Is it better to lie?

[Anonymous]

Let's say you're in your thirties as a man and still a virgin and never had a relationship, let's say by some miracle you find someone who is finally interested in you should you be honest about your lifetime celibacy and scare them away or is it better to lie and say you had some little experience?

[Anonymous]

I have to sort of disagree with @calyptomaniac. While lying isn't good, and i wouldn't direct lie if i were you. I'd give a lie of ommission. NEVER bring it up you inexperience. If she brings it up, change the subject. If she is persistent and leaves you no choice, THEN bold face lie. What @calyptomaniac doesn't understand or doesn't want to admit is that SOME women act the same way about a man's inexperience as a man acts at a woman's :::cough::: OVER-EXPERIENCE. Since neither gender is going to change you have to do what you have to do. Don't think of it as lying. Think of it as protect her for her poor judgement. The same women defend lying to a man about all the men she's slept with.👍💯

[Asker]

Yeah exactly it would most likely be a lie by omission on something I will surely by judged for, so better keep it to myself

[Opinion Owner]

I get it man, you WANT to be honest. Good men do! When i was young i had to learn the hard way the number of women who will accept a man completely and without judgement is tiny. So a guy has to navigate this gingerly. Just remind yourself, "she doesn't need to know everything about me". In fact with most women, the more mystery you have the better.👍

[Asker]

Alright I will keep that in mind thanks 👍🏽

[Calyptomaniac]

How do you think lying is ever good for a relationship? You have to admit it eventually or keep it up forever and what good is going to come from that? Besides, do you think she wouldn't figure it out the first time?

[Asker]

I know it's never wise to build a relationship on a lie but It wouldn't be a big lie just avoiding saying having zero relation experience, and I didn't think she would figured it out I mean as long as she doesn't ask details

[Calyptomaniac]

I more meant if you're a virgin, that'll be relatively easy to figure out. The relationship part less so but if you really know it's not wise to start on a lie, then you already know the answer to your question.

[Asker]

I tought if it was an lie by omission it wouldn't be that bad, yeah now that I think about it she will certainly figure out the virgin part

[Nikki1989]

Do you seriously think you can fake it?

We can post a virgin from a mile away. You can spot them on here just from a few words on the screen.

[Asker]

Seriously? I didn't think it was this easy to spot I thought only inexperience in bed could maybe give it away

[Chloe_Jones]

Lies end up catching you out so better to always be honest and truthful

[Asker]

I mostly agree but what about a lie by omission?

[LazerBean]

A relationship built on lies will always be an inferior one.

[Asker]

I will agree but also maybe too much honesty in the beginning can also kill it, I don't plan to hide my inexperience forever but feel it's early to let it be known

[Abbycado]

Don't lie. That is never worth it. Rather he be honest with me.

[Asker]

What if it scare them away? Going back to the loneliness again would be horrible

[Abbycado]

I don't know why that would scare them away. We were all beginners at some point.

[Asker]

Someone see it as something being wrong with you if you never had any experience this late in life and honestly can't blame them

[jamesgoldman]

Trust me the signs will be evident so better to be honest

[exitseven]

I would tell the truth