Is it normal to view another guy as competition for a woman I like?

[Anonymous]

[melnc]

If I were you, I wouldn't even step into that nonsense. If she truly wanted you, there'd be no dragon to slay, no princess to save... this ain't a movie. Don't shrink yourself for anyone. Your real value is only seen by the people who truly love you. Stop feeding her ego. Let her have the clown. You don't need that childish drama.

[MissSunshine2]

I guess so. Are you in competition?

[Asker]

I guess so, both this guy and I like the same woman, he's older, more mature, and confident.

[MissSunshine2]

What matters is who she prefers. Who does she prefer?

[MissSunshine2]

Do you know?

[Asker]

Not really, she's friendly with both of us.

[MissSunshine2]

So, you both like her and you both want her to make up her mind which guy she's chosen, correct?

[MissSunshine2]

If this be the case, then you're going to have to both put an end to your uncertainty by both approaching her and asking her to choose her favourite guy to date.

[MissSunshine2]

Do you think you can do this?

[Asker]

I guess that's pretty much the jist, yeah. She'll be talking to both of us and he'll act all charming like, like when she asked for a towel at the pool, he grabbed it first and was like "Here you go, my lady". Or compliment her like "Your hair looks good today, my lady", using that he's more of a confident talker than I am.

[MissSunshine2]

So, are you all friends? He sounds like a bit of a tool.

[Asker]

She's a friend to both of us, she met us at different points in her life.

[MissSunshine2]

I still think the same thing, that you're going to need to put yourself out there and ask her out. She may not even know that you're keen on her.

[Asker]

Seems he wants to show me up, he had challenged me to a dance off not too long ago.

[MissSunshine2]

I've honestly never found myself in that situation, where two guy friends were competing over me, but if they were, as her and I'm certain I'm not her, I'd appreciate honesty.

[MissSunshine2]

A dance off? Okay, yes it sounds like he wants her. But she's female, I'd imagine she's picked up on his behaviour and yet she hasn't asked him out.

[Nikki1989]

Are you really that insecure?