My new boyfriend wants me barefoot on a fancy date—red flag or cute quirk?

[Anilynbabe]

I have a boyfriend who I like a lot. We just started dating a few weeks ago. He's smart and cute; he has a big heart, and he treats me great. We're going out tonight after he gets off work. He asked me to go barefoot on our date tonight. We're going to dinner at a nice restaurant and then an upscale dance club or bar afterward. He won't be barefoot. He just wants me to be barefoot. I'm inclined to do it, but I haven't decided for sure yet. I have a couple of pairs of cute barefoot sandals, including the ones in the picture, that I can wear. I've just never had a guy ask me to go barefoot on a date with him before.

One of my pairs of barefoot sandals

[HawkPerception]

Iunno... personally sounds like a red flag to me, but you're a grown woman. It's your call to make. If it seems sketchy, then don't do it. I can understand if he wants to dance with you and doesn't want you in heels or something, but if that was the case he would just recommend you take them off in that moment. You can just take some flats.

If it were my daughter or sister, (if I had a daughter or sister), I'd tell them to run and not look back.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I wouldn't recommend going barefoot, simply because feet absorb through the skin, walking around barefoot on a ground where many have stepped in dog shit, bacteria and garbage with their shoes and rubbing it all around the ground for you to then come through and absorb I through your feet, well it doesn't sound like a good idea, if anything wear this over some sandles or slides or something.

[FreyaRed]

If it's a beach party then it's okay.
Otherwise, I wouldn't want walk barefoot on in restaurants or night clubs, even the idea is disgusting,
He is probably a footfag and those guys are weirdo. You should wear some pelt boots for this date. lol

[Anilynbabe]

There wouldn't be a question about it if it was a beach party. He wouldn't even have to ask me to go barefoot. I would just do it. But this is different. He wants me to do something that will be noticed... that I would be the only person doing at these places. The idea is appealing to me because it is so outside of the norm.

[FreyaRed]

Walking barefoot over dirty tiles, dried chewing gums and glass particle. When you like, do it.

[Anilynbabe]

I would certainly have to pay attention where I'm walking. But, I think I'm going to do it. I'm curious how he will react... taking me out to a nice restaurant and bar while I am barefoot with jewelry on my little bare feet.

[EmmaMary]

Personally I would be extremely careful in agreeing, for you don't know him that well and also don't know where this might end.

He might just have a bookful of other extremely weird fetishes.

[Anilynbabe]

Gosh, it does make you wonder what other fetishes he might have. The think is, I'm interested in finding out what else there might be. He seems like a great guy and he's wonderful to be with.

[EmmaMary]

@Anilynbabe

In that case please do take care and stay safe. x

[Anilynbabe]

I will. And as you can probably tell, I've decided I am going to go on our date tonight barefoot and wear my barefoot sandals that are in the picture I shared at the beginning of my post.

[EmmaMary]

Wishing you a lovely safe evening.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you so very much indeed for the MHO. x

[bowenw]

I would call it a potential red flag. He may have fetishes, as others have said, which may not be a bad thing if you are into them too. He may also be testing to see how much he can control you. Again, that is only a bad thing if it's something you do not want. There are people that like to be a subordinate in a relationship, but if you don't, be sure to make it known.

[genericname85]

That's some pretty damn weird locations to bare foot... I mean even if he's the greatest guy on the planet, I wouldn't do something that absurd for them.

[Anilynbabe]

It is definitely different. I think that's one of the reasons I've pretty much decided I'm going to do it. I think it's going to make me feel a little more sexy... being barefoot in these places where you wouldn't normally expect to see a barefoot girl.

[genericname85]

Yeah it's also a great opportunity to get your soles injured... You do you. Like if you don't go bare foot all the time, your feet will not be able to take it. You need to train for that shit.

[exitseven]

Most nice restaurants will not let any barefoot people even enter. No Shirts , No shoes, No Service.

[Anilynbabe]

Yes, I've thought about that. I'm going to take a pair of t-strap thong sandals with me in my small purse, just in case I need them to get them in the door. Then I can remove them after we are inside. But I'm hopeful I can get in while I'm just barefoot.

[exitseven]

@Anilynbabe don't step in any dog poo.

[DonaldDarko]

It's probably harmless.

[Alex-Snow]

Most restaurants will not let barefoot people in their establishment. He must have a foot fetish... are you ok with that?

[Calyptomaniac]

Odd but that's up to you...

[Anilynbabe]

I agree it's a little odd, but I'm intrigued for some reason, and I think I might try it.

[Pretendingtobesweet]

Does he have foot fetish?

[Anilynbabe]

I think his request confirms for me that he does. He pays a lot of attention to my feet when we are alone together. It's something I enjoy a lot... the different things he does with my feet. I'm a girly girl who loves to wear strappy sandals, skirts, and bare midriff tops. But this is the first time he's asked me to go barefoot anywhere with him.

[Anilynbabe]

I did go barefoot on our date, the restaurant and club we went to afterward both let me in, no problems or questions at all. He most definitely has a foot fetish. His reaction to me during the date was so sweet and caring, and he was on top of the world. I guess I'm going to be getting a few more pairs of strappy sandals, barefoot sandals jewelry, anklets, and toe rings.

[AngryCarl3]

No one wants to see your gnarly feet dude.

[Anonymous]

How does your feel look? And his?

[Anilynbabe]

I think my feet look pretty... I have nice arches and I keep my toenails painted and shiny. For some reason, I kind of want to do this for him... and for me.

[Opinion Owner]

How does his feet look

[Anilynbabe]

They're typical, I guess, for a 25-year-old guy. But he won't be going barefoot. Just me.

[Opinion Owner]

How big are your feets

[Anilynbabe]

I wear size 6.5 or size 7 (US), depending on how the shoes or sandals are made.

[dudeinohio]

He's probably turned on by feet.