Are long-distance relationships actually worth it in the long run?

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JHNS98 · Accepted Answer

Make sure that at least one of you has adequate resources - both monetary and temporal - to visit the your partner at least once. And access to a car is a plus because it gives you travel flexibility.

You can build connections over text, but you'll eventually want to meet up for your first date, and maybe multiple after that. I recently built a great connection with a woman a coupkle of years ago, but we couldn't sustain it as neither of us wanted to commit the resources to travel to the other. Only a year prior with connecting to her, I connected with another woman on a dating app. We talked and told eachother some wild stories, but she could never make time to meet me.

She works as a nurse in small-town public elder care, which is extremely understaffed and underfunded. So understaffed, in fact, that she actually said to me that she barely has any time to meet friends, even local friends, let alone date a guy living 900 miles away.

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

Depends. Deployed soldiers with wives and kids have to do it all the time. What would you suggest for them? Likewise, if the long distance thing is because of a 6 month career need to be somewhere else, there's an end in sight. But open ended pen pal situations over the internet with no clear path to anything? Dumb generally. Unless both people are happy just being pen pals and the occasional nude pic.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I believe that if you love the person and you have self discipline not to cheat but to wait for them that yes, it's worth it.

Just thinking about all of the people who are in relationships with a person who is in the military and away for a long time. Would you just dump them or wait for them to come home?

HollyK21 · Accepted Answer

I think it only works if there’s a silver lining. Like maybe they’re apart for a few months at a time, or maybe they met in person, then have temporary distance with the assurance that one will move closer to the other with certainty, not just hopes and wishes. Otherwise it’s like having a glorified penpal.

Simslover92 · Answer

It can be if one is willing to eventually close the distance.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I think they are a huge challenge due to not being able to see each other IRL. Sure video chat (and sex I guess) is ok but it is not the same as seeing each other irl. Are you involved in an LDR. If so how is it going?

stevenkelly · Answer

long-distance relationships can absolutely be worth it in the long run, but distance itself isn't what makes or breaks them.

exitseven · Answer

If there is some sort of endgame where the two of you will be able to end up together and both people are committed to making it work it can be worth it. Otherwise it is just heartbreak

WhitneySnow · Answer

Most of them don’t work out in the long run, but if you really love the person, don’t give up. You could be the exception.

queenofcardio · Answer

Only if one of you are willing to move, it's generally a waste of time.

Nikki1989 · Answer

They only work about 5% of the time, and I’m being generous with that estimate.

lilBigPotato · Answer

Personally I'd never start a new relationship as long distance relationship.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

To stay long distance permanently? Or with a view of being together sometime? How often do you actually see them in the flesh?

EmmaMary · Answer

Personally I've always considered them to be a complete waste of time.

Staximus · Answer

Maybe if you see each other in person regularly, but if it’s just two people talking on the phone and computer then that’s bullshit and not a real relationship

Anonymous · Answer

long distance relationships where two people have no deadline of being together physically is a total joke.

bowenw · Answer

They can be provided there is an end in sight where it will become an in-person relationship.

Dnice1 · Answer

Yeah they can be quite the challenge to make things work in some cases though

genericname85 · Answer

if there's a realistic path to closing the distance not too far in the future, they can be.

Anonymous · Answer

Long run no. I had 3 or 4 on the go at once when I was in the army.

Anonymous · Answer

Just like regular relationships, if they work out.

shortster · Answer

Not unless there is a clear end to the distance and you started close.

Starwisper23 · Answer

Not in my experience. I may be bitter but I always thought he was talking to others while away

MrChinaski · Answer

Low cost, low reward.

In_Trance · Answer

That depends on your sense of value

rgb008 · Answer

Not at all.

Angeldreamer · Answer

In my opinion, no. It’s way too difficult

TonyMetal___1986 · Answer

Hardly worth it...

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes 👍🏻

dudeinohio · Answer

I don't think so.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes hands down

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