.

[Asker]

All guys say im sweet.

[midnightmoon05]

How nice.

And?

[Nikki1989]

The real issue isn’t that guys “don’t want” shy girls; it’s that they often don’t notice them because shyness hides all the signals that say “I’m open to being approached.” Shy girls often give off neutral or closed-off signals without meaning to, so guys assume she’s not interested.

[Asker]

I approach guys first tho
. I talk first. Me walking alone to the store don’t mean I’m closed off . I’m walking alone with a bitch face as I’m lonely bored sad no man is next to me , not cuz I’m closed off.

[Kaneki05]

You probably just don't seem into them, which any guy who's decent won't push.
I don't know how you are flirty so... can't say on it.
As for if your life is boring, ask them questions rely on theirs. Plus they're is us guys who love to talk, honestly not sure how you can't get one.

[Asker]

Wdym I don’t seem into them? Isn’t talking a sign I like them? To me making the first move means I like them or else I wudnt be talking? What else I need say or do to show I’m interested?

[Asker]

I want a clingy guy , so it feels like no one is into me as no one is clingy 24/7 with me. I feel
Opposite. I’m magically waiting for a guy be clingy for me

[Kaneki05]

Ya know how many of us clingy guys would love you? Many so I don't know.
If the first move is you simply talking to them that's not really seen as one, it can be a indicator I suppose but a lot girls will just talk to have a friend or to not be bored so not really.
Well if you want to direct you can be, a guy is not going to take offence or anything but if you want to be more discret that's where the issue arises.
And again it depends how you flirt.
Also guys aren't allowed to be clingy right away even if we want to be, we don't want to come across as creepy or something.

[Asker]

So what I need do to show I’m interested?

[Kaneki05]

Flirt more, make them aware you are single, linger thoughts about being with someone. A guy should play into it if interested

[Asker]

Wdym linger thoughts about being with someone?

[Asker]

All guys I meet aren’t clingy. Guys work daily and only meet me 1x a wk or 2x a month. Sometimes work daily only one day off.

[Kaneki05]

If you put out things indicating you are wanting someone, a guy may take the chance to get close as he sees himself as one could be that someone.

[Kaneki05]

Busy working guys I suppose

[Asker]

Each time I show I want a guy they never r clingy and im alone

[Kaneki05]

Hmm well plenty of us clingy guys exist so you'll find one somewhere

[Asker]

I’m
28 still have not met a guy I like to be clingy obsessed for me

[Kaneki05]

I'm not sure how...

[Brian5]

I don’t know how old you are but i have been Married for some years and also have 2 daughters that I have seen grow into adults. I have always went by the rule of don’t try so hard because the best relationships come out of chance meetings that are unexpected. Personally if I were you i would find an activity that you are truly passionate about and concentrate on that some activity where you interact with people with your same interests. Not expecting to meet anyone. Over time Someone will notice your passion and it will make you stand out to that person and they will see you for who you are when you are in your element. The attraction will come out of admiration not necessarily looks. When you meet that someone the shyness you will not think about and the conversation will flow effortlessly.

[MountainMetal]

Here's the honest truth. Most people are afraid of rejection. Shy people like to operate on signal flares, and a large part of the population is anxious and worried about misreading signals.

Here's another honest truth, the type of man that would be interested in you wouldn't be clingy, they would view you as a puzzle they want to solve. Clingy men are anxious and trying to decode a Shy person's signals while constantly being afraid of rejection is a recipe for disaster

[jahaims]

It's not because you are shy. Most guys don't mind a shy woman. If you have no friends and have never been in a relationship you have other things going on you don't notice. If you are at least average looking you should have no problem approaching guys and hitting on them if you are having issues.

[Asker]

I approach guys. But y I never get a clingy guy? I’m always alone and seems all girls r 24/7 with a guy. I’m clingy I don't know y no guy is clingy for
Me

[Anonymous]

A lot of guys like shy girls as girlfriends. Are you Latina? Try a white guy. I’ve heard a lot of Latino guys (though not all) prefer extroverted girls.

[Asker]

Why white guys like quiet girls? One guy I’m seeing is a white guy. He is very calm soft spoken. But I don’t see him often as we live far apart and we both work long hours

[Opinion Owner]

I’m not sure. It just generally seems to me that Latino guys prefer more outgoing girls. But that’s just a generalization and might be a factor of socioeconomic class as well as race. But yes, to answer your question, there are plenty of guys who like quiet girls.

[Opinion Owner]

That white guy you’re seeing sounds perfect for you.

[Veronika_p]

I'm a very shy person too, and everything you said is true

[Danny_dan92]

She needs to either continue waiting or break out of her shell and throw herself onto men until one “bites”

[Asker]

I always make first move, so how is that not throwing mylsef

[Danny_dan92]

I didn’t specify it wasn’t

[glennos89]

Just accept who you are. If you are quite then so be it. I think a lot of guys wouldn't mind to have a quite girlfriend. I know I wouldn't mind at all

[samael_kmarty]

Guys actually like quiet girls.
Someone like me will prefer a quiet girl over a over active girl.
I would love if she enjoys my company and silence.
Or enjoy the things I can do for her.

[HighValue]

I like clingy girls with good morals, but I am only interested in ones that are into gaming.

[genericname85]

you don't have to act on the assumed identity of the "quiet girl" all the time. break out of it from time to time to be noticed.

[In_Trance]

If you want it, you need to get after it. If you don't, it's a waiting game. In which case, your guess is as good as anyone else's

[Anonymous]

What does common sense tell you? If guys are not coming to you. Then you have to... what?

[Asker]

I make the first move always

[Opinion Owner]

Then you are asking the wrong men. When women get rejected it's for one of two reasons. 1. They're punching above thier weight. I mean, i'd like to date Scarlet Johansson. Who wouldn't! But Scarlet Johansson wouldn't cross the street to spit on me, and i know that. Understand? The 2nd reason. She isn't really asking. So many women consider asking a man out beneath them. So they hint aggressively (or so she thinks) but in reality she don't because she don't even want to do that. So in her mind she asked him out. But in reality not only did she not ask him out, she didn't even make her interest clear.
Rejection is part of the game. At BEST a man is rejected 9 times out of 10 everytime when he asks a woman out 9 TIMES!!! And again, that's at best! It could be a lot more. If you can't stmoach at least a 90% failure rate. Don't look for sympathy from us.

[ThisSiteSux]

You can't. You will die alone. A guy will never pay attention to a quite boring girl

[Anonymous]

I'm in a similar situation.

[Anonymous]

I’m also all alone

[leviopperman]

you're probably just not hot