Why do you think a lot of men struggle in the dating game what's the fundamental issue?

[Anonymous]

Subpar social skills

The settings aren't conducive enough

Not enough single women

Not physically attractive enough

Bad luck

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[InknKink]

a lot of guys approach situations thinking it's a predetermined negative rather then just assuming a positive outcome until told otherwise. They don't take the risk.

Unfortunately for men, women won't make a move unless they're given the opportunity and a lot of guys today are too afraid to screw up, get rejected, or otherwise look stupid.

It likely doesn't help that men/boys today get a lot of the sexual frustration dampened by using porn, while women equally seek out social media in order to meet their social requirements and gain a false sense of personal value.

The reasons my generation had for interacting and taking those risks are more or less negated by tech consumption today and this prevents guys from learning important social skills such a communication and seduction.

The whole male/female dynamic is kind fucked for this generation given nether is really being forcefully pushed to interact and learn how to find common ground.

Also, society as a whole seems to have misaligned it's values in a way that pushes women to seek out futures that make it hard for them to find partners that meet basic romantic requirements. What women and men find attractive in one another has not changed much over the years but the lives we live have gone in opposing directions.

Honestly, everything seems to be working against young men when it comes to dating which equally fucks women. An increased sense of value from women. A lower sense of value from men. Misaligned social objectives for both. And very little reason for ether to find common ground.

[OneViewpoint]

Most men these days are not men. They lack confidence and social skills. They are out of shape and have no sense of style. They have zero achievements in life. They can't take rejection.

[nastyb]

the only one on here who isn't afraid of stating the truth... I find that the old generation such as yours dont tend to be this way. Back then, people tried harder to work on themselves... nowadays people just expect everything but put in nothing

[OneViewpoint]

@nastyb ,

We have become a society where a lot of people feel entitled to instant gratification with no effort. They think they can sit on their ass and click their way to success. Life doesn't work like that.

[nastyb]

yea... back then people actually wanted to become better husbands and wives. Nowadays, people go into marriage only as long as it serves them and their selfish needs.

Men treated women with respect during courtship, now men just sit on the first date wondering when he will get to lay her.

back then, people left their front doors unlocked. Nowadays, every door has to be locked.

[Anonymous]

Most guys who complain about not being able to find a woman tend to be less attractive, socially awkward, passive aggressively hateful toward women. And a lot of them have High standards

[Anonymous]

Most women today are simply not dating material. I mean could men learn to be better partners? Of course! But it would be completely pointless if most women how no interest in being partners at all.

Men's real problem today is they trying to revive a dynamic that is dying or already dead. The best thing a man can do is to learn what he's willing to accept, what he willing to tolerate for women. And then just live his life.

[Staximus]

It’s a different problem for different people

[Staximus]

I’d say it mostly depends on being at the right place at the right time and social skills

[Alex-Snow]

Social media screws it up

[Maria1986z]

Sounds like bad luck.

[Anonymous]

They need confidence