How can I find a girlfriend as a shy introvert with low confidence?

[Anonymous]

I really struggle at dating and i have been single for a long time. I am introvert and not really confident in approaching girls. But i want to get better at this and overcome it. What to do?

[InknKink]

Go on a lot of dates with the singular objective of showing up and being genuine. Be an awkward and introverted nerd with low confidence. Experience will teach you things over time and maybe you'll eventually find that you're not what you thought you were...

Familiarity breeds comfort but in order to get there you need to walk the line first.

Best start getting on with it now because the longer you put it off the more uncomfortable it'll get. You're currently building your comfort zone and it's not where you want it to be...

[Calyptomaniac]

The only way to get better at it is to go do it. Sitting at home doesn't magically fix things. It won't go well every time. All you can do is try again when it doesn't. Experience teaches you what to do and what not to do but try to be casual, don't sound like you rehearsed things, make eye contact. Don't be awkward etc.

[MrChinaski]

Standard approaches are: sports, volunteeer work, clubs and community organisations, study, work, religious groups.

My advice, though. Think about why you have low confidence to approach. If it is just that you are shy, then experience will improve that. But underlying low confidence is often low belief in oneself. If so, do things that challenge you and make you feel like a better person. For your own sake, not with the intent of meeting people.

[Nikki1989]

You need to combine gradual confidence-building, authentic connection, and putting yourself in the right environments. Once you figure that out, anyone can meet people.

[Abbycado]

I’d suggest doing something social with a group or few friends to help ease into meeting new people.

[Anonymous]

I have the same issues, but I'm almost double your age... don't be like me.

[In_Trance]

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