Should I date a 41-year-old man with 2 kids when I’m 28 and childfree?

[Anonymous]

Funny story, soo... We saw each other once in my previous work, his friend cancelled on him so he came for call-out in my building. We chatted but then I've never saw again. Until I changed the work, 6months later he came to my other building.. we didn't know from where we knew each other and there was this tension but that's it. Two months later he came again and this time he stayed for coffee, got my number and since been 8days we spent almost everyday together, it clicked so much like we have known each other for years.. But I'm 28, he is 41 and has 2 kids already.. Still married but finalizing divorce next month. I have this thing in the back of my head he had the wedding, first and second child already, the love which I never had and always wanted but on the other hand he is amazing.. What do you think about dating someone with family already?

[slatyb]

No one can make that decision but you. What do you want? Do you want a family of your own? Would you be comfortable with a blended family? You children would have to share him. How would you feel when he was giving attention to his other children? You might want to talk through this with him, or with a friend or a professional counselor.

[Alex-Snow]

You will have challenges and are you ready to be a possible step mom? He may not want any more kids and are you ok with that. I would wait until his divorce is finalized. You will be taking on a lot but it is your choice. Are you sexually attracted to him at all?

[Anonymous]

do all the work raising someone else's kids? so they can have a lighter workload? maybe pay for them too? so it's not as expensive for the parents to raise them?

maybe by the time you are in your 40s, you find yourself married to a senior citizen with a dick that doesn't work and someone you are completely not attracted to?

[Kvass]

Old... with kids.. well.. I wouldn't settle for less at my young age, but it's up to you.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't. I mean, nothing wrong with dating a man older. Nothing wrong with dating a man with kids. But a man signoficantly older WITH kids? I'm suspicious of his sincerity. Too many things out of place to me. He must be really attractive for you even to be considering this.😆

[Abbycado]

If you are okay with it, that's fine. It wouldn't be something I would be interested in.

[northerngal]

I do not think GAG can answer this one... only you can.

[Anonymous]

I certainly wouldn't do it, especially at our shared age.

[Anonymous]

If you like him and are ok with his kids

[MasterKS]

use him for sex first.